Padriag
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I can suggest several plausible causes... though it would be impossible for me to say which applies to anyone in particular without knowing that person.
I can split most into one of two groups. The first group is sexual in nature. Its a turn on during sexual situations... if used elsewhere it would seem inappropriate or at least wouldn't generate the same reaction in the submissive.
1) Because its taboo -- simple case of it being a turn on because its something you normally aren't supposed to say or be called. People sometimes get very turned on by doing things they aren't normally supposed to. It can create a feeling a freedom, intimacy (because you only share this with someone special), etc.
2) Because it triggers fantasy images -- in some cases certain words have become associated with fantasies and hearing them triggers a whole set of feelings and ideas which in turn create a sexual reaction (assuming the fantasies were sexual in nature). Maybe being called a "wench" triggers a pirate fantasy, or being called a slut triggers a hooker or stripper fantasy.
The second group is non-sexual in its general nature, even though it may emerge in sexual situation... that is, its not limited to sexual situations only and the root causes aren't sexual in their primary cause.
1) Because it matches an inner identity -- some people inwardly really see themselves as sluts... whores... pigs... or what have you. That inner image is who they really believe themselves to be, regardless of how they are outwardly seen. This can cause personal conflict and frustration... particularly in cases where the individual is normally treated with respect, desire, etc by most people, but don't feel they deserve it because of their inner identity. Having someone call them names and treat them as a slut, a dog, etc. can give them a feeling of release... and genuine acceptance. Brehm's theory of cognitive dissonance goes a long way to explaining this particular behavior.
2) Because it helps them get into the right headspace -- again this has to do with associations people make... sometimes hearing certain words, being called certain names helps put a submissive in a more submissive headspace... just as an athelete might focus on certain words, thoughts or activities before a game to get themselves in the right headspace. People are funny creatures, sometimes we need a kick to get us there... that might be a crop across the ass or hearing the right kind of name calling.
3) Because its become a term of endearment -- people sometimes take words with otherwise very negative meanings and give them very positive ones. That might be calling a submissive a pet, a whore, a slut (or slutling) or any of a wide array of other terms people use.
People are such complicated critters.
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