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RE: slave training - 4/23/2009 1:38:39 AM

HollywoodExecDom

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Honestly, slave training is a complete fiction in some sense. "Slave training" is merely a term by Doms to subjugate their submissive by fostering the idea that they have knowledge, you do not, and consequently, you need them to provide you with that knowledge and train you.

But its sort of like the "Pet Rock." Its just a rock, there is nothing special about it, its not like it really is a pet. But give it the label "Pet Rock," and dress it up a bit and it takes on a meaning of its own.

So subs... stop thinking you need "training" to be a sub... you don't. The 9 out of 10 horny Doms will take you whether you were "trained" or not - and the other 1 out of 10 will say he wants a "trained" sub simply as a euphemism for "experienced," probably because they want a girl whose been around the BDSM block a few times and may therefore be more extreme.

The ONLY training I suggest is that you buy SM101 or some book on safety and/or BDSM psychology so you educate yourself about how to delineate between safe players (e.g. guys who don't flog your spine, men who check that your limbs are experience proper circulation during any bondage) and unsafe and insane players (e.g. either Doms who are woefully ignorant to human safety, or Doms who cross the line between BDSM and abuse - and there is a line)

That said...

Yes, there are physical aspects of BDSM that can require something akin to physical training... i.e. modulating pain over time, anal stretching, etc. and its fun to couch these in terminology that "I'm going to train you." Sort of sets up a sexy Master / Instructor and sub / pupil scenario.

And Yes, there are specific protocols that various Doms employ - from simple "this is how you greet people" to "every morning you are to do X, Y, and Z this way exactly." One of the most extensive "off the shelf" system of protocols would probably be Gorean, from the Gor sci-fi books of John Norman that includes detailed accounts of a culture revolving around master / slave relationships and the many societal norms and protocols it entailed.

Hope this helps and dispels some myths.

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RE: slave training - 4/23/2009 5:23:14 AM

Malkinius

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Greetings amy.....

Yes, real trainers exist. The ones who train for the sake of training, rather than using are few and far between. The ones who claim to train that have a clue what they are doing more than following what they have read/seen in BDSM porn are a bit more common, but not much. The ones who understand what is going on in enslavement and can pass it on are very rare and most of them don't publish much.

Slave training comes in two basic parts. The first is what to do. The second is how to be.

Most of what people have posted so far is the first or what to do part. It is all the nifty and useful things you can learn to do to please your owner. There is more that is possible to learn than you can learn in a lifetime. That is fine as you won't need most of it. This is the area where you concentrate on what your owner wants you to know and what pleases him. This, with the addition of learning to withstand pain and various sexual activities is what most of BDSM training is about. Through in a few rituals and you have almost all the rest of it.

The second part is learning to submit yourself and your will to another person. Many people seem to assume that this comes naturally or automatically to submissives. It does to a small extent but not to a great extent. That takes work and effort on the part of the trainer and continuing effort on the part of the owner to keep it reinforced and growing. This is, in some ways, much harder to train and it is the part that most people know the least about. It is also the part that gets talked about the least.

If you want to know about these things, I suggest you look up the Internal Enslavement web site and read the essays there. They will not teach you to be a slave but you can pass them on to your owner and he may learn from them more about how to own and train a slave. I will warn you, the learning curve is very steep to go from things like those essays to useful and coherent methods of training. It also takes a lot of things you don't find in BDSM web sites and books to make it all understandable and work. I know...I went that route.

As far as people who do it. Some who do you don't want to go near. Most are just not worth the time. Figuring out which is which and who both knows what they are doing and are relatively safe is very hard. I say relatively safe because anyone who knows what they are doing can change someone without their seeing all the changes until they look back. It is one of those scary but cool sorts of things.

If you want to know more, the clues are out there but you must either have your owner do the work or he must send you to someone else if he doesn't want to learn/do the work himself depending on the type of training he wants. If you want some more specific suggestions, contact me privately.

Be well.....

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RE: slave training - 4/23/2009 6:08:12 AM

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Is Butchmann's Academy still in operation?

Apparently :)

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