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typesgirl -> Fighting back for fun! (2/1/2006 6:22:42 AM)
Last night, after wrestling with my new Mac for hours I was in such a feisty mood that when Master and I had sex I felt this urge to shove against Him, resist, and be forced a bit. He knew I wasn’t really resisting and became forceful, pinning me down, grabbing my legs hard and pushing them apart. Slamming into me. It was incredible! I’ve played coy before for fun but this was the first time I was really physically resistant and fought back against Him. I’m sure this is typical brat behavior but We both enjoyed it. I’d love to hear if others do this and what triggers it, how your Dom reacts etc. Thanks! typesgirl

xxblushesxx -> RE: Fighting back for fun! (2/1/2006 6:35:29 AM)
looks around Nope, no brats around here...[;)] Uhm yah, because it's fun...it's just play, and sometimes it's a way for somebrats to ask their dominant to be a bit more assertive. As long as you're both enjoying yourself, I see absolutely no problem with it at all!

ScorpGirl444 -> RE: Fighting back for fun! (2/1/2006 6:43:09 AM)
I can say that both my Dom and I know that there are times that I like to fight back...just for fun. I definitely don't do it all the time but when I do...OMG...the feeling of having your arms held down in different ways than usual and the sex. It's always great to have a sex session where when you are done you're both breathing heavy, smiling, and just lying in silence while holding each other. ~Scorp~

typesgirl -> RE: Fighting back for fun! (2/1/2006 6:47:46 AM)
Oh I know there's no problem with it! It was too damn good ot be a problem. LOL

Sensualips -> RE: Fighting back for fun! (2/1/2006 6:51:59 AM)
Oooo, I love it. The struggle, the feeling of being overpowered, the panting, the writhing, the slamming sex. We played this way all the time in my mostly-vanilla marriage. It was one of the clues that made me think about exploring bdsm further after we split. In fact, initially this was the only activity that really REALLY appealed to me as a bottom. (Though I have certainly discovered a few more.) Otherwise my tendencies leaned towards a top. I have taken this play a little further and have been eager to evenutally find the right circumstances to intensify it more. As far as what triggers it, it is hard to say. Sometimes I start out with that intent. Sometimes he might take may hands and pin them above me, and I either melt into or have the urge to struggle depending on my mind set. Often it is an eye contact thing -- eyes meet with this defiant look or unspoken challenge and it is ON. Sometimes I will initiate it -- with me on top I will manage an orgasm for myself and then slide off just before he is ready to orgasm. As he sits there, frustrated, I will make some sort of statement about how I am done, if he wants anything else he will have to come take it. I don't have a Dom but in my experience most men love it. Even the vanilla guys, once they get past a little initial suprise that I actually mean it when I say "harder." I can only think of one partner that was distressed by the turn of events and really felt something was "wrong" with me. A dominant partner I play with enjoys it but I definitely do not need to tell him "harder." The slightest un-submissive act results in an equal aggressive reaction, so I can very much escalate things to the level I want by my actions.

RavenMuse -> RE: Fighting back for fun! (2/1/2006 7:06:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: typesgirl Last night, after wrestling with my new Mac for hours I was in such a feisty mood that when Master and I had sex I felt this urge to shove against Him, resist, and be forced a bit. He knew I wasn’t really resisting and became forceful, pinning me down, grabbing my legs hard and pushing them apart. Slamming into me. It was incredible! BRB need to have cold shower! [sm=tongue.gif] .... .... .... Right as I was about to say[:D] Thats the sort of thing I'd only consider brattish if it was happening too often. If so I'd be starting to look at wether there was maybe a problem I hadn't spotted. But as an occassional surprize... oh hell yes. Push my buttons why dontcha! I can't speak for all Doms, but for me, her doing that, having that "Come on then, TAKE me!" look in her eye and catching me unexpectedly with it.... I almost always react to! Tends to work best when I'm not totaly in the mood but am 'persuaidable'.... I soon get in the mood though![sm=lol.gif]

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Fighting back for fun! (2/1/2006 7:31:59 AM)
It's not brat behavior at all, depending on the circumstances. I love foreceplay to a high degree. But I always ask my partner permission for it first. Partly this is to show respect for the dynamic between us and so that they won't be confused, and partly because I really don't hold back during forceplay and they have to be ready for the biting/punching/kicking and other physical attacks which will come. For me what triggers it is either a high sense of need, a primal energy burst that needs to be fed or actually a sense of insecurity- the little girl who wants to be shown how much she is desired and that she can't get away. Non-consensual consent type scenes are very common and desired in the scene. DO a search for that or "force play" and see what you come up with.

Elegant -> RE: Fighting back for fun! (2/1/2006 10:46:13 AM)
Master and I do 'resistance play' (as we call it) sometimes and it's fabulous! We did a takedown scene at the local dungeon once that lasted ages and got me all hot and sweaty in more ways than one. Of course, he always wins...but I cheat just to get in a few smacks and hits. All's fair in lust and war.

typesgirl -> RE: Fighting back for fun! (2/1/2006 11:15:27 AM)
Oh boy all these posts have my mind reeling. You're all so absolutely right. So much I hadn't even thought of before. I will, of course, discuss it with Master first so he knows what up but I'm really looking forward to trying some of your suggestions. So some of you actually bit, slap, hit...reallly really resist? All I've done so far is kind of squirm away, keep my legs tightly closed...I'm eager to step it up a bit if the mood is right. OOOOH la la! t

Quivver -> RE: Fighting back for fun! (2/1/2006 11:30:58 AM)
[8D] Oh yea! . . . Gotta Love Starting stuff I know I cant finish! but, before you all go off and brand brat on my lilly white, let me add that normally I've not taken this liberty at an unapproiate time. I remember once back when I was first learning that playing hard was ok I started some ~chit~ that ended up 15 minutes later, drippin in sweat and tied up in my own thong. [:D]

Sensualips -> RE: Fighting back for fun! (2/1/2006 1:36:34 PM)
quote: So some of you actually bit, slap, hit...reallly really resist? Oh yeah. I mostly shove and "wrestle" and protest, but sometimes hit. If I bite it is usually his hand (because it is over my mouth), not like a more typical bite on the neck type thing. I have not done slapping during this exact form of play, but have gotten slapped. I agree about discussing it ahead of time if it is more that the basic shoving rough-and-tumble variety though.

MTslave -> RE: Fighting back for fun! (2/1/2006 2:51:12 PM)
mmmmmmm loves being roughed up during sex... Master and I generally have pretty rough sex as it is, but on occasions, the timing is just right that it becomes nearly....... hmmmmm...... is consensual abuse a term? -laughs-... you all get the picture. I have served Master long enough now, and we do so many activities together, that we are well atuned to each other and the stress levels etc. There have been times when we both just knew....and needed... that physical aggression. Arms pinned... legs forced apart... hair yanked...shoulders slammed into chests... knees kicked against thighs... teeth marks over every part of the body... claw marks against flesh... ripped clothes or bedding... snarled words...denial....escaping... capture.... fists against chest....firm hands around throat... lordy I best be stopping now... but yes these types of play times can actually be healthy as long as all parties involved are completely aware of whats going on and no one is being forced or hurt without consent. As always we all ...all... have the power to say 'no that hurts' sorry for rambling MTs slave

champagnewishes -> RE: Fighting back for fun! (2/1/2006 3:44:23 PM)
I love posts like this! [:D] It's reassuring to know that there is some feistiness (defiant spunk perhaps?) in all of us that surfaces from time to time. And how great that you have someone that recognizes this and indulges you.

Mercnbeth -> RE: Fighting back for fun! (2/1/2006 4:02:37 PM)
quote: It's reassuring to know that there is some feistiness (defiant spunk perhaps?) in all of us that surfaces from time to time. just an observation and please excuse this slave if you feel she is being a stick-in-the-mud over such a happy thread, that is not the intent, but....however reassuring it might be to know that there are others that agree with you and/or indulge your desires~it is a misconception that there is a feistiness or defiant spunk towards Master in ALL of us, or the converse absolute that all on the other side of the slash find it a desirable or entertaining thing.

typesgirl -> RE: Fighting back for fun! (2/1/2006 4:10:27 PM)
Merc n Beth: Thanks for pointing that out. I think it's important to know that many Doms would find this behavior, even in the spirit of good fun, not at all acceptable. I don't think you're a stick in the mud at all. It's an important distinction and one that anyone who isn't owned should know. Not all Doms would see this as mischevious play. Some would see it as a reason for dismissal. Yet another reason why we can all say ...COMMUNICATE! can i get an amen?! Thanks again for making that distinction. typesgirl

windy135 -> RE: Fighting back for fun! (2/1/2006 4:26:38 PM)
One of the first things i've tried in the BDMS world. I loved it. My Dom at the time even spit in my face and geez did that piss me off.. :)

kyraofMists -> RE: Fighting back for fun! (2/1/2006 5:37:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: typesgirl So some of you actually bit, slap, hit...reallly really resist? Let's see... I have bitten, pulled hair, punched, slapped, scratched, kicked, shoved, mocked, cursed, grabbed at toys.... It's all just a part of our sex/play. It is the one place that I am allowed to be completely free in my expression and behavior. He always says that no matter how much force I apply, he will apply just that much more to overcome it. I have yet to take this as far as I want to, but that day is coming soon. Knight's kyra

IrishMist -> RE: Fighting back for fun! (2/1/2006 5:37:59 PM)
Mmmmmmmmm being forced has it's own advantages, does it not? [8D]

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Fighting back for fun! (2/1/2006 5:56:37 PM)
One reason I know a lot of people like force pay but haven't mentioned yet is the idea that if they are forced into it, they don't have to be responsible for it- they feel free of guilt and responsibilities and allow the other person to be the "blame."

IrishMist -> RE: Fighting back for fun! (2/1/2006 5:59:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross One reason I know a lot of people like force pay but haven't mentioned yet is the idea that if they are forced into it, they don't have to be responsible for it- they feel free of guilt and responsibilities and allow the other person to be the "blame." That's very true LA. I will admit that the first time it happened with me, I was very quick to place blame...that allowed me to foster the guilt I felt inside at actually liking it [:o]

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