RE: sub/slave makeing the first move, is it ok?

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SlaveBlutarsky -> RE: sub/slave makeing the first move, is it ok? (4/22/2009 8:48:35 PM)
It better be okay, I don't have the patience to wait for other people to make the first move. I see someone that interests me, I go for it. If I (or in this case, you) don't, someone else will.

DarkSteven -> RE: sub/slave makeing the first move, is it ok? (4/22/2009 8:51:26 PM)
Generally speaking, it's okay. In the case of a male sub and a Domme, if he doesn't make the first move, another male sub will.

GotSteel -> RE: sub/slave makeing the first move, is it ok? (4/22/2009 9:46:08 PM)
My sub approached me on this site, so apparently. But I wouldn't hold your breath waiting for the girls to come to you.

Blackwolf9 -> RE: sub/slave makeing the first move, is it ok? (4/24/2009 5:51:08 AM)
in sarcastic voice I wouldn't know any subs who do that....[8\|]

IronBear -> RE: sub/slave makeing the first move, is it ok? (4/24/2009 9:23:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RavenMuse quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse If someone does not approach me then I have no clue whether or she is interested. Quite. If I notice someone who seems interesting then I'll say 'hi' and find out more... however there are a LOT of people out there and I'm not guarenteed to notice. If a girl spots Me and things there is compatability in what We are both looking for then dropping Me a memo about why she thinks there is that compatability is the only way to guarentee I'm going to even notice her. Who knows I might agree and decide to look further. This is something in which I am in complete agreement for the same reason as RavenMuse has outlined. For me because I have withdrawn from the local groups and thus am never at events in which some interested unowned slave may see me or have me pointed out, I am more often contacted first from someone here in CM or any other BDSM Forum I am a member of. If someone contacts me and states that they have an interest and especially if a male who also states that he has al;so read Lady Neets's profile I will pay attention and follow up. makes sence to me. No difference to meeting people with similar interests in the mundane world isn't it?

ExSteelAgain -> RE: sub/slave makeing the first move, is it ok? (4/24/2009 12:18:20 PM)
Maybe we put too much emphasis on the lifestyle and consider everything a first move. It could be simple conversation...talk of the weather, politics, sports or about bdsm techniques. Relax.

ExSteelAgain -> RE: sub/slave makeing the first move, is it ok? (4/24/2009 12:19:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GotSteel My sub approached me on this site, so apparently. But I wouldn't hold your breath waiting for the girls to come to you. LOL...that's some statement. I did it, but y'all cant?

WyckedDreams -> RE: sub/slave makeing the first move, is it ok? (5/3/2009 6:36:05 PM)
I agree with your comment, " The wimpy, doormat type of sub is just sooo much of a turn-off to Me. Blaaah!" Boring, Boring, Boring!!! I am not into subs/slaves that choose this type of mentality. There are plenty of Dommes/Mistresses that enjoy it, but not me. I have had a subs/slaves approach me, and I appreciate the initiative.

Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: sub/slave makeing the first move, is it ok? (5/3/2009 6:53:16 PM)
No it's not okay, you'll end having your super duper submissive membership card revoked and find your ass immediately placed in the Uber Dom training boot camp. Seriously, it's okay.

BadJezebel -> RE: sub/slave makeing the first move, is it ok? (5/3/2009 7:21:52 PM)
I expect them to make the first move and make an effort to keep me interested.

SIRLOINSTEAK -> RE: sub/slave makeing the first move, is it ok? (5/4/2009 3:14:07 AM)
usually the dom/me is the one making the moves. Its actually less dom/mely to not be the one initiating things......otherwise why would this line of thought be interesting.... I remember someone saying that you could buck the system, but the system works for a reason.... I've been with women who were totally into me, and seemed to have trouble putting sentences together.... I like women who can actually talk a little......prid pro quo....

HalloweenWhite -> RE: sub/slave makeing the first move, is it ok? (5/4/2009 3:31:31 AM)
Well in My (admittedly limited experience) I've had submissives "make the first move" as you put it, I never really expect someone to want much to do with Me lol, that'd just be arrogant and a bit naive, afterall, why should they want to.

LadySweetOrSour -> RE: sub/slave makeing the first move, is it ok? (5/4/2009 3:34:40 AM)
Yes it's ok. I get a hundred emails a day from male subs "making the first move". Although some of them see "amking the first move" as something along the lines of "day wanna humiliate me on cam". Obviously they are incapable of reading a profile. I actually like a guy who will spend time doing the formal thing, the getting to know you stuff, the engaging my interest. Domme I am, but woman I am also. I like being courted. Maybe that makes me undommely. I don't really care. The guy I am speaking with at the moment is actually one I spoke to first. I simply emailed him about something in his profile completely non D/s related. No moves were being made on either side. However, over time, moves are being made, but in equal measure. Like anything, it's ok if you believe it to be ok. If you don't, no drama's either.

slavekal -> RE: sub/slave makeing the first move, is it ok? (5/4/2009 2:29:15 PM)
Sometimes it's necessary. When I met Ms. Mlicious, she was very inexperienced in this lifestyle. I had to take some initiative. Lucky for me, she is a fast learner.

BitaTruble -> RE: sub/slave makeing the first move, is it ok? (5/4/2009 2:39:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TazDevil do you believe it is ok for a sub/slave to make the first move and start a relasip, or is it all ways up to the Dom/Master, andor is it ok for a sub to start a privet seen (if owned or with a Dom) to start sex, or play, or is it all ways up to the Dom/Master I think it's a great idea. If I waited to be asked all the time, it would cut down my play time by at least half! That said, there may be dominants who do not like or allow such things so it's best to just ask the person if they have any issues with it and if not, go for it.

masmiss -> RE: sub/slave makeing the first move, is it ok? (5/4/2009 2:46:33 PM)
I'm glad my slave sent the first message.

masmiss -> RE: sub/slave makeing the first move, is it ok? (5/4/2009 2:54:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SlaveBlutarsky It better be okay, I don't have the patience to wait for other people to make the first move. I see someone that interests me, I go for it. If I (or in this case, you) don't, someone else will. I like the way you think, SB.

breatheasone -> RE: sub/slave makeing the first move, is it ok? (5/4/2009 5:18:45 PM)
yes i believe its fine... Having said that is not my cup of tea. Before i met Daddy i was talking with and went to met a "D" type from another site... he lived in winchester i believe...anyway... we spent the weekend together and went to a play party with friends ...this whole time he is actting like we are just cool friends. i find out later he was upset because he wanted more with me....i remember thinking...Well he should he made some kind of move then...i mean gee whiz already.

lovingpet -> RE: sub/slave makeing the first move, is it ok? (5/4/2009 5:47:37 PM)
Well, as I have said before, I have had my best success approaching dominants first. All I have started communication with first have become at the very least good friends and two are quite close with me, and are now getting to know each other. I think in a relationship, one has to feel free to express what they desire and feel for the other. If I want sex, I can ask or simply make a gentle move to initiate. What happens beyond that is not my call as a submissive, but it is my responsibility to communicate my wants and needs in any and every area of a relationship. lovingpet

breatheasone -> RE: sub/slave makeing the first move, is it ok? (5/4/2009 7:18:24 PM)
lovingpet i 200% agree with you.... in the circumstances i talked about above... i truly thought me driving 4 hours to see him was a clear signal i was interested LOL...

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