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RE: what do you think? - 4/25/2009 3:43:08 PM

RealSub58

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ORIGINAL: Sunnyfey

Say your at a private party, your sceneing, someone you've had ALOT of problems with the last few months shows up, and watches your scene. It upsets you, it makes you uncomfortable.

You are giving them the authority or power to create negative feelings about yourself. Why? Enjoy yourself. . . . . they are NOT there! They mean nothing to you, only energy that you can give power to control your negativity.

Do you have the right to ask them or inform the host, you dont want them watching your scene?

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RE: what do you think? - 4/25/2009 7:53:17 PM

YourhandMyAss

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I wish every one felt that way, I mean god some of the complaints people make against others are so petty I was told by a host of one party people complained privatly to her because they didn't like how I came dressed to the parties, and they thought it was wrong to come to a bdsm party in something not fetish or all black. I guess I can understand to some degree, but really, mind your own business when it comes to who's wearing or not wearing what, unless it's your party. And if you don't like it that I didn't come in fetish gear or all black, then maybe consider if public parties where there's no dress code, is the place for fashion police wanna be's to be going then.

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ORIGINAL: HisBrokenOne

If something happens that I don't like, I try to ignore it, move away from it, or if it's so bad I really can't stand it, I leave after making excuses. I would never say, "I'm leaving because XX won't stop talking to me," as it would put my host in a terrible position, and also because as a grown up I require that I deal with such things myself, without a referee. I think my party behavior is among the things that gets me invited back.

I can certainly understand that this dynamic between you and the watcher may be very uncomfortable to you for any number of reasons. IMHO, that's up to you to work out.

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