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Twilightt -> RE: Why do you decide to be a domme? (2/3/2006 7:38:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NeedToUseYou quote: ORIGINAL: Twilightt Okay fine, No one here hates the opposite sex? Then I'll be the first to admit it. If I didn't hate men so much I don't think I'd love them. Men are pigs, untrustworthy and disrespectful, Very few know how to control a relationship and I wouldn't want them too anyway. I hate men. There you go, one post for the hating the oposite sex Domme appeal. Men only think with the head that doesn't reside on their shoulders. Wow, that oddly gave me tingles. LOL, but I do think I understand what you are saying. I think most women are controlled by there emotions. Similiar to you thinking all men are controlled by there little heads. Both of us believe the opposite sex is lacking personal control for the most part. Just envisioning a collision of ideologies. I'd win of course. [;)] Of course, I think I must like emotional women to some degree subconsciencly, as it seems that's all I ever attract, I bet you just attract horn dog men that drive you nuts. Wonder why? Ironic part is I bet at 10:1 we both end up with what exactly drives us the most crazy. LOL. Life is beautiful isn't it. As they say there is a thin line between love and hate. Oink, Oink, you doing anything later [;)] Thanks. Yeah, that could be the issue, the type of men (Vanilla in my area) that ask me out... Haven't ever had a good relationship. But then again I've never had a BDSM relationship. This little town is fairly conservative and as far as anyone else knows, I'm vanilla. Bleh. Maybe you're right, maybe I'm just attracting the type of men that drive me crazy. It would be more helpful if you could tell me how I could stop doing so however. What is it about me that attracts the assholes?

naughtynick -> RE: Why do you decide to be a domme? (2/3/2006 8:02:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Twilightt quote: ORIGINAL: NeedToUseYou quote: ORIGINAL: Twilightt Okay fine, No one here hates the opposite sex? Then I'll be the first to admit it. If I didn't hate men so much I don't think I'd love them. Men are pigs, untrustworthy and disrespectful, Very few know how to control a relationship and I wouldn't want them too anyway. I hate men. There you go, one post for the hating the oposite sex Domme appeal. Men only think with the head that doesn't reside on their shoulders. Wow, that oddly gave me tingles. LOL, but I do think I understand what you are saying. I think most women are controlled by there emotions. Similiar to you thinking all men are controlled by there little heads. Both of us believe the opposite sex is lacking personal control for the most part. Just envisioning a collision of ideologies. I'd win of course. [;)] Of course, I think I must like emotional women to some degree subconsciencly, as it seems that's all I ever attract, I bet you just attract horn dog men that drive you nuts. Wonder why? Ironic part is I bet at 10:1 we both end up with what exactly drives us the most crazy. LOL. Life is beautiful isn't it. As they say there is a thin line between love and hate. Oink, Oink, you doing anything later [;)] Thanks. Yeah, that could be the issue, the type of men (Vanilla in my area) that ask me out... Haven't ever had a good relationship. But then again I've never had a BDSM relationship. This little town is fairly conservative and as far as anyone else knows, I'm vanilla. Bleh. Maybe you're right, maybe I'm just attracting the type of men that drive me crazy. It would be more helpful if you could tell me how I could stop doing so however. What is it about me that attracts the assholes? Welll umm arrr you are in a BDSM web site and than you say things like "Men only think with the head that doesn't reside on their shoulders." Does that answer your question? Does that put 2 and 2 together? You go into sexual websites seeking men and than you say you dislike men because we only think with our dicks. In my view, the only reason why you are in this site is because you only think of your vagina. Why else would you be in a BDSM site? Is it a crime when men think with their dicks but it's not a crime when women think with their vagina? You come here to get your sexual desires fulfilled right? do you expect prince charming to be in sites such as this one and act like Mr Romantic? Common pleeease.

angelic -> RE: Why do you decide to be a domme? (2/3/2006 8:04:13 PM)
i haven't posted here for a long time... here is my take on this.. does a Domme 'decide' to be Domme? only if She wasn't born that way... in my humble opinion... a Pperson is born the way Tthey are... it isn't a choice unless there is confusion as to Wwho Tthey are inside...

AAkasha -> RE: Why do you decide to be a domme? (2/3/2006 8:05:08 PM)
I guess another question is: Are submissive men attracted to femdoms who may be erotic as hell, but their motivation comes from a place where they do believe: * Men are stupid and worthless playthings * The male cock should be controlled or eliminated * A man changed into a "sissy" or a feminine hussy is better than a man * The best relationship with a man is where he is treated like a piece of meat * A sub needs to know he is immediately replacable - end of story. Are sub men uncontrollably attracted to women that are not only dominant, but emotionally sadistic? Women that may treat them like sex objects but really ultimately will probably throw them away without a second thought? Is there a common male fantasy where he finds himself with a woman that he knows is way out of his league, she treats him like shit (verbally, emotionally, physically -- ie, sadist in bed), but he loves it all along and follows her like a puppy dog? Is this a viable relationship ideal for some sub men? Does it feel good on some emotionally masochistic way when this "goddess" humiliates you in public and hits on another guy, then makes out with him or compares you to him on the way home as she files away his phone number? Or -- do submissive men tolerate this kind of relationship because the woman is really sadistic physically, cruel in bed, seems to really get off on her sadism and is relentless? Akasha

naughtynick -> RE: Why do you decide to be a domme? (2/3/2006 8:31:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha I guess another question is: Are submissive men attracted to femdoms who may be erotic as hell, but their motivation comes from a place where they do believe: * Men are stupid and worthless playthings * The male cock should be controlled or eliminated * A man changed into a "sissy" or a feminine hussy is better than a man * The best relationship with a man is where he is treated like a piece of meat * A sub needs to know he is immediately replacable - end of story. Are sub men uncontrollably attracted to women that are not only dominant, but emotionally sadistic? Women that may treat them like sex objects but really ultimately will probably throw them away without a second thought? Is there a common male fantasy where he finds himself with a woman that he knows is way out of his league, she treats him like shit (verbally, emotionally, physically -- ie, sadist in bed), but he loves it all along and follows her like a puppy dog? Is this a viable relationship ideal for some sub men? Does it feel good on some emotionally masochistic way when this "goddess" humiliates you in public and hits on another guy, then makes out with him or compares you to him on the way home as she files away his phone number? Or -- do submissive men tolerate this kind of relationship because the woman is really sadistic physically, cruel in bed, seems to really get off on her sadism and is relentless? Akasha I think there are a few sub men who crave that, just as well there are a few sub women who crave misogynist dom men. Me being a sub, I am actually 100 percent against feminism. As for speaking about if I like to be treated bad in a relationship, I don’t think so. I want a deep and loving relationship that has BDSM on the side. I don't want BDSM to hijack the relationship. As For this..... * Men are stupid and worthless playthings * The male cock should be controlled or eliminated * A man changed into a "sissy" or a feminine hussy is better than a man * The best relationship with a man is where he is treated like a piece of meat * A sub needs to know he is immediately replacable - end of story. I accept these 2 points in BDSM play * The male cock should be controlled or eliminated * A man changed into a "sissy" or a feminine hussy is better than a man Well for point one, I don’t mean eliminated but controlled is acceptable. When women say these things that have nothing to do with BDSM, I hope no man in the whole world would date or marry their pathetic ass.

NeedToUseYou -> RE: Why do you decide to be a domme? (2/3/2006 8:53:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Twilightt Yeah, that could be the issue, the type of men (Vanilla in my area) that ask me out... Haven't ever had a good relationship. But then again I've never had a BDSM relationship. This little town is fairly conservative and as far as anyone else knows, I'm vanilla. Bleh. Maybe you're right, maybe I'm just attracting the type of men that drive me crazy. It would be more helpful if you could tell me how I could stop doing so however. What is it about me that attracts the assholes? Well, personally I believe the reason anyone gets stuck in cycle especially in relationships is because, as people we naturally seek out the familiar. For example, I know how to deal with emotional meltdowns. I've been dealing with that since I was a child. My mother had them all the time,(maniac depressive). So, thus, it is something I'm accustomed to, that doesn't mean I like it, but I do know how to deal with it. And thus, when I got old enough for relationships, naturally I was good at comforting women going through emotional crises, and naturally those women would be more apt to be with me. Really I think it's that simple. The if you want to call it a talent of dealing with emotional issues, has been my death nail. How do I fix it, well, I stay away from emotionally disfunctional women intentionally and don't try to fix everything for them. I used to sit for hours listening to there life stories, having sometimes only met them that day. They'd tell me how they were abused when they were a child, and every relationship, and they want you to make it all better. They will drain you like a vampire emotionally. Putting someone back together is hard work, damn it. Anyway, I'm tired of all that and the sympathy well has run low. So, I'm okay being alone than dealing with all that drama. I'd say in your case attracting horndogs all the time is probably similiar. My guess is you know how to deal with these type of men and familiarity has overcome good judgement. Maybe, you are getting off on the conflict, or being the victim. Maybe, you just like the excitement of being with the wrong type of guy. Maybe, you are the type that thinks she can fix broken men. Because if all your relationships are with the same type of guy there must be some reason. I can't tell you, I don't know you, but it is most likely one of those things. What we say we want and what our behaviour attracts can be two completely different things. The goal for everyone really is to align the behaviour with the conscience wants we have. As, the other guy said maybe you are thinking with your vagina to much. [:-]

Twilightt -> RE: Why do you decide to be a domme? (2/3/2006 9:30:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NeedToUseYou quote: ORIGINAL: Twilightt Yeah, that could be the issue, the type of men (Vanilla in my area) that ask me out... Haven't ever had a good relationship. But then again I've never had a BDSM relationship. This little town is fairly conservative and as far as anyone else knows, I'm vanilla. Bleh. Maybe you're right, maybe I'm just attracting the type of men that drive me crazy. It would be more helpful if you could tell me how I could stop doing so however. What is it about me that attracts the assholes? Well, personally I believe the reason anyone gets stuck in cycle especially in relationships is because, as people we naturally seek out the familiar. For example, I know how to deal with emotional meltdowns. I've been dealing with that since I was a child. My mother had them all the time,(maniac depressive). So, thus, it is something I'm accustomed to, that doesn't mean I like it, but I do know how to deal with it. And thus, when I got old enough for relationships, naturally I was good at comforting women going through emotional crises, and naturally those women would be more apt to be with me. Really I think it's that simple. The if you want to call it a talent of dealing with emotional issues, has been my death nail. How do I fix it, well, I stay away from emotionally disfunctional women intentionally and don't try to fix everything for them. I used to sit for hours listening to there life stories, having sometimes only met them that day. They'd tell me how they were abused when they were a child, and every relationship, and they want you to make it all better. They will drain you like a vampire emotionally. Putting someone back together is hard work, damn it. Anyway, I'm tired of all that and the sympathy well has run low. So, I'm okay being alone than dealing with all that drama. I'd say in your case attracting horndogs all the time is probably similiar. My guess is you know how to deal with these type of men and familiarity has overcome good judgement. Maybe, you are getting off on the conflict, or being the victim. Maybe, you just like the excitement of being with the wrong type of guy. Maybe, you are the type that thinks she can fix broken men. Because if all your relationships are with the same type of guy there must be some reason. I can't tell you, I don't know you, but it is most likely one of those things. What we say we want and what our behaviour attracts can be two completely different things. The goal for everyone really is to align the behaviour with the conscience wants we have. As, the other guy said maybe you are thinking with your vagina to much. [:-] Lol, that's hillarious. I need to do some deep soul searching. I love and hate those horrible relationships I end up having. Yeah, maybe you're right. On all accounts. Although I'm not sure what thinking with my vagina would entail. I'd really rather have a relationship that is not based on sex. Maybe I'm too vanilla/naive for this forum Lol. Anyway, Don't get me wrong, I would love my sub. I love some Males. but Men as a whole just bother me. Maybe I've just havn't found the right group of guys yet. Anyways... thanks for the ideas. I will think on them, write a blog on them, then erase that blog from the face of this earth, therefore defining my feelings to myself. Thanks again, Twilight

naughtynick -> RE: Why do you decide to be a domme? (2/3/2006 9:38:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Twilightt quote: ORIGINAL: NeedToUseYou quote: ORIGINAL: Twilightt Yeah, that could be the issue, the type of men (Vanilla in my area) that ask me out... Haven't ever had a good relationship. But then again I've never had a BDSM relationship. This little town is fairly conservative and as far as anyone else knows, I'm vanilla. Bleh. Maybe you're right, maybe I'm just attracting the type of men that drive me crazy. It would be more helpful if you could tell me how I could stop doing so however. What is it about me that attracts the assholes? Well, personally I believe the reason anyone gets stuck in cycle especially in relationships is because, as people we naturally seek out the familiar. For example, I know how to deal with emotional meltdowns. I've been dealing with that since I was a child. My mother had them all the time,(maniac depressive). So, thus, it is something I'm accustomed to, that doesn't mean I like it, but I do know how to deal with it. And thus, when I got old enough for relationships, naturally I was good at comforting women going through emotional crises, and naturally those women would be more apt to be with me. Really I think it's that simple. The if you want to call it a talent of dealing with emotional issues, has been my death nail. How do I fix it, well, I stay away from emotionally disfunctional women intentionally and don't try to fix everything for them. I used to sit for hours listening to there life stories, having sometimes only met them that day. They'd tell me how they were abused when they were a child, and every relationship, and they want you to make it all better. They will drain you like a vampire emotionally. Putting someone back together is hard work, damn it. Anyway, I'm tired of all that and the sympathy well has run low. So, I'm okay being alone than dealing with all that drama. I'd say in your case attracting horndogs all the time is probably similiar. My guess is you know how to deal with these type of men and familiarity has overcome good judgement. Maybe, you are getting off on the conflict, or being the victim. Maybe, you just like the excitement of being with the wrong type of guy. Maybe, you are the type that thinks she can fix broken men. Because if all your relationships are with the same type of guy there must be some reason. I can't tell you, I don't know you, but it is most likely one of those things. What we say we want and what our behaviour attracts can be two completely different things. The goal for everyone really is to align the behaviour with the conscience wants we have. As, the other guy said maybe you are thinking with your vagina to much. [:-] Lol, that's hillarious. I need to do some deep soul searching. I love and hate those horrible relationships I end up having. Yeah, maybe you're right. On all accounts. Although I'm not sure what thinking with my vagina would entail. I'd really rather have a relationship that is not based on sex. Maybe I'm too vanilla/naive for this forum Lol. Anyway, Don't get me wrong, I would love my sub. I love some Males. but Men as a whole just bother me. Maybe I've just havn't found the right group of guys yet. Anyways... thanks for the ideas. I will think on them, write a blog on them, then erase that blog from the face of this earth, therefore defining my feelings to myself. Thanks again, Twilight Quote Anyway, Don't get me wrong, I would love my sub. I love some Males. but Men as a whole just bother me. Maybe I've just havn't found the right group of guys yet. No offense, but this can reflect on the way you think about men. If you think about men in a whole of the ways that you expressed it. What way do you act towards men? what way do you treat men when you think about them in this way? Do you act nice towards men but really think they are jerks? Do you expect men to treat you nice when you criticize their gender? Does a man have much hope with women when he thinks about women the same types of ways that you think about men? No one wants to date a person who hates their own sex. It's common sense really. Unless you want BDSM to control the relationship also.

NeedToUseYou -> RE: Why do you decide to be a domme? (2/3/2006 9:46:34 PM)
quote: Lol, that's hillarious. I need to do some deep soul searching. I love and hate those horrible relationships I end up having. Yeah, maybe you're right. On all accounts. Although I'm not sure what thinking with my vagina would entail. I'd really rather have a relationship that is not based on sex. Maybe I'm too vanilla/naive for this forum Lol. Anyway, Don't get me wrong, I would love my sub. I love some Males. but Men as a whole just bother me. Maybe I've just havn't found the right group of guys yet. Anyways... thanks for the ideas. I will think on them, write a blog on them, then erase that blog from the face of this earth, therefore defining my feelings to myself. Thanks again, Twilight Or you could just keep on doing what you are doing, I got the impression that you weren't happy though, and didn't like the way the men were acting. But, from your last post it sounds like you are more into it, as it sounded sarcastic. Either way, I just don't think it's healthy to hate people without even understanding why you hate them or why you keep getting involved with them. Thinking with your vagina would be just doing things because they get you off. Same concept as thinking with your dick. As in you might be a conflict junkie, or a drama queen. That is more a female quality thus thinking with your vagina. Whereas, thinking with your little head implies a man is just doing what he would do to get off, most commonly screwing everything in sight. Anyway, that is the way I was using it. Thanks, hope you find whatever it is you're looking for.

Kindred2Evil -> RE: Why do you decide to be a domme? (2/4/2006 2:34:10 PM)
I got to explore various aspects of BDSM fairly early in life. Some were done willingly, some not so much so. I always knew I had a sadistic streak, and it tended to come out in some pretty shocking ways at times. When my first marriage ended, I'll fully admit I showed that side more often because I despised men. I was pretty burnt out after the four years of hell and believed that all men should be kept on a very short leash attatched to my heel where I could kick the piss out of them whenever the mood hit me. I've mellowed as I've aged and gained more experience. I tend to fall more into S&M than D/s, though I have had a few submissives through the years. All of them male, and I shared one female with my husband. I'm actually crueler to the women than the men, don't ask me why I don't have a clue. I don't hate either sex more than the other, in fact I don't hate them at all. I've come to a point in my life where I want to see them "become" so to speak. I'm a dominant because I was born that way. I'm a sadist because I get off on it. I'm masochistic because it just flat does it for me. I didn't choose the road I've walked, it was layed out in front of me and I strolled down it, taking various twists and turns willy-nilly. BDSM now brings me joy, it satisfies some basic need I have inside. I get a charge out of watching someone cry, seeing them bleed, hearing them beg. It's one creative outlet that lets me be totally myself with whomever I'm with at the time.

LadyJulieAnn -> RE: Why do you decide to be a domme? (2/4/2006 3:08:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NeedToUseYou quote: ORIGINAL: Twilightt Yeah, that could be the issue, the type of men (Vanilla in my area) that ask me out... Haven't ever had a good relationship. But then again I've never had a BDSM relationship. This little town is fairly conservative and as far as anyone else knows, I'm vanilla. Bleh. Maybe you're right, maybe I'm just attracting the type of men that drive me crazy. It would be more helpful if you could tell me how I could stop doing so however. What is it about me that attracts the assholes? Well, personally I believe the reason anyone gets stuck in cycle especially in relationships is because, as people we naturally seek out the familiar. I'd say in your case attracting horndogs all the time is probably similiar. My guess is you know how to deal with these type of men and familiarity has overcome good judgement. Maybe, you are getting off on the conflict, or being the victim. Maybe, you just like the excitement of being with the wrong type of guy. Maybe, you are the type that thinks she can fix broken men. Because if all your relationships are with the same type of guy there must be some reason. I can't tell you, I don't know you, but it is most likely one of those things. What we say we want and what our behaviour attracts can be two completely different things. The goal for everyone really is to align the behaviour with the conscience wants we have. Twilightt, I would add to this that you might be seeking out those men because they will eventually prove you to be right. You can then say "See? All men are pigs!" It's sort of a self-fulfilling prophecy thing. I have a friend who has relationship issues similar to yours, and she has trust issues at the core of her problems. In any case, I hope you are able to find a healthy relationship at some point in your life. I would worry that you might seek male subs and still have those issues, which can lead to trouble, in my opinion. I don't think BDSM will "cure" your relationship issues. Be well, Julie

SubCatherine -> RE: Why do you decide to be a domme? (2/4/2006 6:15:04 PM)
hehe oooh i wanna answer this one, for about 18 months i was in a D/s relationship as a submissive. and i loved it. recently i have decided to make the transition and become a Domme, no i dont hate males, in any way, but in saying that the moment i see My sub, i want to hurt, bite and in general tease him, i say that it isnt out of hate, because I feel this intense rush of love and caring towards him when he takes it for Me. and i know it isnt hate because if it was that type of emotion for the oppisite sex then i would be a lesbian and, i love guys wayyyyyy too much for that. another reason i tend to enjoy biting/ bruising is, the idea that i am marking My property, or showing others that My sub is off limits to anyone but Me and those that i allow, i dont know why i have the need to do this, but i have found that generally after i have left some marks i am happy to cuddle and do what ever....... as i am still pretty new to the Domme thing, everything i do i do with caution towards My sub, and the thing i have realised about myself is that i would never do anything that he did not want me to do... hehe a small part of the subbie in me still survives,

thetammyjo -> RE: Why do you decide to be a domme? (2/4/2006 6:32:00 PM)
I actually scene with men when I really like and trust them only. As for why I am this way, I think that would be part personality that is innate, part childhood experiences, and part just getting information about BDSM. I'm also going to be very blunt here and say that people online can be very very very different than people offline. Until you have known several people offline I wouldn't ever try to generalize about folks into BDSM. Someone can say and pretend to be so many things online that they couldn't get away with offline and face-to-face.

MsMirielle -> RE: Why do you decide to be a domme? (2/7/2006 3:35:36 PM)
For me, its the power and control, thats get me off. The fact that someone is willing to suffer for the honor of my presence, is a big turn on. You need to have a certain disdain for people that come and see you in order to be good and effective at Domming, in my not so humble opinion. Not a hatred, not that your good and their shit; but, self confidence, some attitude and knowledge of what makes people tick. And you know what? Subbies dig that!

Petruchio -> RE: Why do you decide to be a domme? (2/7/2006 6:40:02 PM)
quote: both male dommes and female dommes What the hell is a male domme? And what's this thread doing outside the 'Ask a Master' / 'Ask a Mistress' section?

MHOO314 -> RE: Why do you decide to be a domme? (2/7/2006 7:03:57 PM)
I did not decide, I was-- I am--I will be--it is as if I breathe--natural.

seaturtle50 -> RE: Why do you decide to be a domme? (2/7/2006 8:55:40 PM)
quote: I guess another question is: Are submissive men attracted to femdoms who may be erotic as hell, but their motivation comes from a place where they do believe: * Men are stupid and worthless playthings * The male cock should be controlled or eliminated * A man changed into a "sissy" or a feminine hussy is better than a man * The best relationship with a man is where he is treated like a piece of meat * A sub needs to know he is immediately replacable - end of story. Why? What did You have in mind? [8\|]

RavenDiana -> RE: Why do you decide to be a domme? (2/7/2006 9:44:41 PM)
Humm I am both Bi and a domme, so my urges to be dominate don't seem linked to my relationship to either gender, though I suppose there may be some level of total rejection for myself of the woman as submissive sterotype, but then if I weren't so Dom by nature would that sterotype bother me so much? chicken and egg there I guess

Eir -> RE: Why do you decide to be a domme? (2/9/2006 10:31:57 AM)
I didn't decide to be one :) When I started participate in BDSM then I was REALLY submissive but then in time I started to feel as I wanted to be in control and I tried that one day and I LOVE that role. I am a switch... I enjoy both roles :D

Jasmyn -> RE: Why do you decide to be a domme? (2/9/2006 2:56:39 PM)
Once exposed to D/s I chose to become a dominant, prior to that, although I was a largely self-aware and confident person but because of my upbringing I never considered relationships could be had that were not patriachal based. My entire life premiss was shattered and a whole new world opened up to me. Something I am eternally grateful for. Although in hindsight I can recall many occassions where I took the lead in relationships and sexual encounters but never understood quite why I did. Exploring D/s has enabled me to understand a great deal about myself, not just in personal relationships, but in day to day dealings with friends and acquaintances. It has also helped me to understand and harvest my natural abilities. I am considered a leader and for years, without realising quite what it was, people have often deferred to me, and I realise now I am often at my happiest telling people what to do and how to do it...not because I am lazy lol, but that I am a big picture person, I can understand and sum up a problem or situation in moments and know exactly how I want it dealt with, everything is considered right down to what colour undies would be best for the job. In employment I would often find myself in a supervisory role within in a few months of starting, even if a supervisory role was not available and I've often had positions created just for me to move up into. Coming from a large Irish Catholic family, 9 brothers and 4 sisters, myself the youngest, my life was interesting to say the least, but I was never quite one of the girls and never quite one of the boys; I refused to toe the family line and from an early age decided what was between our legs was a simplistic and silly way of defining behaviour expectations, believing and still do, that I am a person/individual foremost and female second. So when I say I 'chose to become a dominant' it is because I did choose to become one. I maybe a complete natural and I maybe extremely suited to the lifestyle and I understand now that it is inherently part of the sum of who I have become. But without D/s, I'd still be a dominant person, and I'd still dominate and control my relationships. All I've done by choosing to be dominant in D/s is given myself the ability to utilise all the wonderful things about wiiwd to bring someone to a point of surrender; but if I never picked up a whip again or never had a D/s labelled relationship again, I'd still be a dominant and alpha fem. Understanding and exploring D/s, SM & B&D, and fetishes has allowed me to release the beast within and has made me realise all those men who followed me around with puppy dog eyes throughout the years were doing so because they recognised the part of me I was willing to allow to remain internally dormant for years.

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