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getting back into bdsm - 4/26/2009 5:08:31 PM

SexDwarf

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my master passed away suddenly last year, and since then i have not practiced BDSM. Within the last month however my interest has sparked up again, but i am a bit scared of committing to a master slave relationship again, don't get me wrong, i still find s&m exciting, i'm just a bit nervous as to getting back into a scene again. anyway, has anyone else been in a situation like this? i wouldn't normal seek out help online, only my friends didn't know about our relationship, or at least the bdsm part of it.

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RE: getting back into bdsm - 4/26/2009 5:11:59 PM

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Go to a munch!

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RE: getting back into bdsm - 4/26/2009 7:45:52 PM

Kaiel

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I am sorry for your loss...... take it slowly and welcome back to the lifestyle.

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RE: getting back into bdsm - 4/27/2009 4:38:31 AM

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Go to a munch, make friends, ask people to top you.
Don't get back into a power relationship until you feel ready.

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RE: getting back into bdsm - 4/27/2009 10:23:22 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SexDwarf

my master passed away suddenly last year, and since then i have not practiced BDSM. Within the last month however my interest has sparked up again, but i am a bit scared of committing to a master slave relationship again, don't get me wrong, i still find s&m exciting, i'm just a bit nervous as to getting back into a scene again. anyway, has anyone else been in a situation like this? i wouldn't normal seek out help online, only my friends didn't know about our relationship, or at least the bdsm part of it.

I am so sorry to hear about your loss - may the memories remain sweet!

I guess in many ways it is not different to losing a partner in the vanilla world - getting back out there and "dating" must be equally as daunting, albeit for different reasons...

although i have not experienced what you have the only advice i can think of that others haven't already given you is think back to what brought you to this lifestyle in the first place? Was it a calling inside you? Could you live without it?

Take care and be easy on yourself....

Big slave type hugs!
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RE: getting back into bdsm - 4/27/2009 10:59:36 AM

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I wnt through exactly what you are going through. it took me a year to get my head back on straight and start to look again. It took another year after that to meet my Master. My advice is to take it slow and not rush into anything. I know it i scary to risk you heart again after it has been bruised if not broken. For me it turned out good that i risked my heart again 3 years foe us ans still going strong. I wish you the best of luck findint what you want.

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RE: getting back into bdsm - 4/27/2009 3:12:01 PM

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First thing you need to do is change your profile. The way it reads now is that you are one half of a couple.
The second thing would be to find the local bdsm scene, and join in - not intending to find a partner, but as a method of getting your feet wet again.

and good luck!

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RE: getting back into bdsm - 4/27/2009 4:10:33 PM

SexDwarf

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thanks for the advice, it's pretty cool to know that collarme.com is so active, I've recontacted a few people in the NZ scene and they are being pretty welcoming which is cool, they dont remember me though, hehe. found a local munch too, should be interesting...

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