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amoryblane -> What does it take to get inside your head? (4/27/2009 4:55:44 PM)
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It's almost universally asserted that BDSM (in the broadest sense) is largely mental. So,what does it take to get inside your head?
For me, as a masochist without much interest in long term commitment to any partner, the mindfuck is the most thrilling thing in the world. It basically consists of this:
1) A woman finds a particular button to push in my psyche. Usually it's something weird and precarious that she knows she can get me to do over and over. It is a strange compulsion over which I'm almost helpless. We all have them--not everybody admits to them and not everybody flaunts them, but they're there.
2) The woman pushes the button a few times. Other times she almost pushes it, lets me know she knows it's there, that she can do it any time she wants to.
3) She keeps pushing me deeper, encouraging increasingly chancy behavior. By now she has become so deft at exploiting vulnerabilities that she seems almost passive. She sets things in motion, stands back, and regards with aloof amusement.
4) By the time I'm completely mindfucked, I'm pretty much performing for her. She barely has to do anything except acknowledge casually how humorous the situation has become. She is off-handed, sarcastic,she knows she can put me into almost any predicament she wants. Usually this is the most entertaining part for both of us--and it's such a fragile, elusive situation, always poised on the verge of desiccation and disintegration. It never lasts long, but while it lasts it's delicious.
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As I said, I'm a masochist and a weirdo even by kinky standards, so compared to many this will sound like some kind of Martian psychology. But everyone plays the game mentally, everyone has something that it means to be "inside their head". I'm wondering what that means to other people.
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