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RE: maid of honor - 2/3/2006 8:24:08 PM

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When I get married, I want everyone to take every penny they would have spent on getting there, clothing, hotels, gifts, cards, flowers ... pitch it all in, and buy me an H2.

I like black, with leather interior, XM Radio and GPS. It has to have some cool wheels and not those doofus spinning things.

I'm not sure if you'll be able to afford the gas for an H2 by that time

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RE: maid of honor - 2/4/2006 2:25:08 AM

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I'd use this time as a great time to Practice, Practice, Practice, Good Communication Skills.

If you really can't work out you being the 'Maid of Honor" which is I think an Honor, an I personally would do all I could to stand in that place if asked. At least try and make it there and show your love, "Maid of Honor" (I've been a bridesmaid a few times) is another way of saying you are the Best of my women friends, I wouldn't treat it so lightly myself.

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RE: maid of honor - 2/4/2006 2:30:12 AM

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I hope whoever I marry doesn't want one.
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how about what my wives and i did...send the minister to the house, pay him off with a few $$...and be done with it..right in the living room.

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RE: maid of honor - 2/4/2006 4:50:42 AM

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Ok this is way off topic but I have a question. Ok, I'm a poor college student with loans up the ya hoo. A friend of mine is getting married on an island off of georgia. At first I didn't know if I could go because I didn't think I could afford it. But then I decided I would go because I wanted to be there for her. Then there was some confusion because she asked me to be her maid of honor and at first I said well how will I get a dress, since there was no way to go down to where she lives (Nebraska) and get fitted and such and such. Then she said buy a white dress and I'll get a sash to go over it. Ok, I said I would try. We talked one day and she told me that she couldnt find anything cheaper than 350, I thought she meant dresses she was talking about plane tickets. So I said well geez I can't afford that. So she thought I wasn't going to the wedding and I thought I had said I just couldn't stand up. The more I thought about it the more it made sense I really don't have the money for a nice dress and shoes and to get my hair done. But she is upset, not only over the miss up in communication but the fact that I'm not going to stand up. Am I wrong to expect her to understand? She too is a poor college graduate now attending graduate school. Am I wrong?

"Destination Weddings" are the new thing. IMO its all about the married couple and hardly at all about anyone else. Seinfeld did a bit on LENO about how weddings are just "bad parties," and he pleaded with people to stop having them. Must say, as a rule, I hate weddings.

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RE: maid of honor - 2/4/2006 9:15:46 AM

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I'd use this time as a great time to Practice, Practice, Practice, Good Communication Skills.

If you really can't work out you being the 'Maid of Honor" which is I think an Honor, an I personally would do all I could to stand in that place if asked. At least try and make it there and show your love, "Maid of Honor" (I've been a bridesmaid a few times) is another way of saying you are the Best of my women friends, I wouldn't treat it so lightly myself.

*Brightspot

I feel bad because being "Maid of Honor" doesn't mean that much to me. If I lived in the same city as she did and could be more involved then yes it would. But all I would be doing is showing up for the wedding. The bride doesn't have many girlfriends and I consider her my closest also. But she really doesn't have any friends that can afford the trip either. I was giong to do everything in my power to go until she wrote me a very very rude email. I replied saying the email hurt my feelings and I apoligized for taking to long to make up my mind. I then emailed her a day later and said that I would love to visit her before the wedding and help her with anything I could. This means I can help with the bridal shower also. I hope she wants me to..?

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RE: maid of honor - 2/4/2006 9:28:28 AM

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My next marriage will be a drive thru in Las Vegas ( for real, you can get married without leaving your car....a liscense and a six pack please).....hmmm,,, any takers?

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RE: maid of honor - 2/4/2006 9:33:38 AM

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My next marriage will be a drive thru in Las Vegas ( for real, you can get married without leaving your car....a liscense and a six pack please).....hmmm,,, any takers?

Peace, Kevin

Ok, but I get my own six pack ;)

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RE: maid of honor - 2/4/2006 10:12:23 AM

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buy me an H2. I like black, with leather interior, XM Radio and GPS. It has to have some cool wheels and not those doofus spinning things.

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RE: maid of honor - 2/4/2006 10:14:29 AM

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It's a date! Ooops, I did it again...LOL!!!

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My next marriage will be a drive thru in Las Vegas ( for real, you can get married without leaving your car....a liscense and a six pack please).....hmmm,,, any takers?

Peace, Kevin

Ok, but I get my own six pack ;)

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RE: maid of honor - 2/4/2006 10:37:43 AM

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Go on ebay & see whether You can buy frequent flyer miles; and BE SURE the plane will transfer their usage before buying.

Rent a dress; try a vintage clothing store.

Wear flowers in Yr hair; baby's breath is very cheap.

Good departmart stores will do your make up for free in hopes you'll buy s'thing, but you're not obligated. Call for appointment & leave time.

If i can help, lemme me know.

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RE: maid of honor - 2/4/2006 11:33:48 PM

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Thanks everyone, I don't know if she turned into a bridezilla or what.

Yup, that's the case. Brides go crazy durring weddings and normally don't realize what they say. Stess and excitement role all into one and becomes a wierd combo.

If she's going to be pissed at you because you can't make it, then you don't need her. Just because you are her friend, does not make you obligated to be there. It was be nice to be there, and it never hurts to thank her for considering you as the maid of honor, but if she's going to be a BITCH then what do you need her for. She's how far away from you? Most friendships come and go. You once brought up a thread on changing. This is one of those instances where where you can see a change or two.

Rather than having any more fights or taking offence to any more rude messages, just mail her a wedding card and a gift certificate. For now, just keep replying with the simple phrase "I love you and I couldn't be happier for you. I wish I was there but you know I can't." She may keep telling you bla bla bla about it but just keep repeating the same thing. If you don't get a response from the card/gift, then you know it's time to move on. It would be her turn to make the next move. Chances are, it will not be for about 6mths to a year after the wedding after she had forgotten about being mad at you. Just know, that when you hear from her again, it will be one or all of three things.

1. How are you?

2. I'm comming back to town to visit.

3. I need a favor.

Untill then, just go about your life making friends, finishing school, and having fun.

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RE: maid of honor - 2/5/2006 10:08:38 AM

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Thanks FangsNfeet... I needed that :)

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