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What is the best way? - 4/28/2009 11:51:50 AM   
NeedaWHAPwoman


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Status: offline 		What is the best way to get noticed on collarme? I ask this for my own edification as I feel I am slipping through the cracks here. I am not whining because I know from experience if something is not going your way...you are the one resposible to change it. I am asking for help changing.
       Thank you.
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RE: What is the best way? - 4/28/2009 11:59:05 AM   
SteelofUtah


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Make it something with substance and make it real and from the heart.

If you manage to do this without pushing your own point of views as "FACTS" then when someone identifies with something you said they will view your profile.

If you are looking for something to put in your profile that won't always work however everytime you add to your Journal or Log On you come up at the top of the list so the more you alter your profile and add to your journal while you are on CollarMe you will at least come up first in searches.

However since I have been here I have NEVER had someone who just happened across my profile say hello.... Women get that alot. You will find that your Gender has a lot to do with how offten you get contacted.

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RE: What is the best way? - 4/28/2009 12:10:50 PM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		To get noticed on Collarme, post in the forums.  If you make interesting or thoughtful posts you'll begin to notice that more and more people read your profile.  People get to know whom you are by your posts.  You never know, but that lady of your dreams might be one who becomes interested in knowing more about you
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If I were you I'd also change my profile a bit.  You just say what you want a Mistress to do to you.  You haven't said one thing you are willing to offer other than be a spanking bag.  Your profile comes off as a "do me" profile and those are mostly ignored by Mistresses.  A Mistress wants to be more than just a person to scratch your kinky itches.  It's okay to mention what your main interest is, however, it's a bad idea to put nothing but what you want in your profile.  What can you offer a Mistress?  In what ways can you serve her and make her life better or more interesting?  What are your hobbies?  For example, do you have an interest in car racing, ice skating, opera, going to movies, or sports, etc.?  This might be an interest you can share and do with your lady.  There is more to life and compatibility than a kinky spanking. 

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RE: What is the best way? - 4/28/2009 12:11:55 PM   
TreasureKY


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ORIGINAL: NeedaWHAPwoman

What is the best way to get noticed on collarme? I ask this for my own edification as I feel I am slipping through the cracks here. I am not whining because I know from experience if something is not going your way...you are the one resposible to change it. I am asking for help changing.
      Thank you.


What Steel said.

As far as your profile, try focusing not only on what you are looking for, but what you have to offer.  Stay away from sexual (or kinky) desires.  Tell the women you are interested in just how you will enrich their every day lives.  What are you good at, what are you interested in, what makes you a good relationship partner?

Again, say away from talk of sex. 

Even with a perfect profile, you have a very low chance of getting "noticed" on the other side.  I don't think women troll through profiles much... they get enough contact without having to look.

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RE: What is the best way? - 4/28/2009 12:24:56 PM   
SailingBum


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Status: offline 		Dunno dude your nick sounds whiney.  Don't wanna hear any bull shit about my nick comment.  He did ask!

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RE: What is the best way? - 4/28/2009 12:33:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		Stop asking the same question every month, become multidimensional and has been told to you before, realize what you are asking for is rare--some people never find it.

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RE: What is the best way? - 4/28/2009 1:09:43 PM   
GoddessTeaze


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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

Dunno dude your nick sounds whiney.  Don't wanna hear any bull shit about my nick comment.  He did ask!

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RE: What is the best way? - 4/28/2009 1:24:24 PM   
PanthersMom


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Status: offline 		have a well written profile showing what you have to offer and post regularly in the forums.  make friends and enjoy the fun, maybe someone will be watching you.
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RE: What is the best way? - 4/28/2009 2:34:25 PM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		Once again I find myself agreeing with Steel. He said it better than I could at this ungodly hour.. 

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RE: What is the best way? - 4/28/2009 2:41:32 PM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		Until i read your profile I thought you were a woman. You might consider a nick that lets people know you are a submissive male rather than a woman that needs a beating.

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RE: What is the best way? - 4/28/2009 4:08:37 PM   
PanthersMom


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ORIGINAL: kiwisub12

Until i read your profile I thought you were a woman. You might consider a nick that lets people know you are a submissive male rather than a woman that needs a beating.


did you really mean that to come out that way?  what would have been wrong with saying "submissive male rather than submissive female"?  really, a woman that needs a beating?  geez!
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RE: What is the best way? - 4/28/2009 5:07:57 PM   
FullfigRIMAAM1


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ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici
Stop asking the same question every month, become multidimensional and has been told to you before, realize what you are asking for is rare--some people never find it.
I agree with this, though not so much with the idea that what you want is very rare...   What is rare, is a woman who will fall for you online, and offer you all the spanking details/scenarios you want, without ever meeting or being courted by you.
This of course will involve your getting out of your house, and meeting real women, so that you may just find one who will be right for you.

First, decide what you want.    Than decide if you're single (and check with the wife or girlfriend to be sure).   Than if you are an adult, go out, and get what you want, by being a gentleman who's interested in a woman, more than your spanking.  It's exceedingly hard to court a woman from sitting on your ass, in your house, in front of your computer for months on end, and  even harder to get one to discipline you...    M

< Message edited by FullfigRIMAAM1 -- 4/28/2009 5:17:18 PM >

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RE: What is the best way? - 4/28/2009 5:10:44 PM   
LovingMistress45


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Status: offline 		You do realize you are on a BDSM site, which means most of the dominant women here are not just into discipline?  Your nic, profile and journal very much indicate you want a discipline relationship not a Mistress/slave or Mistress/sub.  I think this may be a problem for you here.  While I started off in the area you are looking for someone in, I would not be interested in that as the sole basis for a relationship any longer as I am looking for a sub or slave.  I think this is going to be a problem for you.

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RE: What is the best way? - 4/28/2009 5:24:18 PM   
SailingBum


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ORIGINAL: GoddessTeaze

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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

Dunno dude your nick sounds whiney.  Don't wanna hear any bull shit about my nick comment.  He did ask!

BadOne


Why what's wrong with you bum???



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RE: What is the best way? - 4/28/2009 5:47:04 PM   
GotSteel


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RE: What is the best way? - 4/28/2009 7:42:04 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Your idea of getting "noticed" leads me to believe that you want to have Dommes contact you.

Dream on.

The Dommes on this site are too busy cleaning out the unsuitable sub males' cmails from their inboxes to make contact with prospective sub males.




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RE: What is the best way? - 4/28/2009 8:05:55 PM   
junecleaver


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Status: offline 		I would suggest a photo and a profile that talks about what you have to offer as a person, not just a spanking dummy or maid.

Your profile screams wanker and time waster to me.


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RE: What is the best way? - 4/28/2009 8:53:56 PM   
dreamerdreaming


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Status: offline 		Get a new screen name. The one you have now is causing me to avoid reading your profile. It fairly screams "one- dimensional, needy wanker here!" What a turn-off.

I'm not trying to rag on you. You might have the best profile text ever, but who will ever know? A new screen name that doesn't portray you as a "do me" sub, would really get you off to a better start here.

A Domme is not a life-support system for your spanking.

Thanks for asking so nicely instead of being like that whiny, bitchy guy from earlier today who was all like "WHY DON'T DOMMES GIVE ME WHAT I WANT."

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RE: What is the best way? - 4/28/2009 9:54:09 PM   
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RE: What is the best way? - 4/29/2009 6:45:59 AM   
Interesdom


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Status: offline 		Become a person.  When I read a profile like yours, it comes across as someone with fantasies, not much reality and no personality.
  • A photo would help (you can disguise your face if you feel you need to).
  • Posting on the forums would help, showing who you are and how you think.
  • Telling something of yourself, your abilities and skills on your profile would help.
Other than that, just accept that being male means you won't get a huge amount of attention online.

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