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sirsholly -> RE: What is the best way? (4/29/2009 6:49:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Your idea of getting "noticed" leads me to believe that you want to have Dommes contact you. Dream on. The Dommes on this site are too busy cleaning out the unsuitable sub males' cmails from their inboxes to make contact with prospective sub males. agrees

TaoWoman -> RE: What is the best way? (4/29/2009 6:54:08 AM)
Very good advice so far - A good photo ( does not have to be identifying) and a well-rounded profile. The only thing worse than a "get on your knees bitch" dominant profile is that of the whiny "do me " submissive...

FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: What is the best way? (4/29/2009 12:38:26 PM)
**Wrong thread** M

LadyHibiscus -> RE: What is the best way? (4/29/2009 12:41:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Your idea of getting "noticed" leads me to believe that you want to have Dommes contact you. Dream on. The Dommes on this site are too busy cleaning out the unsuitable sub males' cmails from their inboxes to make contact with prospective sub males. Actually, this isn't entirely true... I look at profiles all the time. I hide a lot of them, too. [;)]

peppermint -> RE: What is the best way? (4/29/2009 4:55:09 PM)
A great way to get noticed is to post a help wanted question on the message board, thank people for the good advice, and actually FOLLOW their advice. Have you changed your profile so that it's not a "do me" profile any longer? Have you added a nice g rated picture? Have opened a new profile with a more acceptable name? What have you done?

slavekal -> RE: What is the best way? (4/29/2009 5:47:42 PM)
For one thing, put a picture with your profile. That is a biggie. And participate on the boards as often as you can. It will keep your name in front of people, and they will have a better understanding of who you are if they know your opinions and experiences.

techbondage -> RE: What is the best way? (4/29/2009 6:11:21 PM)
Being real about who you are and not candy coating it makes a difference in who I look to contact. If I see a subs profile saying that they will do everything I want, but not mentioning there needs or desires is fishy. I have seen bubs that will do about everything I want but not without having there needs met. It makes it sound too good to be true

LadyPact -> RE: What is the best way? (4/29/2009 6:29:19 PM)
I have to agree with just about everything that has been said so far. I actually prefer getting to know people somewhat through their forum posts. It gives Me a chance to get to know their views on various things and their personality comes through better in most cases. For example, I happen to know a few things about even just the people who have responded on this thread because I've read them post on others. It's much better than going by the profile alone. Yes, put up a picture. It doesn't have to be of your face, but many of us like that. I'm also leaning towards the name change as well. If I'm remembering correctly, there was a thread a while back in the Mistress section about how many are turned off by overtly play/sexually explicit names. It reduces your chances a bit.

Blackwolf9 -> RE: What is the best way? (4/29/2009 6:29:45 PM)
On top of fixing your profile, don't just sit around and wait to be noticed. You MIGHT be noticed, but you might not. Do some looking and contacting of your own. If you are being honest and forthcoming in your profile, and you make first contact maybe they will chat you up. Being submissive does not mean you have to sit around like a log and wait. I found my Master and I made first contact. We've been together for nearly a year now. Ends up he almost never signed on and did little looking after his first month or two....If I'd just waited for him to notice me, I might still be waiting. ~Black Wolf~

OmegaG -> RE: What is the best way? (4/29/2009 6:54:16 PM)
It has always amazed me, not just here but on many singles sights, how many people sign up, fill out a profile and just sit back and wait for "the one" to fall in their lap. How does one get noticed anywhere? They work on it. They present themselves well (that means profile here), they show that they are effective communicators (that would be your journal entries and the boards here), and they don't wait for someone to approach them if they are truly interested. So long as you are just sitting back and waiting, you are indicating that substance doesn't matter to you, that any ol' Domme will do and trust me honey, no female wants to think that she's just one of many that can flip your skirt. If you want someone to be interested in you, you have to chance rejection and show her that you are interested in her, and uniquely her, first

kuriouswitch -> RE: What is the best way? (4/29/2009 11:42:29 PM)
well Master and I found one another in teh chat rooms, the message boards here are good. it takes time to establish yourself and let the "regs" know that you're serious and to get to know you. also adding stuff to your journal or updating your profile every few months helps as well. you don't have to be elaborate just let people know you're still actively looking.

DevotedWench -> RE: What is the best way? (6/15/2009 4:52:59 AM)
I agree, a picture of what You really look like would help. indicate that You are seriously looking, not just for fantasy.

playfulotter -> RE: What is the best way? (6/15/2009 3:25:59 PM)
I have not read all the responses to this subject but like TreasureKY said..Even though i am not seeking i am more willing to respond to someone who doesn't talk about sex and we might have common interests such as gardening or even talking about different BDSM topics i am up to as long as it sounds sincere....[sm=ballchain.gif]

IronBear -> RE: What is the best way? (6/15/2009 3:51:35 PM)
FR Advertise yourself as a Human Dunny Brush and you're sure to have numerous Dominant Ladies queuing up to watch you shove your head in and out of an unflushed dunny.....

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