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The same 10 questions always asked - 4/28/2009 11:45:34 PM

GYPZYQUEEN

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THE SAME OLD SAME OLD..QUESTIONS

I got this idea from LADYPACT...she said she wanted to make a word document for

the same old questions always asked..

I would like to see other LADIE'S questions weather 3 or 5 or 10
that they are repeatedly asked( even if the same ones as someone else) and their standard answer..

1) why can't you give a newbie a chance?
9/10 ...chances are a newbie is looking for a thrill..a quickie..sex or
has not idea what is going on..yes it spoils it for the next
but I do not have time for nonsence and my bull shit radar is always on..I can tell after 3 sentences who is not worth my time and who will not add to my life in any way
2)how can I get my spouse to get into BDsM.?
talk to them..go to websites..ask others..check venusontop.com..
start slow..and IF they cannot be part of this..then you need to rethink
3)"What are you going to do to me?I have no limits"
"Nothing..you are a DO-ME sub" or I say "We will start with castration
4) "DO you need a sub ?"
"Read my profile and see ...what I want is there ..it is all there..
if you wish to write ..tell me how you will enhance my life"
or I don't answer at all
5)"wanna chat?"..usually there is no pic and no info
I don't answer or say the above ..again
6) "got any more pictures?"..
"Yes I have some from the last provincial plowing match and tractor pull "or no answer

GQ

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RE: The same 10 questions always asked - 4/28/2009 11:57:59 PM

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Oh, I love being recognized!!!

I was taught this silly thing years ago. There is a difference between us and the rest of the animal planet. We have thumbs. We can control our urges.

I am a Dominant Woman, to be sure. Yet I will not give Myself up. I will not surrender.

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RE: The same 10 questions always asked - 4/29/2009 12:02:08 AM

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hI waiting to see your questions..

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RE: The same 10 questions always asked - 4/29/2009 12:08:19 AM

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Oh Goodness!! I would hardly know where to start.

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RE: The same 10 questions always asked - 4/29/2009 12:44:23 AM

MysticFireTopaz

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Here are the top six "same old" questions I get asked most often:

Why won't you consider younger subs (18 - 39)? I have found through experience that I have more in common with people closer to my age and am more comfortable with them.
Why no married men? A couple of reasons. If the sub's wife is unaware of what he's doing, I want no part of his deceipt and dishonesty. Even if she is aware, he has a primary relationship elsewhere and would not be able to invest the time and energy I require into the relationship.
Why no cuckolds? They can be good subs and love to please and pamper. I don't doubt that they do, but since I am seeking a long-term monogamous relationship, having outside lovers does not fit into the picture.
Hi, I'll be in Dallas for <fill in the blank, could be business, training class, etc.>. I'd love to <fill in the blank, could be take you out to dinner, buy you a drink, meet for coffee, etc>. What's the harm in that? I don't expect anything in return. Who has time to be getting together with all these out-of-towners? If I am going to meet someone, I'd want to invest that time in someone with whom I could have a continuing relationship, not someone who's only going to be in town for a few days or a week. I am perfectly capable of purchasing my own dinner or cup of coffee, so that's not such a great benefit. I don't drink, so offering to buy me a an alcoholic beverage is pretty useless.
Would you care to chat? No, as a matter of fact, I wouldn't. The only subs with whom I chat are ones who have submitted a letter of introduction and I have determined that there is potential compatability. In that case, I extend the invitation. I am not interested in chatting with every Tom, Dick, and Harry on Collarme.
Would you please recommend a <fill in the blank, could be hotel, nightclub, or restaurant> near <some place in the DFW area>? I'll be in DFW for <one of the same reasons as #4> and am not familiar with the area. This seems to be the newest one and I have gotten it several times lately. When I respond with some suggestions, the next message is always an invitation to join the person at one of the places I recommended. It's kind of a slick variation on #4 and I'm not interested for the same reasons.

Lady Topaz

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RE: The same 10 questions always asked - 4/29/2009 1:00:31 AM

azjojoba

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You said there would be 10 questions, but there are only 6. How come?

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RE: The same 10 questions always asked - 4/29/2009 3:47:13 AM

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There you go...Now you're topping from the bottom.

A good friend of mine is a Pro Dommes and she always complains about the following questions

7. I have no limits, but can you not mark me, I don't want my wife to find out.

8. Instead of paying for your service can I cook or clean for you, I will do it in the nude or dressed as a sissy

9. Why do you want a deposit? I'm for real

10. Can I worship your body with my tongue

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RE: The same 10 questions always asked - 4/29/2009 4:15:24 AM

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11. Hi I am a Dominant male and have always wanted to express my sub side, but my slave would not understand. Can we get something discreet going?

12. Would you marry me and be my Dominant Goddess?

13. What size bra do you wear?

14. Can we be friends? I am not looking for anything other than just that. Here is my AIM name and Do you have a cam?

~Lashra

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RE: The same 10 questions always asked - 4/29/2009 4:38:50 AM

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my list:

1 - what's your bra size?

2 - are they real or plastic?
i get asked these two questions a lot by men since my photos really don't show much ...then the follow-up question would be if we meet, may i touch them? sure you can touch but it will cost you some $$$.

3 - wanna chat/meet and play?
nope

4 - how can you be submissive and own a pet?

5 - what's your favorite BDSM activity?
ignore, block and delete mail like yours

6 - do you like married men? / do you have a problem that i'm married?
perhaps you should ask your wife first if she has a problem with you cheating behind her back.

7 - what are you looking for in a boy toy?
read the nice pretty red wording in my profile - that's what i'm looking for

8 - do you want to watch me cum on cam?
i have something better to do than watch a guy cum on cam

9 - do you have a problem with me being a white guy? / is it true that Black men have huge cocks? / are Black women that sexual?

10. - do you have a problem with me having a small / large cock?

< Message edited by sambamanslilgirl -- 4/29/2009 4:40:43 AM >

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RE: The same 10 questions always asked - 4/29/2009 5:05:09 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: housesub4you

There you go...Now you're topping from the bottom.

A good friend of mine is a Pro Dommes and she always complains about the following questions

7. I have no limits, but can you not mark me, I don't want my wife to find out.

8. Instead of paying for your service can I cook or clean for you, I will do it in the nude or dressed as a sissy

9. Why do you want a deposit? I'm for real

10. Can I worship your body with my tongue

I had to laugh at this

When I worked as a pro Mistress the regular questions would be as above plus

Can I do half the time at half the price?

If I prove to be a good slave will you take me on to work in your dungeon?

Will you blackmail me?

Would you like to keep me here as your prisoner for days Mistress?

Will you get me off at the end of a session Mistress?

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RE: The same 10 questions always asked - 4/29/2009 5:08:02 AM

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I have never been asked my bra size...not even once

I now get asked

How can you be Dominant if your a switch?

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RE: The same 10 questions always asked - 4/29/2009 5:26:13 AM

LadyPact

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I don't know if I have ten, but here are a few...... (These are the quick answers.)

1. I've decided after years of marriage that I'm kinky. How do I get convert a vanilla spouse?

Get yourself a copy of the book "When Someone You Love Is Kinky." Before asking your spouse to read it, you read it first. That way, you both have the same information and terminology to discuss the matter. It also helps you to identify the parts of the book that appeal to you and those you don't. This way, you get to meet on common ground when you sit down together and talk to each other. Maybe the spouse will be interested or maybe they won't. There might be some kind of compromise that you can find. Any of the above possibilities are better than you screwing around on the internet trying to get your desires met without your spouse knowing about it.

2. How do I find kinky people in this location?

Google is your friend, Dude. Search for the name of the closest major city to you and BDSM together. A lot of groups have their own websites. If you come up empty (highly unlikely) why not ask those who are already on this site in your area what munches they attend? Most of us are happy to put you in touch with who you need to speak to about getting a seat at the table.

3. Why is it so hard to find an online Mistress.

Because most of us just plain aren't interested in Dominating someone we've never met.

4. I'm a new/inexperienced Master/Mistress. Why doesn't anyone show me respect?

What have you done to earn it? If the only thing you are master of is that cute little screen name you thought up to join the site, sorry to disappoint you, but you don't qualify.

5. Why isn't poly considered cheating?

In poly relationships, everyone is aware of everybody else. There's no lying, sneaking, or deception involved. If what you're doing with someone other than your primary partner is something you have to hide from them, it isn't hard to figure out in which camp you belong.

6. Can you give me advice about buying my girlfriend a strap on for a surprise gift?

If your girlfriend has never expressed an interest in strap on sex, that's not a gift for her. That's a gift for YOU. Talk to her before you buy anything. If she's not interested in bending you over, all that 'gift' is going to be is a waste of your money.

7. Why doesn't anyone reply to my emails?

Probably for the same reason that most people don't send a response to the junk mail that they get at home. If the person that you contacted isn't interested in you, they may not want to spend the time to write you back.

8. Do you want to chat?

No. I don't know you and have no interest in knowing you.

9. I want to submit. Why won't anyone give me a chance?

Probably because there's a difference between wanting to submit, and wanting to submit to Me. When you figure that out, you'll probably have better results.

And the ever popular..........

10. Why can't I find a r/t Master/Mistress/sub/pet?

Because you're sitting at home in front of your computer and real life is what is outside your door. Go to munches, socials, and BDSM related events. If you want to find the kinky people, that's where they are!

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Beach Ball Sized Lady Nuts. ~ TWD

Happily dating a new submissive. It's official. I've named him engie.

Please do not send me email here. Unless I know you, I will delete the email unread

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RE: The same 10 questions always asked - 4/29/2009 5:39:04 AM

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Hmm. I don't suppose it's the same for sub males. I only get comments, not questions. To the most common question, I feel like answering, "Thank you. I learned how to write at school."

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RE: The same 10 questions always asked - 4/29/2009 5:55:55 AM

chamberqueen

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I'm afraid that some of mine aren't very original as they've already been mentioned here, but others are.

1. Here's my chat address. Don't you want to chat? No, and it specifically says in my profile that I will not give out my address when asked.

2. Don't you want me to lick your boots? (feet, etc.) No, the idea sickens me. I'm just not into having my feet tongued.

3. Are those really your photos? That just hits me as ridiculous and a sign of asking me if I am a poser from the beginning.

4. What's wrong with me? While I have a fascination with psychology I am not either licensed to get there far in depth with someone nor do I care to try to analyze someone I barely know, especially with that broad a question. Ask me something specific like, "I don't understand why I react x when y happens. Can you help me to understand?" but don't give me such a blanket statement and expect me to "fix" you.

5. Haven't you always wanted (fill in their fantasy)? It amazes me at how easy it is for some to project their fantasies onto another. I don't see that as a submissive trait at all.

6. Will you make an exception to your rule of waiting 24 hours after a public meeting before you have a session with me? No. That rule is in place to make sure of my own safety. If a new sub wants to get together with me it must be in public with a waiting period. Anyone can behave themselves pretty well for half an hour of talk and coffee, but I need to make sure that my comfort level is high with the person and the 24 hours gives me a chance to test their willingness to obey a simple command.

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RE: The same 10 questions always asked - 4/29/2009 7:20:33 AM

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The thread is calledTHE SAME 10 .........to set a max
I say 3 or 5 or 10 indicating...all in between

You could write lines today for not reading...and being a nit picker

GQ

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RE: The same 10 questions always asked - 4/29/2009 7:38:42 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MysticFireTopaz
Would you please recommend a <fill in the blank, could be hotel, nightclub, or restaurant> near <some place in the DFW area>? I'll be in DFW for <one of the same reasons as #4> and am not familiar with the area. This seems to be the newest one and I have gotten it several times lately. When I respond with some suggestions, the next message is always an invitation to join the person at one of the places I recommended. It's kind of a slick variation on #4 and I'm not interested for the same reasons.
Lady Topaz

Haha!

That's like what someone from Dallas told me this last weekend...they got a solicitation for "help"..

"Hi, I'm new to Dallas and want to get going in the Leather community down here but can't find anything going on, can you help me?"

Seriously? I just laughed and laughed.

boi
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...planning to be in Dallas in Feb anyways (She misses it)

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RE: The same 10 questions always asked - 4/29/2009 7:41:05 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BoiJen

quote:

ORIGINAL: MysticFireTopaz
Would you please recommend a <fill in the blank, could be hotel, nightclub, or restaurant> near <some place in the DFW area>? I'll be in DFW for <one of the same reasons as #4> and am not familiar with the area. This seems to be the newest one and I have gotten it several times lately. When I respond with some suggestions, the next message is always an invitation to join the person at one of the places I recommended. It's kind of a slick variation on #4 and I'm not interested for the same reasons.
Lady Topaz

Haha!

That's like what someone from Dallas told me this last weekend...they got a solicitation for "help"..

"Hi, I'm new to Dallas and want to get going in the Leather community down here but can't find anything going on, can you help me?"

Seriously? I just laughed and laughed.

boi
Future ruler of the Universe serving MsKitty
...planning to be in Dallas in Feb anyways (She misses it)

Those kinds of questions just make me snort my Pepsi!

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RE: The same 10 questions always asked - 4/29/2009 8:02:59 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Those kinds of questions just make me snort my Pepsi!

I can totally understand it when someone says they're 50 miles from the next major city and can't find anything, but Dallas? The "Hub" of Leather activity? How hard were they looking?Where were they looking? Under a rock to see if ants have a little leather club down there?

I mean I wouldn't call my abilities in the ESP range but most if not all major cities will have something going on in the ways of Leather and/or kink. And it only takes about two seconds on google to find out what it is and who you need to contact about it.

Lazy fuckers are a turn off....please feel free to quote me.

boi
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...the list!

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RE: The same 10 questions always asked - 4/29/2009 8:10:32 AM

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I must admit that I am guilty of asking one of those questions in the past. But a long long time ago you'll be pleased to know. I learn quickly!

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RE: The same 10 questions always asked - 4/29/2009 8:27:06 AM

LadyPact

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Geez, jen! You're not really going to make My quote Myself, are ya? See the above.

Oh, and while I'm at it.......

I want to be a dominate.

The word is Dominant. It's a noun. Dominate is a verb. Which, btw, if you can't tell the difference, you (general you) probably shouldn't be doing this thing in the first place.

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Happily dating a new submissive. It's official. I've named him engie.

Please do not send me email here. Unless I know you, I will delete the email unread

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