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barelynangel -> RE: Just because (4/30/2009 9:51:23 AM)
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My submission is a reaction to dominance and mastery by a Man - he needs to take my submission and my autonomy through mastery and enslavement. I NEED to be mastered by a Man - sorry anything less will result in a very unhappy me whose needs are screaming to be fed and i won't stick around because i will be able to walk away. His hold has to be such that i cannot walk away even if i feel i want too. If he wants me to be submissive to him just because he states he is Master or in your case Dom, i probably won't be sticking around long and will seek out what i need from a Man -- mastery. If he is incapable of proving to me he owns me through HIS actions and yeah its a very physical concept sometimes, and its also emotional and mental, i won't stick around long.
Men have different degrees of which they wish to master a woman or dominate them and they have expectations and standards. If you need more than he is willing to put out for your submission to be a result and exist without your mastering yourself, then perhaps this man isn't the Dom or Master you NEED or are seeking. He may be a great guy, he may work really well with a woman who nature is to please and whose nature is naturally submissive to OTHERS, however, it appears you need to REACT to something in order for your submission to exist. Don't start the whole this guys a jerk idea in your head, its not worth it and simply is silly. He may believe his way of training you is working fine. HAVE you spoken to him about how you feel? Instead of trying to manipulate the situation?
This seriously isn't a fault of the guys or yours, its simply means you both may have hooked up with people who aren't feeding your needs. I would 1 talk to him about it before you start being resentful, and 2) really look into yourself and determine what it is you NEED from a Man. If you need a Man to take you by the hair and force you to submit -- then that's what you need FROM a Man. This concept is what MANY people who are slaves and some submissives i would imagine, do live within. Its called mastery and HOW it is accomplished really depends on the Man and the reactions of the woman to same. Each person has to find what works for them, some women would easily exist in this Man's hold and her needs will be fed, yourself maybe not so much.
Don't feel ackward or unsure, not every slave or submissive out there is because of different types out there -- the i live to please or their natural inclination to PEOPLE in general is a submissive reaction or be submissive just because someone says i should be are fine and dandy for certain types, many are out there as instinctive REACTIONS to mastery of someone else and are not naturally submissive in general - (grins hint many slaves out there have rather dominant personalities and they exist quite happily as slaves of Men), which means it takes more than a guy saying being submissive is this and you need to master yourself into accomplishing this -- sometimes, it does take a Man's rough and tumble mastery of you to be able to exhale and simply BE with him. There is nothing wrong with this, its simply what your needs are. Don't try and make yourself into what you believe is a correct submissive, let yourself react and you will find it a lot less complicated.
Don't let the this is what is correct submission actions get in the way of knowing your needs and being aware and unashamed of them. I could care less if a Man respects me -- many times the respect of a Man for me would hinder his mastery of me because i would take FULL advantage of same and attempt to manipulate him. I don't go for the sweet and nicely respected slavery or submission, i need a Man who is strong and capable of slamming me to my knees IF that is what i need at that time, i need a Man capable of holding me through mastery and enslavement because if he expects me to hold myself in slavery lol i would not be happy and eventually will seek what i need. And my slavery and submission to a Man is NOT a gift, its something he has determined he will have from me and through mastery and enslavement will achieve because his will is greater than my own.
If you start this early on allowing other people to define for you what your slavery or submission should be like, you are hurting yourself, because this has NOTHING to do with other people, it has to do with you and your needs. If you start denying your needs to become politically correct so people don't look at you aghast at what your needs are, you will continue and more than likely forever deny them and if that's the case you may as well stop now. Don't be afraid of your needs, for they are the only thing that will lead you correctly into your natural place with a Man in this type of dynamic.
angel
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