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tiinkerbell -> RE: Seriously considering BDSM, Real-life... (5/1/2009 9:54:30 AM)
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ORIGINAL: akisha
I'm not sure which is worse, discovering D/s online or realtime first.
I started real time at 16, had no idea how to meet other like minded people after my Dom and I parted ways, and thought I was a freak all alone. I didn't discouver online until I was 25. I had only known of 2 people into d/s at that time.
Atleast online you can get some ideas and talk to people and not feel alone, but then you need to take that scary step out from behind the computer and into the scene.
But ral time is sooo much better then online, it's worth the butterflies and nervousness, to get out there and say hi to another kinster face to face. LOL kinda like starting a new job or a new school, nerve racking but in a couple weeks it feels like you were always there.
My experience is sort of like that. I started dating my ex when I was a freshman in highschool. Ours, at first, was mainly only the dynamic. When we started to express an intrest in the play aspects; like a fool, I went for needle play. It was a huge mistake. I was too young, too inexperienced, and too insecure to handle the emotions that came with it. It was total disaster.
Now, I use online only to help gather answers and such; I have to admit, that I have learned a bit since I doubled back and decided to go a bit slower this time.
It's a shame that it took a bad experience to show me that slower is better [:)]
Allison
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