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ranja -> RE: New To This (5/2/2009 12:48:55 PM)
So i take it you are maybe a bit bored and wandring around here for some inspiration? Nothing wrong with that in my opinion...i do however hope you wil be able to draw your husband in...it is not good for your real life relationship if you persue this on the sneak, unless you find out it's not really what you want anyway. As for taking a collar...i recently had it suggested to me by a Cyber Dom, i chose a nice necklace, it is only special because you know what it means...and the meaning can just as easily 'rub' off...He dissappeared...cyber can be very fickle... Have fun and good luck.

mindtrap -> RE: New To This (5/3/2009 12:19:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WhtEvaULike New to this and just had a question . When being collared does it have to be a collar or can it be anything that you and your "Sir" Or "Master" agree on ?? In my case I am married and my hubby know's nothing of this so to wear a collar may be difficult so I was thinking a ring or a braclet is that out of the question or how does that work?? Thanks I am telling you from very personal experience . STOP NOW. Talk to your husband, if you can't work it out or you don't want to work it out, be honest with him. If this is the life you choose or need to live and he has no part in it let him know it. He may surprise you. But if you are ready to be collared than i assume that ship has sailed. I don't know what kind of person he is or you, but I will say that honesty no matter how painful is better than deceitfulness. You'll sleep better

Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: New To This (5/3/2009 5:20:18 PM)
it can be anything that is agreed upon

SIRLOINSTEAK -> RE: New To This (5/4/2009 1:55:13 AM)
hold on, someone said to not do this because we have seen enough people crash and burn!! We can never see enough people crash and burn. We need a runway were people are allowed to crash and burn, and spectators should be located on or near the runway.

SIRLOINSTEAK -> RE: New To This (5/4/2009 1:56:54 AM)
you can never see enough people crash and burn. ;0

Whenready -> RE: New To This (5/4/2009 2:41:26 AM)
The collar can be anything Y/you choose. I had a sub who had a public facing job. A real life collar was impractical, and would have adversely affected her work. She wore an anklet chain. She knew what it meant. I knew what it meant. It was private between U/us, and neither od U/us were known in our public personae as either Dominant or sub. I don't know anything of your home circumstances. Hiding things from a spouse is generally a bad idea. It might at least be worth exploring the idea with husband before committing elsewhere. Then again, I do it. She knows I'm Dominant. She isn't sub, and the idea of it she finds - less than delightful. I don't tell her when I find a sub. She doesn't ask.That dynamic works for My kids. I suspect from the comments above that perhaps one or two might disagree with My choice. But it's My choice. Be sensible. Look at all the options. Secrecy is hard work and if you get found out a crash is likely. I wonder how many of your critics wear their collars in public? If not, isn't that sin by omission? Do their kids know that mom & dad play "kinky games"? If not, why not? If you're going to throw up the honesty / honour / trust issue - which IS important - are you sure you are comfortable looking in the mirror before you do? let he who is without sin cast the first stone.... I'm a sinner. Here endeth the sermon.

HalloweenWhite -> RE: New To This (5/4/2009 3:42:57 AM)
Collars arent always collar, they can be any piece of jewelery you want.

sweetsub1957 -> RE: New To This (5/4/2009 2:16:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming quote: ORIGINAL: Fitznicely quote: ORIGINAL: WhtEvaULike New to this and just had a question . When being collared does it have to be a collar or can it be anything that you and your "Sir" Or "Master" agree on ?? In my case I am married and my hubby know's nothing of this so to wear a collar may be difficult so I was thinking a ring or a braclet is that out of the question or how does that work?? Thanks It can be anything of significance between you and your Owner. However, if you're new, I don't think it's something you need to worry about just yet. If someone wants to collar you when you're unsure even of it's significance, then your answer should be "No thanks". [sm=agree.gif] OP, you're asking the wrong question, IMHO. You're putting the cart before the horse. Better questions would be "Why am I staying married to someone I'm not being honest with? Is that fair to him? Don't both of us deserve to be married to someone who we can be our authentic selves with? Am I wasting both of our time, by staying married to someone who I feel compelled to deceive? What am I afraid of? How long am I willing or able to hide this part of myself away from him? What are my motivations, and why? Am I acting out of love, or more out of fear? What do I have to lose, and is it worth it?" Things like that, would be good questions to start with. Or you may wish you had, when they come up later. EXACTLY!!!! [;)]

WhtEvaULike -> RE: New To This (5/5/2009 1:23:36 PM)
Wow I guess I created a ruckas .. These are just things I am wondering about I do not have a Master or a Sir I do have someone that has asked me about this but I am married and I do consider my wedding ring to be something very special. I do not want to do anything to hurt the one I truely love. He is also learning of some of my new interests and I am thinking he would be willing to do what ever I asked or told him to do. Thanks for all the imput

MSTRMICHAELslut -> RE: New To This (5/5/2009 8:21:54 PM)
Ye Gawdz, you guys are judgemental on here! I think she was just asking about the collar :)

thishereboi -> RE: New To This (5/5/2009 8:24:11 PM)
I think you should have your new masters initials tatood across your forehead. Just tell your husband it's a new age thing. He'll never figure it out.

AngelGeena -> RE: New To This (5/5/2009 8:42:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thishereboi I think you should have your new masters initials tatood across your forehead. Just tell your husband it's a new age thing. He'll never figure it out. [sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif]

FukinTroll -> RE: New To This (5/5/2009 8:45:05 PM)
You could try a big scarlet A.

LadyPact -> RE: New To This (5/5/2009 8:47:09 PM)
Oh My freaking stars!!!!! Hiya Loki.

FukinTroll -> RE: New To This (5/5/2009 8:48:09 PM)
Heya luv. How are you doing? Slurp!

LadyPact -> RE: New To This (5/5/2009 8:52:15 PM)
Even better now since I've had a troll slurp. Ain't had one of them in years.

FukinTroll -> RE: New To This (5/5/2009 8:58:49 PM)
Well I can't promise they will be plentiful. I have a lot going on and the winters... and sadly the spring is getting worse on me. I was poking around... chuckles ... mainly to annoy BSB and to get in touch with SimplyMichael and check on a few other things... like how fucking long does it take a sub to crawl to me, Aquatic... but by summers end I should be ready to make the National Troll tour so I have to get event dates and such. I see that your honey is coming home, can a get a whooo hoooo? Slurp

LadyPact -> RE: New To This (5/5/2009 9:11:48 PM)
Wooooo Hoooooot. Eighteen hours and counting! Speaking of honeys, a word or two for the actual OP. Take it from a gal who knows. Start talking to your other half. If you've already started talking, then talk some more. If you're just starting out, I'd suggest getting a copy of the book "When Someone You Love is Kinky." Read it. If you can see some of yourself in there, ask your husband to read it. Then you can discuss the things that you are interested in, using terminology that you can both understand. You can use the book as a guide and reference to communicate with your husband. He may or may not be willing to participate with you, but at least you'd be giving him the chance.

WhtEvaULike -> RE: New To This (5/6/2009 10:52:06 AM)
Ok I guess I created a ruckas . This is all something that I am curious about and I do have someone that would maybe at some point like to collar me or what ever it might be but yes I am married and No my husband does not know of this he knows of some of my recent ideas and wants and he is ok with them but me being collared would mean maybe alot more commitment than I am willing to give another man other than my husband. I thought this was just a forum to maybe learn what I can about this lifestyle. And maybe chat and learn more is that wrong of me?

WhtEvaULike -> RE: New To This (5/6/2009 10:58:52 AM)
Thanks for the info on the book. All I am asking is for a lil input and where to turn for info on this lifestyle.

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