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openmindedslave -> RE: Photographic Humiliation.. (5/2/2009 5:08:34 PM)

I think with the internet  such a part of our lives, I think  family and friends may just realize that  "it makes sense " that we would evenetually  see a family member in a suggestive postion..

on the other hand,,I think pictures would be  embarrassing for those who are married  when sent ot the spouse or maybe could be a problem for someone with their job if they suddenly had a boss or co workers saw someone in a private situation..Emotionally  it could effect their working career.




pinkwind -> RE: Photographic Humiliation.. (5/2/2009 5:15:04 PM)

You find my family, you tell 'em!

my Dad knew i was peculiar from an early age, and he's passed on now, gawd bless him.

my mother-in-law also knows how peculiar i am, i married her son and stayed with him for over 30 years 'til i got wise and buggered off.

my mother and i haven't seen eye to eye since i was born a girl, she wouldn't give a tinker's wotsit what you said about me now.

my kids, 30+ the pair of them, they know all about their old Mum, and nothing would surprise them less than some bozo turning up with a few tacky pics, trying to touch them for money.

Do your worst!!!





AquaticSub -> RE: Photographic Humiliation.. (5/2/2009 5:59:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MainFragger

I wonder how many people on here could take it if someone forced them to strip, took pictures of them doing all sorts of sick things, and then threatened to send the pics to friends and familiy. Do your relatives know how depraved you really are? I'd love to show them!


Things I define as sick I would do not for ethical reasons as they involve the nonconsenting and children for the most part. As for pictures, I'm very picky about who has them nowadays. Now... if you actually forced me... of course I couldn't take it. You'd be raping me and I'd throw your ass in jail or let my overprotective male friends give you lessons on how to treat women who aren't yours.

Ignored the first bit, if you are counting flogging, tied up, etc as sick... well I'm with the others. Nobody would be shocked though my Mom would give you an ol' fashioned Southern lecture on manners for showing her sides of her daughter she doesn't need, or want, to see.




MainFragger -> RE: Photographic Humiliation.. (5/2/2009 8:59:00 PM)

OK.. Interesting replies. I wouldn't never actually show the pictures, and when I say forced, I meant as in someone who is comfortable in playing.. So not so much forced in real life, as forced in the fantasy. I'd make sure the person I am with understands that.

I think if I were put in the position in real life, my family would freak. My family probably knows that I am kinky, but they don't like to be confronted with it mentally or visually.

As far as my fantasy goes, well, in my fantasy's I like doing things that are at least a little messed up. I'm not out to hurt anyone, but I do like to do stuff that people don't totally expect, either. No one wants to be boring. So sometimes I take things a level or two beyond the norm just to shake things up a bit..






MainFragger -> RE: Photographic Humiliation.. (5/2/2009 9:13:00 PM)

Heh..
Between 12 years of tech support, submitting photographs for review, and auditioning for movies and plays.. Yeah.. I have thick skin.. I also grew up with my grandfather, whose temper could go off at the drop of a dime. It took me about 20 of my 36 years to figure it out, but eventually i realized him losing his temper was not always an automatic reason for me to lose my temper too. So now I pick and choose my battles.




quote:

ORIGINAL: DemonKia

Welcome to the 'peer review' process that is the CM message boards.

You may have participated in 'critique' in art classes; well, you've just participated in BDSM critique . . . . . . Hopefully you've got a thick enough skin to take it . . . . . .

It is meant well, the above posters are doing 'educational service', & I for one thank them . . . . .

Personally, I use photography for 'healing' purposes (around body image & such), with myself & with other women who've allowed me . .. . . So, the scenario you've described doesn't have much resonance for my portion of the universe . . . . .

[:D]





kitastrophe33 -> RE: Photographic Humiliation.. (5/2/2009 9:23:47 PM)

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Mom: "whats this?"
Me "Mine...."
Mom "Hide it better next time"
Me "How often do you lift the bathroom ceiling tiles to "dust" them anyway?"
Mom: "Apparently not often enough"
Me: "Stay out of my air conditioning ducts for future reference."


Ha yeah, I had a special conversation when my 7 year old found my crop. I told her it was a butt smacker I use on little kids who are poking around in other people's stuff. That conversation wasn't nearly as special as the one during which my 7 year old told my mother about my "nosy child butt smacker." Other than that they most I've ever told my mother about my kink is to say that I'm growing my hair out because my boyfriend wants me to.

As for the original post...I vote no. Personally, I don't find that the slightest bit of a turn on. My family has no biz knowing about my sex life. Neither they, nor I want to know about.




LeatherBentOne -> RE: Photographic Humiliation.. (5/3/2009 8:23:53 AM)

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ORIGINAL: marysdream

well the first thing that stood out is the word "forced" i have a great deal of difficulty with that term...it does not in any way constitute SSC.....so cannot wrap my mind around your rant!
have a good one
ree!



Did you ever hear of  "forced" being negotiable when setting limits in an SSC setting?  Some of us say yes to "forced" and agree consentually.

Personally, I have a hard limit as to any pics being taken during a scene even if it is SSC/RACK.  Partner today can become enemy tomorrow.  It's happened too many times.




Jeptha -> RE: Photographic Humiliation.. (5/3/2009 8:38:45 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MainFragger

OK.. Interesting replies. I wouldn't never actually show the pictures, and when I say forced, I meant as in someone who is comfortable in playing.. So not so much forced in real life, as forced in the fantasy. I'd make sure the person I am with understands that.

I think if I were put in the position in real life, my family would freak. My family probably knows that I am kinky, but they don't like to be confronted with it mentally or visually. ...

Good clarification there!

I've done this with brief experiments in exhibitionism - not so much with photos, as those can be permanent records unless you block them out, at which point they become perhaps too impersonal.... and certainly not involving family, even in fantasy (shudder!).

However, have used other willing pervs who are more than willing to work as foils, or incidental extras, voyeurs in a couple's little fantasy thing.
And I've used similar lines about "letting others see what a depraved little bunny you are" or whatnot.

And it was a lot of fun.


We have joked about where photos or videos we've made might end up...

That might be an interesting angle, a "...where should I post this?" kind of torment...




InTonguesslut -> RE: Photographic Humiliation.. (5/3/2009 8:40:45 AM)

~FR~
 
Providing consent is obtained from all parties, sub, dom, the family who are going to be shown these photos it's fairy snuff by me.
I personally can't see the appeal in showing your sub / slaves families compromising photos but whatever floats your boat.
I find all pictures of myself whether i'm in compromising positions or just family snaps humiliating lol. Good luck sending them to my family though, like to see anyone find them to send them too.




Lynnxz -> RE: Photographic Humiliation.. (5/3/2009 8:42:05 AM)

I have a strange feeling that anyone showing my father dirty pictures of me would have his face rearranged.

He's a big dude.... so's my brother now that I think about it...


The one time I've had a problem with photos biting me in the butt, was when we took a quick 2 minute cellphone vid of a blowjob- I emailed him a copy, and his ex wife was being a snoopy whore again and found it.... that's what you get for being nosy.




Raechard -> RE: Photographic Humiliation.. (5/3/2009 8:53:03 AM)

This just demonstrates why as a general rule blackmailers should rely on the postal service and not give a return address.




RCdc -> RE: Photographic Humiliation.. (5/3/2009 10:17:32 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MainFragger

OK.. Interesting replies. I wouldn't never actually show the pictures, and when I say forced, I meant as in someone who is comfortable in playing.. So not so much forced in real life, as forced in the fantasy. I'd make sure the person I am with understands that.

I think if I were put in the position in real life, my family would freak. My family probably knows that I am kinky, but they don't like to be confronted with it mentally or visually.

As far as my fantasy goes, well, in my fantasy's I like doing things that are at least a little messed up. I'm not out to hurt anyone, but I do like to do stuff that people don't totally expect, either. No one wants to be boring. So sometimes I take things a level or two beyond the norm just to shake things up a bit..


I got that it was 'fantasy' because I know your other postings.  However, that doesn't negate your responsibility in posting - because although as Whip mentioned about whether people can take a joke or not, fact is there are people coming onto the forum (particularly newbies) who are clueless and who take this as a bonafide activity.  Regardless of what people want to think (ie - it's not my problem) it is a responsibility that you have.  You post it out there, take responsibility in your postings in the beginning.  Then you don't have to come back and explain.
 
the.dark.




pdv99 -> RE: Photographic Humiliation.. (5/8/2009 4:22:01 PM)

Hard limit on the grounds that although some of them wouldn't care or already suspect, my friends and family wouldn't have consented to this involvement in my kink.

I have no right to consent to their exposure to "obscene" material, and so it's non-consensual.




MarsBonfire -> RE: Photographic Humiliation.. (5/8/2009 6:12:21 PM)

I think that would be incredibly brave... of the dom/me...

After all, it's not every dom/me on Earth that would risk a 15 to 20 year prison term for blackmail just to get their rocks off... Last I checked, having your photo taken in a compromising position might be embarassing... but it's not illegal. But your threatening them with harm, extorting money, or useing the threat of such exposure to gain sexual favors from them is illegal in ALL 50 states. And when it comes down to it... if you had the photos in your posession, and the sub you just POed by pushing them a little too far is claiming such activity on your part... who are the cops going to believe?

Good luck with that.




CatdeMedici -> RE: Photographic Humiliation.. (5/8/2009 6:15:46 PM)

I could take it and you all the way to court and have the pleasure of allowing Bubba to make you his bitch.
 
Oh btw, all My family is dead and My friends---would donate to the legal fund.




thishereboi -> RE: Photographic Humiliation.. (5/8/2009 6:18:16 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

I could take it and you all the way to court and have the pleasure of allowing Bubba to make you his bitch.
 
Oh btw, all My family is dead and My friends---would donate to the legal fund.


Yes, but would you have Bubba turn it into a photo shoot....and what would ya do with those pics?




playfulotter -> RE: Photographic Humiliation.. (5/8/2009 6:20:55 PM)

Over the years mine were pretty much consensual but over half I took myself with my camera on timer delay too....so there ya go!  but then again..i don't put my best ones on here for everyone to see.




CatdeMedici -> RE: Photographic Humiliation.. (5/8/2009 6:30:29 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: thishereboi

quote:

ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

I could take it and you all the way to court and have the pleasure of allowing Bubba to make you his bitch.
 
Oh btw, all My family is dead and My friends---would donate to the legal fund.


Yes, but would you have Bubba turn it into a photo shoot....and what would ya do with those pics?


No, can't --in jail its called incriminating evidence.[8|]




thishereboi -> RE: Photographic Humiliation.. (5/8/2009 6:41:59 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

No, can't --in jail its called incriminating evidence.[8|]


Shit your probibly right, and here I was getting ready to start a new thread on Bubba porn.




LadyConstanze -> RE: Photographic Humiliation.. (5/8/2009 6:45:01 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: MainFragger

I wonder how many people on here could take it if someone forced them to strip, took pictures of them doing all sorts of sick things, and then threatened to send the pics to friends and familiy. Do your relatives know how depraved you really are? I'd love to show them!


If you would really do it for blackmail reasons - no words...

The big thing about BDSM for me is TRUST! If a submissive couldn't trust me, what would the submission be worth? If I had to blackmail him or her into being submissive, well, thanks but no thanks, I like to see myself as a top and not an abuser... BIG DIFFERENCE.

If any of my friends would come and tell me about their relatives having been shown how depraved they are, I think I might come up with some ideas for the person who did that, and I would make sure I had an alibi...




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