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Extremity - 5/2/2009 7:01:45 PM   
Searchin4What


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Status: offline 		I freely admit that I'm not very 'extreme' in my desires, at least as I measure it on the continuum of the people on this site.

Most especially, I'm hyper-paranoid regarding public play and club, because I'm a teacher and the media attention would be such a headache.

That being said, I'd like input on why it is that I deal with submissive who sometimes feel the need to express more extreme desires than I've stated I'm willing for?

There are some ideas I'll entertain, and I value the communication, but is it just a streak of women who really want to be dehumanized, rather than a running trend at large?

I strongly suspect I'm not saying this clearly, and I'll keep an eye out for misinterpretations.
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RE: Extremity - 5/2/2009 7:13:21 PM   
IrishMist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Searchin4What

I freely admit that I'm not very 'extreme' in my desires, at least as I measure it on the continuum of the people on this site.

Most especially, I'm hyper-paranoid regarding public play and club, because I'm a teacher and the media attention would be such a headache.

That being said, I'd like input on why it is that I deal with submissive who sometimes feel the need to express more extreme desires than I've stated I'm willing for?

There are some ideas I'll entertain, and I value the communication, but is it just a streak of women who really want to be dehumanized, rather than a running trend at large?

I strongly suspect I'm not saying this clearly, and I'll keep an eye out for misinterpretations.


If I am reading this correctly, you are saying that you are being contacted by submissives who have more different interests than you do?

If that is the case, then, being the Dominant one in the relationship; just simply explain to them that you are imcompatible and they should seek another.

It's not hard to do

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RE: Extremity - 5/2/2009 7:16:51 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		Why do some people like rock music and others country? Why do some like comic books and others philosphy?

Preference

For others they have a need to always be extreme in anything they do because they need the adrenaline rush like a runner needs a runner's high.

For some they like the idea of being a shock jock. They have this need to be noticed, to always be the center of attention and what's the best way to get attention then to do something where everyone's heads will turn.

In the end, do what you like. Do what you feel comfortable with. There's no need to keep up with the Jones'.

This isn't a competition.

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RE: Extremity - 5/2/2009 7:24:56 PM   
Searchin4What


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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

In the end, do what you like. Do what you feel comfortable with. There's no need to keep up with the Jones'.

This isn't a competition.



This is exactly what it feels like sometimes, especially looking at profiles here in LA.

Patience, as always, would appear to be the key.

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RE: Extremity - 5/2/2009 8:32:48 PM   
RealSub58


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ORIGINAL: Searchin4What

I freely admit that I'm not very 'extreme' in my desires, at least as I measure it on the continuum of the people on this site.

Such a weakness will be without strength  ~~ comparing oneself to others

Most especially, I'm hyper-paranoid regarding public play and club, because I'm a teacher and the media attention would be such a headache.

 You can continue to be hyper-paranoid or relax and KNOW you don't need public play to be who your are.

That being said, I'd like input on why it is that I deal with submissive who sometimes feel the need to express more extreme desires than I've stated I'm willing for?

They are still in fantasy land !!!They'll get over it when they realize reality is far safer than fantasy. 
There are some ideas I'll entertain, and I value the communication, but is it just a streak of women who really want to be dehumanized, rather than a running trend at large?

Dehumanized, degraded  is another fantasy cause so many things they read or think about in regards to WIITWD equals I must be a dead fish on a doormat.
I strongly suspect I'm not saying this clearly, and I'll keep an eye out for misinterpretations.

You have been on this site for 2 yrs (?)  and are finally realizing there are some real nitwits on here ?


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RE: Extremity - 5/3/2009 5:02:24 AM   
ranja


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Status: offline 		If you are not extreme in your desires maybe you could look for someone who is not extreme either? Maybe just look for a mainstream love and add some kink?
Alternatively you might consider loaning her out on occasion to someone who will go as far as she desires?



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RE: Extremity - 5/3/2009 5:57:44 AM   
InTonguesslut


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That being said, I'd like input on why it is that I deal with submissive who sometimes feel the need to express more extreme desires than I've stated I'm willing for?

I've just looked at your profile and you don't have a list of interests there. So how the hell is anyone contacting you supposed to know what you are and are not interested in?
 


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RE: Extremity - 5/4/2009 12:21:57 AM   
LAgirlsub


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Status: offline 		Searchin4What - I just clicked on your profile and honestly I wish you came in a female version. I'm looking for the female version of you.

I want to mention...yes you're right, please don't ever post pictures of yourself. You're a public school teacher, so it would be a very bad idea. I'm a part-time instructor so I feel slightly less inhibited by my profession. But you, please do be careful.

I honestly can't comment on the so called extremes. It's not me and I'm having similar issues on the other side of this. This might pertain to you, but I'm starting to wonder if I just want some kink in the bedroom and not all the rest that goes with this lifestyle. I honestly don't know since I haven't experienced this yet/had a relationship with this component.

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RE: Extremity - 5/4/2009 6:43:22 AM   
amoryblane


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ORIGINAL: Searchin4What

I freely admit that I'm not very 'extreme' in my desires, at least as I measure it on the continuum of the people on this site.

Most especially, I'm hyper-paranoid regarding public play and club, because I'm a teacher and the media attention would be such a headache.

That being said, I'd like input on why it is that I deal with submissive who sometimes feel the need to express more extreme desires than I've stated I'm willing for?

There are some ideas I'll entertain, and I value the communication, but is it just a streak of women who really want to be dehumanized, rather than a running trend at large?

I strongly suspect I'm not saying this clearly, and I'll keep an eye out for misinterpretations.



I"m a straight male, and something of a masochist, so take this for what it's worth w/r/t your situation, but the thing about "extreme desires" is that they tend to be, well, extreme.  They also tend to be very consuming.  For me, the weirder or more extreme my predilection, the harder I tend to look for someone to fill it.  People tend to be bold, pushy, and reckless in trying to satiate their more perverse, edgier, inclinations.  I'm not trying to rationalize their behavior, just offer an account of the mindset that sometimes causes submissives to be determined and diligent to a fault in having certain desires met.


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