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CatdeMedici -> Its Not the End Game... (5/7/2009 12:25:44 PM)
It was the Journey. Reading Lockits post and chatting with Kool, I have finally grasped---its not about winning at the end of the game for Me anymore--that I know won't happen---I'm too happy, too settled, too content, too engaged in life--but the journey has been marvelous. It has framed, defined, and added flesh to who was already there. It gave Me a place, a home, a community as I struggled feeling quite out of place. It taught Me, as I taught it. I used to, at times, look wistfully at the floggers hanging idle, feeling loss--now I look at them as a badge of honor, as THE visual representation of Me, someone out of the norm, someone different, someone in complete and utter control of Her life and Her fate at all times. I would not be here, I would not be who I am had I not had the journey. So for Me, the journey has been much more important and valuable than the end of the game. Sure I don't have a submissive, but I am one hell of a Dominant. Thoughts on your "gameplan"? edited for bad spelling and too long nails

Lockit -> RE: Its Not the End Game... (5/7/2009 12:39:25 PM)
Like everyone else, I have had to examine myself, my life, life in general and on and on... About four years ago I had to face some pretty serious stuff and at that time I would ask myself each day... if yesterday had been my last, would I be happy with it being my last day. I no longer had my advocating work or the means to keep doing all I had done. Lost my business with 911 and though I hoped to start a new one, the economy wasn't looking real good. I looked a love's lost, family... everything. I knew that I had failed in my life's work even though I had many success's in it and did help and bring about some change... it wasn't close to what I wanted to happen. One thing kept me going during that time of self reflection, loss and the knowledge that chances were, I wouldn't get that happy ending I was striving for and used to motivate me. It was this... IT'S NOT THE CRITIC THAT COUNTS It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows in the end the triumph of high achievement; and who, at the worst, if he fails at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat. Theodore Roosevelt It is also like one of my signature things you can read below by Gary Allan. It isn't always the end result... but the ride and it is beautiful!

stella41b -> RE: Its Not the End Game... (5/7/2009 12:44:43 PM)
I would second that.... one hell of a Dominant because you're one hell of a person. Long may you continue to light up the boards. I don't have a 'game plan' or even an 'endgame', but I know where I'm going and I have a path in front of me.

KoolnSassy -> RE: Its Not the End Game... (5/7/2009 1:29:10 PM)
Thank you Cat. A wonderful post – brilliant, open, honest. Let it be said on My headstone or urn. It was ALL about the journey. What an incredibly mysterious, delectable, at times frustrating as hell journey it is too. I too have spent too many years seeking to be “there”, have “it”. I have to laugh now at My own silliness. Oh well. I’m enjoying this moment, here with My comrades, facing new possibilities and reveling in the deliciousness of the unknown but the desire to keep on investigating.

LadyPact -> RE: Its Not the End Game... (5/7/2009 3:38:56 PM)
Very good post, Cat. Personally, I don't really feel like I have an endgame, either. Sure, I have plans and I have goals, but reaching them doesn't mean that everything will be finished. It just means that there will be a new goal to set and more new things to do. This is such an exciting time in My life for Me. There is so much that I have just being Me that all that other stuff just seems secondary somehow. Sure, I'm loving having MP back home and there is a lot that I want to do in the next couple of months, but I was content being Me to begin with. There are things that I'd like to add to My life, but if I don't, it's not like I feel that there will be something, or someone missing.

AlexandraLynch -> RE: Its Not the End Game... (5/7/2009 7:59:31 PM)
I know I have a goal. I also know that that goal may look like the end of the road, but it's just a bend and there will be more road in a brand-new direction. And I am open to the gods changing things, cause that happens sometimes. It's all about the journey, and really, life is much too important to be taken entirely seriously.

AcademyForSlaves -> RE: Its Not the End Game... (5/7/2009 8:40:43 PM)
I agree that the journey is the frosting on the cake, however I would like to eventually reach the goal of finding the best slave. After all, I am a perfectionist. Still searching...

SlaveBlutarsky -> RE: Its Not the End Game... (5/7/2009 9:04:44 PM)
My gameplan is to just be the best person I can be. Pretty simple, but I'm a very simple man. I've found that I've been very successful in different parts of my life by being a good person, doing the right thing and making sure those around me are happy. I don't even really think of the end of the game, I have short and medium term goals, but don't really have a long term ones, well, other than finding the woman of my dreams and making her insanely happy and living a storybook romance that involves activities illegal in some states and that are definitely against the Geneva Convention. But that's it. Along my journey, it's been completely obvious that you can't plan for the future with any amount of certainty. If you asked me where I'd be now this time two, five, ten 15 and twenty years ago, I would have given you completely different answers each time about where I'd be living, with whom I'd be living with, what I'd be doing for a living, how much money I was making etc. etc. etc. Right now I'm actually the happiest I've been in years. Like a lot of them. So I've given up trying to really plan my life out and am more concerned about living it to the best of my ability each day.

ThatDamnedPanda -> RE: Its Not the End Game... (5/7/2009 9:30:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stella41b I don't have a 'game plan' or even an 'endgame', but I know where I'm going and I have a path in front of me. Yeah, that sums it up for me. I know where I'm going, and i know how to get there. For the most part. Most of the time. If I meet someone along the way who's going in the same general direction, that would be fabulous, and maybe that magical something will actually happen, but if not... I'm still going where I'm going, and I'm still going to get there.

DVsFox -> RE: Its Not the End Game... (5/7/2009 9:31:04 PM)
Interesting post. Hmm... Simply put, the journey is over and I'm not sad to see it go. I've reached my goal within this lifestyle. Living it, enjoying it, and cherishing it is at the forefront of my mind now. Being content is wonderful in its own way. It's no excuse to become lethargic and complacent, but it's certainly a wonderful feeling to know that you've reached your goal. The most I want to do now is live with my Owner for the remainder of our days and continue to explore one another. Perhaps that is a journey within itself. If so, I will certainly enjoy this one. DV's Fox

frankieboy52 -> RE: Its Not the End Game... (5/8/2009 4:23:25 AM)
gameplan???you know whats nice about this all...you can change gameplans if you have a thick enough playbook..that may sound like i am a wanker,a user,a poser...but i am not any of those.what i am and now what i must do is change the gameplan and i already have.but i still will be me regardless.

stella41b -> RE: Its Not the End Game... (5/8/2009 12:34:47 PM)
There's nothing wrong with rewriting the script, modifying it or even abandoning form and convention and just sticking with a raw concept. This is what I do in theatre, but then again I approach theatre and life in a similar fashion.

GYPZYQUEEN -> RE: Its Not the End Game... (5/9/2009 9:01:47 AM)
MY "gameplan" is to once again have a POLY home.. GQ

MsDDom -> RE: Its Not the End Game... (5/9/2009 10:03:38 AM)
For me, I had to (years back) take a personal journey...before I could have a lifestyle "game plan"... I enjoy my life and putting things into place to accomplish a goal. Like stella stated about rewriting the script? That happens and it is a good thing... My journey I want to be endless, even if the paths head in different directions sometimes.

Andalusite -> RE: Its Not the End Game... (5/9/2009 10:17:09 AM)
I don't have a single game plan or relationship style I'm looking for. It depends more on compatibility in BDSM, basic relationship qualities, and D/s if we react to each other that way.

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