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tiinkerbell -> RE: Physical punishment… how do you see it? (5/10/2009 1:03:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ranja This thing about maintenance spanking/punishment has me confused....are some of you really doing this everyday as sort of a ritual to keep your dynamic in the right gear so to speak? Do you honestly feel like doing this every day? Does it not become a bit meaningless after a while... something like having to brush your teeth ...sort of like well come on then lets get that outta the way? I'm all for a good spanking, but if it would be something i could set my watch by i don't think i would be as interested somehow...maybe the first week or so would be hot but then i would be inclined to yawn i think. i'm seriously curious I wanted to ask that same question but was unsure if it would insult or not. Allison

Lockit -> RE: Physical punishment… how do you see it? (5/10/2009 1:03:41 PM)
I think it all depends on the people and situation. I think that things evolve in most things or situations. Our wants and needs change and we change with them. Besides, there are always other ways to bring about a similar effect. I would get bored with the same things. Even with spankings, I change it up in different ways. But some things... never get old. lol

Phoenixpower -> RE: Physical punishment… how do you see it? (5/10/2009 1:09:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Every time a thread on punishment comes up, I throw out the same offer. Please accept My invitation to ask clip personally if he likes to be punished. I can promise you that he is going to tell you that he doesn't. LOL, LP you really have a talent to sound so damn convincing.. to the OP I am not ennjoying physical punishment and am actually horrible at it. Whilst I can't help it to push my boundaries at times...if I have to face pain I get it double, because I get so horrid nervous about it that my fibromyalgia already shoots in and causes the first amount of pain, followed by the pain on top of it from the dom...I was never good in taking pain and always glad when it was "over"...on some rare occasions I enjoyed to pretend that whatever he does he can't hurt me anyway or make me cry...well, I learned fast that I am not very strong to win that battle... so nope, I do not enjoy physical punishment at all [:'(]

Lockit -> RE: Physical punishment… how do you see it? (5/10/2009 1:17:11 PM)
Phoenixpower, I have fibro too. I can only imagine what it would be like to add pain to it. That makes me double my fist and see red. lol It isn't always what you will feel in that moment, but the next three days! lol But if I had to chose some days between more pain and a gentle, breezy touch... I would go with a hard bashing! lol I don't know how you do it... kudo's to you though!

MsFlutter -> RE: Physical punishment… how do you see it? (5/10/2009 1:22:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ranja This thing about maintenance spanking/punishment has me confused....are some of you really doing this everyday as sort of a ritual to keep your dynamic in the right gear so to speak? Do you honestly feel like doing this every day? Does it not become a bit meaningless after a while... something like having to brush your teeth ...sort of like well come on then lets get that outta the way? I'm all for a good spanking, but if it would be something i could set my watch by i don't think i would be as interested somehow...maybe the first week or so would be hot but then i would be inclined to yawn i think. i'm seriously curious Every day would wear the novelty right off. An interval of a week to 10 days has been my experience. I remember a young man who always felt better after a spanking when he'd had a particularly trying day. It all kind of trails back to the 'relief valve' line of thought. All my experience has been males - I've never spanked a female submissive but I'm guessing they have a different outlook about it. :)

Lockit -> RE: Physical punishment… how do you see it? (5/10/2009 1:37:32 PM)
Thank you MsFlutter! I forgot I wanted to mention something about the timing of things. I think at first spanking was needed more than later on. It is like you have this need where things needed were not being met. Then things slowed down at least for the maitenance type spanking. A lot depended on life and what was going on too. On real stressful days... I found a quick trip to the spanking bench or where ever... a good start before the evening talk and activities!

MsFlutter -> RE: Physical punishment… how do you see it? (5/10/2009 1:40:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie Wow! What a great question! (Questions). GAWWWWD I could go for hours..... I don't think this has been asked (fully) previously.... I could go on for days about the whole testosterone gig...we have it...it exists...it's real....(sue us)....and it makes us different. Yes....we see things differently. A lot. Tremendously. What do you think? As women...as Dommes? We think we love you. (We're certain of it, actually). You can convince us of it....(honest). We love the ritual. We love the same thing every night...we actually love the fact that you wear that black thing (leather, or otherwise)....every time (and of course, macaroni and cheese, baked potatoes, some kind of bread....). (And toast). Remember that time (about 7 years ago when) we discussed something you said was "over the top"....and you said...."*I'LL NEVER* DO THAT!!!!!!*" ? (We want you to do that).* (Fairly often, actually). So....."that might be different than a female’s view of things"...... Uh huh. (Just a smidge). LOL Lookie - I love (most) of your posts and I'd be very interested to see you to expand on this. So far you've made it clear that ritual seems to suit males, that the testosterone influences their perception. It is the spanking (at what point really is it punishment?) or subtle reinforcement of dominance - or does one simply fare better when combined with the other? G'head - I'm sure there's some interesting stuff behind Yes....we see things differently. A lot.

Phoenixpower -> RE: Physical punishment… how do you see it? (5/10/2009 1:48:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit Phoenixpower, I have fibro too. I can only imagine what it would be like to add pain to it. That makes me double my fist and see red. lol It isn't always what you will feel in that moment, but the next three days! lol But if I had to chose some days between more pain and a gentle, breezy touch... I would go with a hard bashing! lol I don't know how you do it... kudo's to you though! I am just soooooooooooooo noooooooooooooooooooooooooot a painslut...I don't mind to get a wake-up slap if I push a bit..but if it gets more, then I seriously hate it...and I know that some people enjoy even belt which is a real threat for me...nope...pain I a always happy to avoid if I can....my only little hope is sometimes that when I end up in receiving pain that this pushes out all the fibromyalgia "bacteriums"...so kind of when I am whipped out that my fibro is gone...kind of like a carpet, once the dust is whipped out it is cleaned again....but sadly...thats too much a fantasy as it never worked that way (and i am not naive enough to think that just some more whipping will do the trick...[&o]). So, when I can I certainly avoid....already seeing you and LP on picture here makes me nervous at times [>:] (even when I know there is no reason to be lol)

Lockit -> RE: Physical punishment… how do you see it? (5/10/2009 1:52:27 PM)
Awww... my bark is worse than my bite! But my picture.. this new one is kind of big and scary to even me! As much as I love spanking... I promise... I won't hurt you! lol

janiebelle -> RE: Physical punishment… how do you see it? (5/10/2009 1:52:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP quote: ORIGINAL: tiinkerbell I am going to feel like a huge idiot asking this but...what is a maintance spanking? Allison The only dumb question is the unasked one. Maintenance, just what it sounds like. You do maintenance on your car to keep it in good condition, maintenance spankings are administered on a regular schedule to help keep your headspace in a good condition. Some people do this every night right before bed, or every morning. Just 5 minutes or so, just so you are reminded of your dominant's power over you. My first master called this a "tune up"; and the term has stuck with me through the years. j

Phoenixpower -> RE: Physical punishment… how do you see it? (5/10/2009 1:58:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit Awww... my bark is worse than my bite! But my picture.. this new one is kind of big and scary to even me! As much as I love spanking... I promise... I won't hurt you! lol LoL....thank you[8\|]

LadyPact -> RE: Physical punishment… how do you see it? (5/10/2009 2:04:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Phoenixpower LOL, LP you really have a talent to sound so damn convincing.. It's part of the job. Comes with the territory. <wink> There was something catize said on the prior page that I wanted to comment on. She was spot on when she mentioned that thing about how the D type feels about it. I don't like to punish. Administering it is not a good time for Me. It means something is seriously wrong if it's gotten to that level. That alone upsets Me a great deal. While I may be the one handing out a punishment, it doesn't mean that I'm not affected by it.

Phoenixpower -> RE: Physical punishment… how do you see it? (5/10/2009 2:14:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: Phoenixpower LOL, LP you really have a talent to sound so damn convincing.. It's part of the job. Comes with the territory. <wink> There was something catize said on the prior page that I wanted to comment on. She was spot on when she mentioned that thing about how the D type feels about it. I don't like to punish. Administering it is not a good time for Me. It means something is seriously wrong if it's gotten to that level. That alone upsets Me a great deal. While I may be the one handing out a punishment, it doesn't mean that I'm not affected by it. LoL....yeah yeah...territory... somehow your theory underneath I recently heard from my current date from cm...he also said that he doesn't like it when it comes to punish his kids or his sub, but when it "needs to get done" then he will do it...he sounded convincing that it can happen that you dom(mes) don't necessarily like to do it...its just a bit difficult to believe sometimes ya know...

DarkSteven -> RE: Physical punishment… how do you see it? (5/10/2009 2:16:33 PM)
A maintenance spanking can be given for several reasons. It could be for a tune-up as previously stated, or it could be to quell an attitude that's getting bad but not bad enough for a punishment spanking. I once had a relationship with a woman with DID and sometimes she needed a pre-emptive maintenance spanking when some of her personalities were getting dangerously close to self-injury.

Phoenixpower -> RE: Physical punishment… how do you see it? (5/10/2009 2:18:42 PM)
yeah I observed that dom(mes) don't approve of attitudes...[:(]

sblady -> RE: Physical punishment… how do you see it? (5/10/2009 2:30:09 PM)
The (one) time My Sir felt punishment was necessary, it wasn't physical (thank goodness). He advised me early on that it would be best if He never felt the need to punish me physically. As I can handle a fair amount of pain, the idea of physical punishment is enough to keep me on track. One of the posts mentioned "maintenance punishment". What's that all about? I receive the "look" and/or a pinch when I'm a bit lax in my demeanor, but maintenance punishment would seem confusing. I'm in no way, shape or form "dissing"other relationships and my question is sincere and hopefully, still within the realm of the original question. If it isn't many apologies. [;)]

Lockit -> RE: Physical punishment… how do you see it? (5/10/2009 2:37:31 PM)
I think it is more maitenance spanking rather than punishment and isn't done for punishment. It is simply that the submissive somehow balances out emotionally from getting a spanking and needs them regularily. It really isn't a punishment dynamic the way I see it or have experienced it.

Phoenixpower -> RE: Physical punishment… how do you see it? (5/10/2009 2:49:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit that the submissive somehow balances out emotionally from getting a spanking and needs them regularily. [8\|] Hope my prospective Dom does not get such ideas into his head[8\|] I can only agree to sblady that just the idea or imagination of physical punishment is for me (personally) enough to keep me on track too...only doms sometimes do get carried away though

Lockit -> RE: Physical punishment… how do you see it? (5/10/2009 2:59:35 PM)
Nothing I do is done without seeing a reason behind it and my submissive partner seeing it and wanting it too. With someone who loves spanking... I love giving them. For someone who doesn't, I don't want to give them. I feed off of my submissive and his responses. If he is just doing something for me... in the area of play... I don't want it as it doesn't feed me. For me, it takes two to tango and dancing alone just doesn't get me off. (so to speak) Punishment is just not something I like.

LadyConstanze -> RE: Physical punishment… how do you see it? (5/10/2009 3:04:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Every time a thread on punishment comes up, I throw out the same offer. Please accept My invitation to ask clip personally if he likes to be punished. I can promise you that he is going to tell you that he doesn't. Yes, I do think a good number of people confuse spankings and other physical activities, also known as "play" with punishment. Some can not accept that these things can be done just to have a fun time. They have to have an underlying reason for engaging in what is enjoyable. Almost like they can't admit that they want to receive a few blows. There has to be some underlying fault somewhere. It can't just be a case of, I like inflicting pain, you like receiving pain...... Let's get it on! Absolutely, whipping a masochist is hardly a punishment for him... A punishment is something the person just does NOT like, usually being ignored for a certain period of time...

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