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Any Advice?? - 5/10/2009 11:22:24 AM

BHarrick

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My last post was deleted...I am sorry. But now I need to be more direct with my question. As I am new to the site, and the society in general. I am looking for any advice you can give for finding a true committed Mistress who will be patient with a noob like myself. And along with that, what should I do as a sub to please my first mistress?

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RE: Any Advice?? - 5/10/2009 11:24:34 AM

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By communicating with her & communicate with her.

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RE: Any Advice?? - 5/10/2009 11:28:08 AM

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Welcome to the forums.

"Any advice?"

Yes!

We get this question like, every five seconds. Use the search function in the upper right corner here, and you'll find a treasure trove of great advice.

Explore, and have FUN!

My other best advice includes: Be patient, and take time.

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RE: Any Advice?? - 5/10/2009 11:31:23 AM

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It's not all that different from finding a partner, with some people you will click, with others you won't, you might have to compromise on some aspects... Pretty much the same stuff 'nilla folks go through.

As somebody said, communication is important and patience, don't expect a miracle to happen, not ruling it out but I wouldn't bet on it. Additionally, it might be a good idea to go to munches and such, get to know other people, it will help you with knowing what you look for and (possibly more important) what you don't want. An added benefit will be that you get to know more people, now those people also have friends... I wouldn't just look online, because that is a bit limiting.

Good luck

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RE: Any Advice?? - 5/10/2009 11:35:35 AM

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Your profile shows that you are very young and are looking to explore this online. You are not yet ready to step out there and do it in person. You like cybering and chat rooms and that is most likely where you will find someone who will do the online thing. You seem to be saying that you want a commited relationship that is based online... and I am not sure how that really plays out.

Some are afraid to step out all the way and in person and will get their feet wet online. But personally I think that leads to a continued fear of in person and a lot of fantasy that builds up that is difficult to break a pattern of and becomes a habit if you will.

I would encourage you to explore in person with a patient dominant who understands the situation and will go slowly with you.

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RE: Any Advice?? - 5/10/2009 11:53:29 AM

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Mistresses aren't all mistresses; I prefer to be called Ma'am, or my name, and no one can tell you how to please another dominant woman. If you are a gentleman who is respectful, courteous, and submissive, that will go a long way towards finding a domina, whether you are a noobie or not. M

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RE: Any Advice?? - 5/10/2009 4:37:07 PM

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Thanks you for all your advice and I shall check out FAQ's and other topics about this.

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