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ORIGINAL: subangi

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ORIGINAL: SlaveBlutarsky

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ORIGINAL: Arpig

I agree with marie2, that's a great idea

Sorry, passive aggressiveness is never a great idea.

I am not asking this to be rude at all.  I was just wondering how you say that is passive aggressive behavior.  Isnt passive aggressive behavior doing something in a manipulative or damaging fashion to get what you want?  I would think he obviously has difficulty communicating feelings on this, and if writing a story is about to be about them,  then, in essence it might have a cathartic effect on him and also shed light to his thoughts and feelings about the task to his Domme.  Is that so wrong?   

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My problem is I get very little response from her
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How long have you been writing?
What did she say as to WHY you were?
DID she say feedback..?creativity?staying on task? an assignment?

One of the reasons I assign writing and DO NOT DISCUSS for a while is it gives insight INTO the sub...his thought processes..desires..fantasies..how he sees our relationship?
what drives is submission..

I also do not discuss if I am looking for things
to add to the dynamic for control such as seeing a fear expressed in a story then using that as an edge play scenerio.
..or specific words the sub uses repeatedly like.
eg) slut hole...I then know this word illicites a response for him

IF SHE had that purpose and told you.."hay I look at your stories after to see how you think and how to use this in our dynamics"
..you then could automatically top

 from the bottom or become less FREE in your writing..and inner expressions.

At some point I do discuss it if is a assignment where I am lookng at feelings...
I would be willing to bet she is looking more after you are out of the scene..and getting to know you..

AS well fishing for praise etc does not always go over with some..
if you are doing as you  are told ...a MISTRESS is pleased and you are pleased knowing this,,

IF NOT then you need to talk..
Tell her you are enjoying pleasing her with your writing and   you hope she is..
"HOW can my writings be more pleasing to you  Mistress.?"
 
GQ





< Message edited by GYPZYQUEEN -- 5/14/2009 1:26:57 PM >

(in reply to Steponme73)

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ORIGINAL: SlaveBlutarsky

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ORIGINAL: subangi

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ORIGINAL: SlaveBlutarsky

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ORIGINAL: Arpig

I agree with marie2, that's a great idea

Sorry, passive aggressiveness is never a great idea.

I am not asking this to be rude at all.  I was just wondering how you say that is passive aggressive behavior.  Isnt passive aggressive behavior doing something in a manipulative or damaging fashion to get what you want?  I would think he obviously has difficulty communicating feelings on this, and if writing a story is about to be about them,  then, in essence it might have a cathartic effect on him and also shed light to his thoughts and feelings about the task to his Domme.  Is that so wrong?   

I don't know, using his assignment as a way of communicating how he's not getting what he needs and is afraid to ask for directly is manipulation to me. If he wants to outline his thoughts and feelings in a letter to her because he has trouble verbalizing them, than I'm all for that, but taking this pretty serious situation and using an assignment given to him as a way to confront her with it is an insult to her in my opinion.