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ScorpGirl444 -> RE: Can submissives be assertive? (2/6/2006 12:15:08 PM)
88% assertive 75% social Not bad.

yourMissTress -> RE: Can submissives be assertive? (2/6/2006 12:22:51 PM)
OK< I only got a 98 on the first one...

Wildfleurs -> RE: Can submissives be assertive? (2/6/2006 12:58:29 PM)
75 on the assertiveness test. 70 on the social skills test. C~

typesgirl -> RE: Can submissives be assertive? (2/6/2006 7:29:04 PM)
I'm a 90 on the assertiveness. I think the idea that subs can't be assertive is a misnomer. It's all about who you're assertive with. I'm super social and assertive in life outside my relationship but when it comes to Master...well I'm different and I think He likes that. typesgirl

tendergirl -> RE: Can submissives be assertive? (2/7/2006 2:03:42 AM)
I only got a 20 .... argh submissive or what?

slavejali -> RE: Can submissives be assertive? (2/7/2006 12:29:29 PM)
Assertiveness = 78 Social Skills = 80

ownedgirlie -> RE: Can submissives be assertive? (2/7/2006 1:35:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: typesgirl I'm a 90 on the assertiveness. I think the idea that subs can't be assertive is a misnomer. It's all about who you're assertive with. I'm super social and assertive in life outside my relationship but when it comes to Master...well I'm different and I think He likes that. typesgirl i agree with you. If i wasn't assertive at work i wouldn't succeed there. If i wasn't assertive with my family they would walk all over me. i am required to be strong and assertive with the world but fall to his feet before him. Nowhere in his ownership of me does he want me submitting to anyone else....unless of course i am instructed to. If people at work knew how submissive i was, they would be shocked. It is my submission to my Master which gives me the strength to stand up before the rest of the world.

Sabella -> RE: Can submissives be assertive? (2/7/2006 6:58:56 PM)
65 on Assertiveness, 77 on Social one (69 ability to deal with conflict)

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Can submissives be assertive? (2/7/2006 7:38:03 PM)
55 assertive.....85 social....eh...

Evanesce -> RE: Can submissives be assertive? (2/7/2006 8:27:54 PM)
quote: I'd be curious to see how submissives score on this free personality test: http://www.queendom.com/tests/minitests/assertiveness_abridged_access.html I scored 85, but then, I'm not submissive.

Evanesce -> RE: Can submissives be assertive? (2/7/2006 8:44:58 PM)
quote: This is an even more interesting test: http://www.queendom.com/tests/relationships/social_skills_access.html >> On this one, I scored 79. Interesting, indeed!

seaturtle50 -> RE: Can submissives be assertive? (2/7/2006 10:28:29 PM)
Results of Your Assertiveness Test Assertiveness Your score = 85 What does your score mean? According to your results on the Assertiveness Test, you are doing quite well in the assertiveness department. Somewhere along the line, you developed the necessary skills and self-confidence to stand your ground, whether it's with family, friends, or colleagues at work or school. You know that you deserve respect from others, and the way you behave encourages others to treat you accordingly. As long as you show as much respect for others as you expect in return, you are on the right track.

seaturtle50 -> RE: Can submissives be assertive? (2/7/2006 10:55:03 PM)
Hmmm .... i also got an 85 on the Queendom test. <might have to rethink this whole sub thing> [8\|]

Celeste43 -> RE: Can submissives be assertive? (2/8/2006 7:59:21 AM)
55% on the Assertiveness Test. However, I can't put much validity into it as it makes the assumption that I act the way I feel. That if I feel nervous about making a phone call, then I don't make it. And that's false as I usually wait sometime until I'm sure of what to say and how to say it, plus feel up to it. I've learned coping skills but the test doesn't allow for that. Feelings aren't facts and they assume the two are identical.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Can submissives be assertive? (2/8/2006 8:03:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Celeste43 55% on the Assertiveness Test. However, I can't put much validity into it as it makes the assumption that I act the way I feel. That if I feel nervous about making a phone call, then I don't make it. And that's false as I usually wait sometime until I'm sure of what to say and how to say it, plus feel up to it. I've learned coping skills but the test doesn't allow for that. Feelings aren't facts and they assume the two are identical. LOL scarily that's exactly the response that I had. I'm a fairly shy and anxious person a lot of the time. But I've held leadership positions since I was very young. I go to clubs on my own regularly. I get things done and most people don't believe me when I tell them I'm shy. The fact is that a lot of people DO believe submissives are meek and shy and soft and need tending to. Otherwise we wouldn't continue to have this sort of thread come up.

incognitoinmass -> RE: Can submissives be assertive? (2/8/2006 8:20:18 AM)
Speaking only for myself, submitting is not the same as being submissive. I am not at all submissive or timid in my vanilla life. But behind closed doors I crave the release that complete surrender brings. It's practically cliche to hear about hard charging types like police officers, corporate go-getters, etc who are submissive in their private lives. I have no problem being assertive if assertive is what is required. Besides, sometimes a little push back gives everything a delicious edge.

mistoferin -> RE: Can submissives be assertive? (2/8/2006 8:35:22 AM)
Assertiveness Test Your Score = 95 What does your score mean? According to your results on the Assertiveness Test, you are doing quite well in the assertiveness department. Somewhere along the line, you developed the necessary skills and self-confidence to stand your ground, whether it's with family, friends, or colleagues at work or school. You know that you deserve respect from others, and the way you behave encourages others to treat you accordingly. As long as you show as much respect for others as you expect in return, you are on the right track. Social Skills Test Your Score = 90 Interpretation Your results show that your social skills are as sharp as a tack. People most likely feel comfortable with you because you know what it takes to put them at ease, and you willingly use this knowledge to do so. You are fortunate to have excellent social skills because this puts you at an advantage in many ways.

Hallittlelolita -> RE: Can submissives be assertive? (2/8/2006 9:55:36 AM)
i got 68 that was my score[:)] i guess that's ok Sincerely Master Hal's slaveslut andie

blackpearl81 -> RE: Can submissives be assertive? (2/8/2006 12:26:34 PM)
Assertive: Your score = 50 What does your score mean? According to your results on the Assertiveness Test, you seem to be doing relatively well in standing up for yourself. In most day-to-day situations, you possess the necessary skills and inner-confidence to tell others what you need, think or want. There may be the occasional moment, however, when you find yourself hesitating to declare your view on things. Why not take some steps to improve your ability to stand up for yourself, since you've already mastered the basics? You have nothing to lose, but plenty to gain.

Sunshine119 -> RE: Can submissives be assertive? (2/8/2006 1:51:53 PM)
I got an 80.

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