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Does bdsm run in your family? - 5/13/2009 8:24:05 AM   
sparkelfairy


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Status: offline 		Hello all,

I am just wondering if any of you have had an experience like mine and what you have done about this.  Very recently my 21yr old daughter came to me and confessed that she is in a D/s relationship.  It gave me the opportunity to share my story with her.  We laughed and cried and now share a stronger bond. 

So my question is this do any of you find that bdsm runs in your family?  Just curious thank you
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RE: Does bdsm run in your family? - 5/13/2009 8:29:07 AM   
NYLass


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RE: Does bdsm run in your family? - 5/13/2009 8:29:27 AM   
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RE: Does bdsm run in your family? - 5/13/2009 8:30:34 AM   
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RE: Does bdsm run in your family? - 5/13/2009 8:39:19 AM   
ranja


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Status: offline 		I don't really talk about it with my parents...what they see they see and if they would ask i would tell...but i would not like to rub it in...i think they are like this too but were too puzzled to sort it between them they have split up ages ago and are both single now...

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RE: Does bdsm run in your family? - 5/13/2009 8:40:55 AM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		This is an interesting concept and something I've actually wondered about. It makes sense in a family type situation where people tend to emulate one another.

I can't say for sure in my own family tree but I've often noticed that the youngest son (in his late teens) definitely exhibits D type behaviour and I will not be surprised when he 'finds' himself one day.

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RE: Does bdsm run in your family? - 5/13/2009 8:46:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		My parents have a very strong traditional marriage, with him as the head of the household. They don't view it as D/s, and there's no DD involved, but the dynamics are fairly clear to me.

My brother, he's drawn to very strong women and admitted to me he's 'dabbled' in bdsm.

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RE: Does bdsm run in your family? - 5/13/2009 11:23:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		My mom is very clearly in control of her household.  I don't know about the kink and don't want to, though I suspect they are not quite as squeaky as the average couple (whatever that is).  My sons seem to split my switch tendancy with one being very controlling in social interaction and a nuturer.  The other has blatant subbie tendancies, yet is quite aggressive and independent in most respects.  The younger one also enjoys self inflicted pain and other such games.  If it runs in the family, I wouldn't really be all that surprised and hope they will be comfortable enough to come to me with it when they discover these things about themselves.  I think if they can talk to someone who has been there, it will save them a great many mistakes and heartaches.

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RE: Does bdsm run in your family? - 5/13/2009 11:38:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		My mom was clearly dominant and Dad a doting sub  ...worshiped her..hung out laundry..cooked......cleaned..did her hair..they had a very strong bond.( female led home).
I am DOMME and recently my daughters have come to me  one is 25 one is 30..the 25 realizes she is DOMINANT and the 30 feels she may be a switch..
We had a good talk as well and I lent them books .told them of sites..etc and they are exploring.
 
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RE: Does bdsm run in your family? - 5/13/2009 11:50:29 AM   
Fitznicely


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Status: offline 		My dad was a mommie's boy thru and thru, but turned out to be a controlling, very angry and unfulfilled SOB.

My mom's a strong type, but has had any fight knocked out of her in many ways.

I think the regulation and self-control required to be a Dom would have benefitted my family immensely.

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RE: Does bdsm run in your family? - 5/13/2009 11:54:21 AM   
Carnae7


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Status: offline 		Too funny!  Both my kids are into BDSM as well, but I never thought of it as 'running in families'.  

My daughter and her fiance attended a BDSM lecture with me, and we have had various discussions about our BDSM interests, and how we incorpoorate these aspects into our lives.  Actually, my daughter is one of my favourite 'shopping buddies' when looking into fetwear, and fet products, and I really value her opinion.

Meanwhile, my son and daughter-in-law have 'claimed' one of our common venues as theirs, while I have laid claim to another, so that we don't accidentally 'witness' each others' 'sex' lives, so to speak.  They also blessed me last Christmas with some new BDSM  implements that they knew I had been wanting.  And, we're even on the two of the same BDSM sites, but have promised each other not to look at each other's profiles, pix, etc.  I know I have kept my promise and honestly believe that they have kept theirs.  And if by chance they have looked, well... that is their choice and I guess they will have to live with it. 

So does it run in families - I'm not sure.  Is it nature vs nurture, I'm not sure.  Did I actively, intentionally expose my kids to my interests and desires - absolutely not.  But then, I never actively, intentionally taught my children to copy or emulate my other behaviours/interests either.  So.... maybe it is just 'picked up' as other things are as well in families.  For instance, my son and I are both heavily into psychology-based professions.  And my daughter and I are both very much into nurturing others as an active part of who we are in our everyday lives. 

But this questions has got me to thinking about how discussions ever got around to BDSM topics, and the truth is, I don't even know.  I've just always been very open to whatever questions they may have had about anything and everything.

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RE: Does bdsm run in your family? - 5/13/2009 12:23:45 PM   
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RE: Does bdsm run in your family? - 5/13/2009 12:24:50 PM   
TickledToDeath


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Status: offline 		BD/SM itself does not run in my family, however my mother was heavily into Tickle Torture. She was sadistic to many of her friends and was very open about it. I actually teamed up with her many times over the years and was teamed up ON by many with her as well. She was also into bondage. Not sure how much further into the realm she went.
Never really knew my father so no clue if it was in him as well.
No bros or sisters either. I am reasonably sure however that it would have been somewhat instilled in other family members if there were any. Genetics has a way about that a lot of the time.

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RE: Does bdsm run in your family? - 5/13/2009 12:27:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

I don't even want to know.


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RE: Does bdsm run in your family? - 5/13/2009 12:35:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have one very close relative , an uncle in Florida.  Several years ago he became very ill and I went  down there to be with him. He had left his house in a hurry and because I was going to be staying there went there to fix things up. Well when I walked in there was suspension equipment out and some other toys. I looked around and wondered if I was in the right house.  So I put things away and didn't say anything as my uncle was critically ill for a few weeks.

A few months passed after he was home and doing better. He calls me up and asks" Did you want to talk about something?"  We started talking and I told him of my involvement in BDSM also.  We laughed and thank god I never ran into him when I lived there and was involved in the local scene, that would have freaked me out a bit.

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RE: Does bdsm run in your family? - 5/13/2009 12:37:25 PM   
MasteRick2008


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Status: offline 		I have never talked to my family about it. I believe that a few of my family members are into it from subtle clues.

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RE: Does bdsm run in your family? - 5/13/2009 12:48:09 PM   
subbisherri


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RE: Does bdsm run in your family? - 5/13/2009 12:52:49 PM   
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RE: Does bdsm run in your family? - 5/13/2009 1:04:35 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: silvermuse

My parents have a very strong traditional marriage, with him as the head of the household. They don't view it as D/s, and there's no DD involved, but the dynamics are fairly clear to me.



The "generic you" ppl call it BDSM... have other lame ass terms for it.  like daddys slave, subs blah blah blah.  As if the "generic we" need some soft of secrect handshake and call "outsiders" vanillia with disdain in "our" voice.


I call it the way i was raised Dad is da boss ...  I da boss in my family.  What happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom  ie my parents may be the most deviant folks on earth Id never know.

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RE: Does bdsm run in your family? - 5/13/2009 1:08:28 PM   
male2shemaid


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Status: offline 		Many years ago I used to frequent a BDSM club in the South West of the UK.

I got to know a friendly couple, both in their late 50s, where she was Domme and he was her sub TV. They were friendly to chat with and as I got to know them I learnt that they had a son, who was married, but that they had not seen their son or daughter-in-law for many years since shortly after they got married.

No reason was given to why this was so.

One night at the club this couple were surprised to see, on their first visit to a fetish club, their son and daughter-in-law enter the club. The son was a sub TV and his wife was a Domme.

You could almost hear a needle drop when they first set eyes on each other. The shock on all four faces was interesting.

They talked in a corner of the club for the rest of the evening.

I never saw either couple at the club again.

Make of that what you will.


I also once met a sub couple in the UK, both late 40s, who told me that they once got an email from a 22 year old Domme who lived in the same county as them. The young Domme turned out to be their daughter and apparently they had to have a long talk with her about their own interests.

I have no idea how that developed other than the couple told me, quite rightly, that they obviously had no BDSM contact with the daughter.


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