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RE: Conundrum: Who initiates? - 5/15/2009 6:12:26 PM

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LH, I know that isn't especially a surprise to you.

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RE: Conundrum: Who initiates? - 5/15/2009 6:28:51 PM

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LH, I know that isn't especially a surprise to you.

Well, no, I just didn't want him to think that he got one past me!

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RE: Conundrum: Who initiates? - 5/15/2009 10:44:15 PM

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Apologies if I'm reapeating...
IMO, she either is timid, and not good at initiating, (and would gladly take over once you initiate the hotness), or she isn't into any of this kinky stuff, and just likes you, and is leading you on pretending.

I say, go for it, initiate, and see what transpires... If she is into the kink thing, she'll take right over and be all over you like white on rice once you initiate. My guess is that, if she didn't want you, she wouldn't have replied positively/inquisitively about your connection/relationship. If you initiate, and she freaks out or goes cold, back away gently and quietly, and don't look back. M

< Message edited by FullfigRIMAAM1 -- 5/15/2009 10:45:31 PM >

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RE: Conundrum: Who initiates? - 5/16/2009 8:53:40 AM

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I'm open to both play and romance, but am not entirely sure if she's looking for one or the other... or both.

I think that is an important matter to discuss.

Submissive men have potential to form a strong emotional connection with a domme, especially the first time they are able to have such a relationship and the relationship provides for adequate interpersonal attraction. I form emotional connections with someone whom I might have met just over a weekend at a convention. The point I wish to convey is that there is a good chance that you might fall head over heels.

I think it would help you to understand what type of relationship she is envisioning. If she is not envisioning a romantic relationship, it would make sense for you to keep your feeling in check. If she is envisioning a romantic relationship, I think an important question for you is whether you are ready to be in a poly relationship. It might help you to learn more about poly relationships.

I don't identify as poly for my ideal relationship but am psuedo-poly with respect to other relationships. I have played with women who were in a committed relationship. Keeping that relationship in perspective, and proceeding as if I am not in a committed relationship (open to seeking relationships or play elsewhere) helped me do so.

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RE: Conundrum: Who initiates? - 5/16/2009 9:25:28 AM

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Still confuzzled... playing is not fucking! Foreplay, maybe...

So PforH was talking about getting to kissing and maybe heavy petting...and was looking for the proper term...I gave him "second base" as an American slang for that level of sexual interaction...

Was not referencing "play" at all there Lady H.

OTTERS IS A SASSMONKEY! Just sayin;

Oh no Lady H! I meant no sass to you ma'am, just clarifying as you seemed to be confuzzled.

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RE: Conundrum: Who initiates? - 5/16/2009 9:55:13 AM

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Too late, Otters! You have been outed!

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RE: Conundrum: Who initiates? - 5/16/2009 11:28:57 AM

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Otters has always been an insolent scoundrel, Lady Hib. About time he was shown up for it, IMO.

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RE: Conundrum: Who initiates? - 5/16/2009 11:30:37 AM

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