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Do all dommes charge money? - 5/16/2009 9:03:13 AM   
yodachoda


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Status: offline 		I'm new to real life femdom, but I've been interested in it for many many years.  I'm now looking for a dom through this site, I haven't started the search yet though.  Now I know the "pro doms" charge money, and they usually state in their profile if they charge money.  But do all the others that don't say "pro dom" charge money?  Cuz money is kinda tight for me, and I'm not looking for extreme domination such as 24/7, in which case I wouldn't mind money exchange.
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RE: Do all dommes charge money? - 5/16/2009 9:13:26 AM   
Rainfire


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Status: offline 		No, a lot of Dominants don't charge money. Though you will hear of "tribute", "gifts" and other pseudonyms for payment, most are in it for love of BDSM. Now if you find someone and establish a relationship, just like a vanilla relationship, there are times when gifts (just gifts, nothing more) are appropriate like birthdays.

As someone new to CM, you might be slammed with trolls asking for this or that. Don't be afraid to ignore them. Block and delete is one of the great features of CM. Just hang out on the forums, get to know people and make friends. There are some fabulous people here.


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RE: Do all dommes charge money? - 5/16/2009 9:25:23 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		I am a lifestyle female Dominant. I do not ask for money, tribute or gifts but I do require obedience, honesty and respect. If your looking for casual play you may find a Domme that is into it without a money exchange. If you are seeking something very specific or on your terms, then the pay and beat is probably your best bet.

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RE: Do all dommes charge money? - 5/16/2009 10:45:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		No, we don't all charge money.  Some of us just enjoy beating people.

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RE: Do all dommes charge money? - 5/16/2009 11:06:45 AM   
dumbmonkey


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Status: offline 		Thanks for the replies that's great to kno.  Another question, when I start sending introduction messages to doms near where I live, and it's not clear in their profile whether they charge money or not:  What's the best way to ask them whether they charge? 

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RE: Do all dommes charge money? - 5/16/2009 11:10:22 AM   
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RE: Do all dommes charge money? - 5/16/2009 11:14:57 AM   
SoulPiercer


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Status: offline 		How about:

"Hi. I really, really want to get my ass whipped, but I don't wanna pay for it. Interested? Holla!"



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RE: Do all dommes charge money? - 5/16/2009 11:20:06 AM   
lronitulstahp


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SoulPiercer

How about:

"Hi. I really, really want to get my ass whipped, but I don't wanna pay for it. Interested? Holla!"


See the "Holla" appeals to the etiquette conscious crowd....nice touch!

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RE: Do all dommes charge money? - 5/16/2009 11:31:57 AM   
LaTigresse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: yodachoda

I'm new to real life femdom, but I've been interested in it for many many years.  I'm now looking for a dom through this site, I haven't started the search yet though.  Now I know the "pro doms" charge money, and they usually state in their profile if they charge money.  But do all the others that don't say "pro dom" charge money?  Cuz money is kinda tight for me, and I'm not looking for extreme domination such as 24/7, in which case I wouldn't mind money exchange.


As others have said, only a percentage charge for their time. I believe a larger percentage would prefer 24/7 rather than the occasional slap tickle session with nothing in return.

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RE: Do all dommes charge money? - 5/16/2009 11:54:32 AM   
LadyPact


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lronitulstahp


quote:

ORIGINAL: SoulPiercer

How about:

"Hi. I really, really want to get my ass whipped, but I don't wanna pay for it. Interested? Holla!"


See the "Holla" appeals to the etiquette conscious crowd....nice touch!



This was something that I posted on another thread. 

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

quote:

ORIGINAL: kttqnp

I personally hate messages that begin with "Hey".

It's better than those that close with 'holla back' so at least there is that.




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RE: Do all dommes charge money? - 5/16/2009 1:55:40 PM   
LovingMistress45


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Status: offline 		Before you start contacting Dominants I suggest filling out your profile.  Read her profile it is usually easy to tell what she is looking for and if she charges. 

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RE: Do all dommes charge money? - 5/16/2009 2:15:05 PM   
lronitulstahp


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Unless that was sarcasm, don't be so sure.

quote:

ORIGINAL: lronitulstahp


quote:

ORIGINAL: SoulPiercer

How about:

"Hi. I really, really want to get my ass whipped, but I don't wanna pay for it. Interested? Holla!"


See the "Holla" appeals to the etiquette conscious crowd....nice touch!



This was something that I posted on another thread. 

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

quote:

ORIGINAL: kttqnp

I personally hate messages that begin with "Hey".

It's better than those that close with 'holla back' so at least there is that.



No worries LP in this case, sarcasm abounds.
i'm actually quite a stickler for good manners and proper address, Ma'am.
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RE: Do all dommes charge money? - 5/16/2009 2:20:15 PM   
HeavansKeeper


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Status: offline 		Yoda,

In my more pragmatic days, I liked the expression "sex you pay for is cheaper than sex you don't [pay for]."

While its very possible to find a woman (vanilla or otherwise) to have you, love you, and whatever (vanilla or otherwise) activities you have planned without showing the green, one assumes the ratio of women who think "I want my man to be able to provide into the relationship" is the same... Vanilla and otherwise.

I don't know what your finances are, or what your principles are. Right now, I have no problem with taking a submissive out for some meals, buying the goods/toys needed, providing the place to play... But my finances do not allow for a pro-sub (the logical equivalent to a pro-domme, as we identify in different directions.)

I think an early mistake people make in BDSM is thinking it is more different than the vanilla world than it is alike. It's not.

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RE: Do all dommes charge money? - 5/16/2009 2:57:00 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		I think we should all just start taking money, and put an end to these threads.  What charities should we fund?  I vote for veterans, critters, and old folks!

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RE: Do all dommes charge money? - 5/16/2009 3:00:16 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		I've got the perfect charity. LeeAnn's Farm for Wayward Fourlegged Creatures and Weal Twue Slaves

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RE: Do all dommes charge money? - 5/16/2009 5:20:14 PM   
GYPZYQUEEN


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Status: offline 		no we don't all charge

but are         NOT...........
 
 FETISH drive thrus..you order up at..
that love to Dominate any guy who asks...
 
I f you want me to Dominate you then
you will need to wash the dishes....clean floors..kiss my  ass.worship my feet..be loyal..have a brain...
give me oral...follow a task chart..cook dinner...bath me...cover me in lotion and peel my mangos..go shopping..read poetry..

shit........... that is worse than money for you ................I bet

better see a PRO...and pay..much easier

and next time you meet a biker  say

"Heard you like bikes  I need a ride"

and next time you   meet a computer whiz  say
"Heard you like computers...... mine needs fixed"


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RE: Do all dommes charge money? - 5/16/2009 5:34:37 PM   
RedMagic1


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I think we should all just start taking money, and put an end to these threads.  What charities should we fund?  I vote for veterans, critters, and old folks!

I think that's a great idea.


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RE: Do all dommes charge money? - 5/16/2009 5:50:00 PM   
PrincessDonna


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Status: offline 		Yoda all DOMMES do not charge $$ but  if someone is going to interview you for a sub position it is always nice to bring a tribute,a $10 Starbucks Gift Card or something shows that you are grateful for the time thed is taking,and when collared be expecting to pay for the food shopping, small bills such as paper sub. etc any DOMME worth her weight that is not pro will work it out with you,just remember the most important thing is to be able to communicate! I have a friend that has some of her subs get a second job just to be able to give her the things she desires,and she has traveled the world and is only 20! Remember that being able to TALK to the person that you want to consider you is most important!

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RE: Do all dommes charge money? - 5/16/2009 5:55:13 PM   
lronitulstahp


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I've got the perfect charity. LeeAnn's Farm for Wayward Fourlegged Creatures and Weal Twue Slaves
Where's my bunk, Ma'am?

~weal twue tulip

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RE: Do all dommes charge money? - 5/16/2009 6:18:03 PM   
stella41b


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Status: offline 		There comes a time
When we read a certain thread
When the dommes
Are lumped together as one
There are subs complaining
And it's time to lend a hand
To submission
The greatest gift of all
We can't go on
Pretending day by day
That some subs, somewhere
Will spare some loose change
We are all a part
Of this Collarme family
And the truth
You know play is all we need

We are the doms, we are the switches
We are the subs who don't have much pay
And we can't be giving
There's a choice we're making
In having kinks in our lives
It's true play makes a better day
For you and me

Well send them a mail
So they know that someone cares
And their hopes
Will be stronger getting it for free
As some have shown us
By not starting all these threads
And so we all
Must try to understand

We are the doms, we are the switches
We are the subs who don't have much pay
And we can't be giving
There's a choice we're making
In having kinks in our lives
It's true play makes a better day
For you and me

When you're searching profiles
There seems no hope at all
But if you just believe
Some don't charge at all
Well well well let's realize
Oh that a change can only come
When subs
Understand that there are also lifestyle dommes

We are the doms, we are the switches
We are the subs who don't have much pay
And we can't be giving
There's a choice we're making
In having kinks in our lives
It's true play makes a better day
For you and me



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