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Jeptha -> RE: Chase, Chased, or Be Still Together? (5/18/2009 8:27:47 AM)
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ORIGINAL: NorthernGent
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ORIGINAL: Jeptha
I don't consider it a chase, either; although in one instance, a long time ago, I really did pursue. It was like laying seige to a medieval castle. A protracted campaign, in which I eventually succeeded, and it was a good relationship, but I see no need to do that again.
Fucked if I'm running 'round with flowers and promises. I'm more than happy to make it known to a women that I like her and I think we could get in like a house on fire, but I have better things to do with my time than play hide and seek. I don't like games - you're in or you're out.
This was a situation where I was new at a workplace and there was someone there whom I thought would make a splendid match. She didn't see it that way, though.
At least not initially.
But because it was at work, she was kind of a captive audience, and I engaged on a glacially s-l-o-w effort at "seduction".
It wasn't flowers and that sort of thing, just being patient and getting to know one another over a longer period of time.
She did eventually see things my way, and it did turn out to be a pretty good thing, and yet, I don't see myself doing that again. One reason is because of the time element, as you mention (though back then time seemed more limitless, and I was at work anyway, so...), but also because since then I've been experimenting a little bit with the kinds of relationships that I want to have, which to my mind requires more information at the front end of the thing - and a whole different approach, basically.
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