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HeavansKeeper -> RE: munches (5/16/2009 11:04:27 PM)
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Remember, youngsub, people are people first. Unless stated otherwise, do not expect to walk into a heavy metal music video with girls being flogged in their cages. Munches usually revolve around food. They can get pretty hot/in depth about BDSM stuff (acts, dynamics, current events, issues faced in the lifestyle) but the vehicle for discussion is often informal diner-chat.
I get very nervous about meeting new people, but I've found that other people in BDSM are usually very welcoming, understanding, accommodating, patient, and pleasant. They have no interest in making enemies with you. Plus they're people first - so they probably don't want ruckus and confrontation. If "they" (meaning the group) know each other for a long time, they'll understand why you're being quiet and may come across as shy or even cold. In my experience with things like this, there's usually a "mom type" who integrates new comer well.
Advice I got, and will forward: Listen carefully, think, respond intelligently, and you'll quickly become a liked member of the group. Be yourself, and don't be afraid to ask for clarification if you get lost. (Unless they're talking about people they know/events that occurred, then its futile to try and grasp the story in completion).
If you're still worried, come up with some decent questions to ask them (feel free to rip the prompts straight out of CM). People either love to talk about themselves and their thoughts or listen to others do that. Give them the chance.
They're people first. Perverts second.
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