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RE: The dumbest thing yet in 2009 - 5/17/2009 8:36:44 AM

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I have read most of the opening post, I think, but am not clear about what it is about, I think. I gather that you fucked up, mainly because you did not obey the Domme that guarded you. I do hope you will get out of this trouble. Best wishes.

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RE: The dumbest thing yet in 2009 - 5/17/2009 9:09:41 AM

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I'm sorry to hear of your situation. It's awful to get hopes so high for something to find it gone in a puff of smoke.

I would like to get a peek at the profound letter you received. While it may have cause mayhem for you, in the hands of the right person such a powerful device could be used for more noble purpose.

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RE: The dumbest thing yet in 2009 - 5/17/2009 9:23:07 AM

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OP I have no idea if you are returning or not. I did read your entire post.

You got taken. Hook line and sinker. You went behind your Protectors back, she tried to stop you but you kept going. A long time friendship was destroyed in the process and you've lost all your possessions.

I don't know how you can get any money back that you sent to those people, unless you have proof and plan on suing them.. it is a loss.

What you can do:
Sit down and think about this Domme. Did she have your best interest at heart? Did she see that these people were out to rip you off or was she just on a power trip?

If she had your best interest at heart then she is the one you should be begging forgiveness of. She was your longtime friend, and Protector. You ignored her advice to the point of losing everything.

What is your end goal?
Do you care about who owns you, or do you just want 'anyone' to own you?
You act like you don't care, as if you have no control over yourself which is scary to read. It is unhealthy and extreme.

You need to start to build your life back up. Find a job, a place to live and begin to gain your own independence. Don't try to give yourself away, instead try to give yourself to yourself. Become worthy of being owned.

Stay away from everyone who wants to control or own you for a year. Maybe that will give you some growth and perspective, enable you to see clearly. I hope it does.

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RE: The dumbest thing yet in 2009 - 5/17/2009 3:56:46 PM

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Since you had the domme's collar of protection, it might have been beneficial to speak to her about the nature of your relationship. It seems to me that she felt very threatened and jealous of this couple when you first started communicating with the dom and his wife. When things do not go so well between a dom and a submissive, then it is time to part ways before going on to the next relationship. I would have waited a few weeks after breaking up with the domme and then meet the couple face to face.

I know from my experience, I can get caught up in the sub frenzy as well but I would have wanted to meet these people first for at least 6 months to 1 year before even moving in with them.

Get a job, stay away from people who are on drugs (if this friend is on probation, then report him to the officer), and go on a break for an extended time to find out who you are because I would rather wait for a dom who is worth my submission than to find any dom for sake of belonging to someone. Trust me, this is not an easy path to take and sometimes, you have to go through the bumps and hard rocks before walking on a smooth road.

Good luck and stay safe.

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RE: The dumbest thing yet in 2009 - 5/17/2009 5:52:00 PM

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I would NEVER have guessed that this post was written by a 50 year old. That cant be right. This thread was started by someone who sounded like a 19 year old. Strange.

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RE: The dumbest thing yet in 2009 - 5/17/2009 5:55:45 PM

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after the first couple of non-paragraphed things, I couldnt finish. Sorry, OP.

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RE: The dumbest thing yet in 2009 - 5/17/2009 7:03:07 PM

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50? this person is 50? wow. i never would have believed that. 18, maybe younger 20's, but not five years older than me!

OP, you need to sit down and re-read what you wrote from an outsider's point of view. to be honest, you're damn lucky you didn't get to where you were supposed to go and end up losing your car and the rest of the things you had with you. worst case scenario is you could have potentially lost your life; there are those types out there who prey on people like you, ted bundy seemed like a nice guy yanno! they know just what to say to make you think you've won the jackpot and the next thing you know, as you've found out, you've lost everything. and you even said you saw the red flags and ignored them. for god's sake, why?

consider yourself lucky to still be here to complain about the lack of pity in our responses. we're not going to pity you. you have broken almost every rule of self preservation we have as a "lifestyle" (lord i hate that word) and want us to throw you a pity party? snap out of it and grow up! you did something foolish, live and learn.
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RE: The dumbest thing yet in 2009 - 5/17/2009 7:03:47 PM

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Do you understand the concept of paragraphs? No one is going to read this. It's an attack on the senses to even try.

I knew it! I knew it! There was bound to be something we agreed on eventualy slaveboy

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RE: The dumbest thing yet in 2009 - 5/17/2009 7:30:35 PM

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Seems to me sweetie, that you are allowing some very unhealthy people to control your life...

firstly the Domme, then your 'Will & Grace Friend' + his parents and the people/lady down the hall...

You may have found solice with the couple you were looking to move in with... I am not sure. But i believe that if they are of sound mind... you should be able to approach them and explain the unforntunate events that have unfolded around you...

Write to the Domme of the relationship and explain to her what happened... be truthful and open with your thoughts and feelings on what happened... explain to her that you felt you were ready to break free from this life that you were living here with these people and you are aware that it got very ugly and that you have made mistakes by giving out contact details etc. Explain that you thought it was the right thing to do at the time...

Let her know what you personally laid on the line for them and ask if they are able to give you another go...

If they choose to accept that then do your best not to attract unhealthy people again... stay honest with your Master/Mistress and trust that they will do what is best for you...

If they choose not to accept you. Move on...
but try in the future to attract healthier friendships and dont just hand your control over to anybody...

I understand that this is extremely hard advice to follow inparts and i am sure that you will walk your own path and make mistakes.

Just remember to learn from them... best of luck sweetie

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RE: The dumbest thing yet in 2009 - 5/17/2009 7:35:35 PM

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I couldn't read the whole original posting either but it sounds to me like you need to get your own house in order before you go to serve in someone else's.....so you have your wits about you and make good choices.

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RE: The dumbest thing yet in 2009 - 5/17/2009 7:39:46 PM

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I have to agree, I felt some people to be very rude in their responses...
This person needs our support... not to be shunned on their expressive writing...

If it does not interest you or you have nothing nice to say... why bother commenting at all????

Obviously the person who started this thread needed to very much to express something and did it in the best way they knew how...

I am sure that you could understand the most of it and if not maybe you need to look at your own reading skills?

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RE: The dumbest thing yet in 2009 - 5/17/2009 7:53:33 PM

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I find that people often learn best when they hit rock bottom, because they missed some signs along the way and they need to really get bashed on those rocks before they wake up and learn. If by fifty years old one still needs a protector and makes all those mistakes... they missed a few signs.

If that sounds rude... then good. It is time for somebody to wake up and coddling them won't do anything but help them stay the ignorant victim.

But then I am a hard ass bitch...

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RE: The dumbest thing yet in 2009 - 5/17/2009 7:53:53 PM

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Berry Surprise, I agree 100 percent!

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RE: The dumbest thing yet in 2009 - 5/17/2009 8:16:05 PM

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quote:

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"Someone found me on CM and wrote me the most profound email i have ever read in my life. I was so taken aback by this."

if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. sounds like you believed a line of bs, people were trying to warn you but you turned a deaf ear, and you ended up getting hurt because you fell hook line and sinker for some pretty words. there are people in this world who will get a gullible person on the line, turn that person inside out to please them then kick them to the curb when all the promises are supposed to come to a head. you got taken for a ride and they may very well be sitting around laughing at you because they got you to jump thru hoops for them and ruin your life where you are, cutting ties with your domme, breaking off relations with friends and such. it's a game to people like that, and you played right into it. live and learn, learn all the things that you even stated were red flags, they were lies, you knew it but you were not listening to yourself either. print your post out, tape it next to your computer and learn from all those mistakes. don't ever make them again. better luck next time kiddo.

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I agree. WHen someone writes me something so "profound" I roll my eyes. I tell them I have no money and they will never get any from me or if they were serious about all the love they felt for a complete stranger than they need to march themself to a Psychiatrist pronto!

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RE: The dumbest thing yet in 2009 - 5/17/2009 8:29:56 PM

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People who were your FRIENDS were trying to protect you. They obviously saw something that you didn't. A couple that you NEVER met instructs you to liquidate your entire life and you do it? Then you wonder why everyone tells you to act your age. Being a slave and having a burning desire to serve has obviously overtaken your common sense. In all honesty, it seems as though the whole neighborhood is aware of everything you are doing and ALL of them are tellling you it is a bad idea.

You were looking for sympathy when you posted and are now upset that you didn't get as much of it as you wanted. By the time one reaches the age of 50, they should have learned some common sense. It seems to me that your desires have driven to you to a point of desperation. A little professional help would not be a bad idea. Yes, there are a lot of "proper writing" junkies here who will have no trouble telling you what they think of a long run on sentence. More important is that YOU look back at your post and see how frantic and disjointed it is. Incidentally, no where did I see anything about some wonderous email that caused you to re-evalute your life so much.

I would suggest that you offer very sincere apologies to your "domme" (since she was also your best friend) and your "Will and Grace" buddy. YOUR behavior was inappropriate. In the future try to stay connected to reality while you are conducting your search. In the meantime, I strongly suggest that you speak to a professional to find out why you would have acted so drastically in regards to someone you never met in your life.

I hope that you are still coming and checking this post (I suspect that you will be). While some of us may have been so up front as to come across as rude, it can be difficult not to do so when someone does something so terribly careless and then blames everyone else for ruining this "possibility" for you. People here can tend to feel that people who behave the way you did need a strong dose of reality. Personally, I'm wondering if you have sent money to all those Nigerian people as well. Again, let me stress, get some professional help. That email was really kind of scary and really came across as someone not being in a right state of mind.

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RE: The dumbest thing yet in 2009 - 5/18/2009 5:09:03 AM

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You ask for understanding as to why people would do the things you spoke of in the OP. The answer is overly simplistic; you.

This fact, however, does not denote there is something ‘wrong’ with you. It does imply, you have a lot of work ahead of you; but better late than never. The bright side is; I hear, it is at the crux that real change takes place, and here you are.

My suggestion would be to stop asking why they do what they do, and start asking why you do the things you do. Once you start figuring that out, the reasoning for their actions will become clear.

I can only guess, but it seems that you put your sights on a goal, and forget the most important factor in that goal; you.

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RE: The dumbest thing yet in 2009 - 5/18/2009 5:17:20 PM

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Hello again,

I am back to say once again no I was not using my 50 year old brain. And that is unusual for me really. However, as far as my ex-best friend goes we have a bad history of her controlling my life. She is always up in my business. i should not of mentioned that she thought of herself as my protector in any way. Even though she is a Domme, but it wouldn't have mattered anyway to her if she does not hand pick the person out her self then the fit is not right. We have had bad blood before and i allowed her back in my life and she promised she would not do what she did so many times before. But she always does. Unfortunately that's just her personality. As for the couple, I am taking full ownership of that mistake, I have moved back to my home town where I am making my life over completely thank you. As far as the material things I can work and get them back I am far from being lazy. And my grown Son is being extremely supportive throughout my brainfart which he knows the entire truth. Dumb as it maybe. He's just glad I came out as well as I did actually it could of been much worse. After a week and a half of gathering all my thoughts it's a blessing in disguise that I didn't go. I still have 1/4 of my things left. my animal, car, and a few other things. And my life. Never again will I allow myself to be that vulnerable ever. But I thank everyone who commented on my story though most did hit home hard that is exactly what this girl needed was a firm slap in the face..

thank you again.

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RE: The dumbest thing yet in 2009 - 5/18/2009 5:45:03 PM

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glad to hear!!! :)

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RE: The dumbest thing yet in 2009 - 5/18/2009 6:15:27 PM

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Never again will I allow myself to be that vulnerable ever.

Do you really mean to say your mistake was in allowing yourself to be vulnerable, and not the manner in which it was allowed?

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RE: The dumbest thing yet in 2009 - 5/18/2009 9:16:01 PM

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uninhibited4u, if you write English as well as you just did in the last two posts, would you be so kind as to re-write what you wrote the first time? I really could not make sense of it...would be more interesting and easier to assist and give helpful advise if we all understand...

good luck in all the choices you make.

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