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RE: How to Properly Address a Dominant - 5/18/2009 3:01:53 AM

PeonForHer

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This may seem like a stupid question, but on this site many people have cm names like Msabc123 for example. If a sub is writing an introductory e-mail is the right way to address the note "Dear Msabc123" or is there a better or more correct way?

I think that's the best policy. If she writes back, then use whatever term of address she uses for herself. That's what I do, anyway.

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RE: How to Properly Address a Dominant - 5/18/2009 4:18:52 AM

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It's not a stupid question at all. What a minefield this has to be for a sub! This one wants to be called (fill in the blank), while another one bristles at the thought.

It's hard to see how you could go wrong by addressing someone by their chosen screen name, but even that can be tricky. I've been called Ms. kttqnp, Miss kttqnp, and Mistress kttqnp. Guess kttqnp is too generic and they feel they have to attach an honorific. The only one that rankles me is Goddess. I'm no Goddess.

And whatever you do, don't start out with "Hey". Or end with "Holla back", right, LadyPact?

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RE: How to Properly Address a Dominant - 5/18/2009 5:05:30 AM

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One who wrote to me once had three honorifics. She was called MistressLadyGoddess X or something. I thought, "Ah come on - that's just being greedy".

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RE: How to Properly Address a Dominant - 5/18/2009 5:37:53 AM

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Ok, do NOT kiss my feet... ever!! Even in an email...lol

And I'm with the "Babe is not a good first time honorific" crowd! In fact, I'm pretty sure that "babe" isn't a good one at all, ever.

My advice is don't start off with "Mistress" unless you are told to in their profile, I'm, well, I could be a Mistress, but I'm not YOU'RE Mistress... you know? As far as I'm concerned Ma'am is a good standby unless they state that they hate being called that in their profile. If they don't state it and get pissy over it then it isn't your fault. Personally my profile basically says not to bother even contacting me because I suffer from a really crappy attitude 99% of the time. That isn't true, it's only 99% of the time when I'm on this site, in real life I have an awesome attitude!!

Anyway... good luck and welcome to the boards... great question!!

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RE: How to Properly Address a Dominant - 5/18/2009 5:46:24 AM

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Personally

I love being called Mistress - even if Im not your Mistress yet its the appellation I feel comfortable hearing.
I HATE HATE HATE being called Miss [Im not a Miss or a teacher]
I really absolutely HATE being called Ma'am [too American/old]
I find other appellations/honorifics cute eg Divine Goddess of the Universe. Or, Supremely Divine Creature from Heaven.

Just a few suggestions :D

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RE: How to Properly Address a Dominant - 5/18/2009 7:27:40 AM

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I tend to skip over the salutation and read what's in the email. Why focus on the appetizer when there's a main course?

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RE: How to Properly Address a Dominant - 5/18/2009 2:14:45 PM

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LOL DarkSteven...

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RE: How to Properly Address a Dominant - 5/19/2009 3:15:31 AM

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that right i am the man

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RE: How to Properly Address a Dominant - 5/19/2009 8:03:23 AM

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you kneel down and said greeting Mistress and kiss her feet

You do that in an introductory email? Amazing.

lol hey mr. novak you're as insightful in the threads as you are in your journal

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RE: How to Properly Address a Dominant - 5/19/2009 11:59:04 AM

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I just went to OfficeMax and got the Avery Address a Domme Label Kit...never had any problems...

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RE: How to Properly Address a Dominant - 5/23/2009 1:45:03 PM

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Nope, I did not realize that. Guess that's my Texas upbringin' ringin' through - ma'am & sir are generally respectful in the nilla world I grew up in. In fact, I can remember my grandfather sittin' me down & talkin' to me abt manners & sayin' "yes ma'am" & "yes sir"

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