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Just a bit of fun - 5/18/2009 4:09:08 AM

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Are there any Dommes who sub? Would you sub for fun? How would you react to a sub who wanted You to be his submissive? And subs have you ever felt the slightest inclination to Domme your Domme if you excuse the pun
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RE: Just a bit of fun - 5/18/2009 5:10:42 AM

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I've been pressured into topping vanilla partners before. I'd do it for a dominant, but I'd hope that she'd never ask me to. Er, rather, hope that she never ordered me to.

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RE: Just a bit of fun - 5/18/2009 5:18:54 AM

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I like to experiment a little in the Domme role... Sometimes during sessions, I have been lucky enough to have times with my Dom where he will allow me to Dominate him (under strict guidelines) but it is always only for a short time...which is fine with me and he always shows me who is truly Dominant afterward. I have to say though, i do love those times...

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RE: Just a bit of fun - 5/18/2009 5:20:17 AM

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Are there any Dommes who sub

I do not and never will.

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Would you sub for fun?

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How would you react to a sub who wanted You to be his submissive

Make him go clean up the coffee I just spewed.

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RE: Just a bit of fun - 5/18/2009 5:26:41 AM

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Been there, didn't like it at all!! To do something for fun it would first have to be fun for me... so nope, wouldn't do it, it's no fun. And how would I react to a sub that wanted me to sub for him... gosh, I don't know? Maybe help him pack?

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RE: Just a bit of fun - 5/18/2009 6:35:35 AM

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I do both roles and have been told I do them both so well that people who've only seen one can't believe that I can do the other. I get the most personal fulfillment out of being a slave, but as a Domme I keep that fulfillment in mind and make sure that my sub feels it. On either side of the kneel I'm about turning dreams into reality.

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RE: Just a bit of fun - 5/18/2009 6:41:39 AM

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No, I never want to top my Lady. I get immense emotional pleasure from being hers and taking her directions; I get none from being on the other side.

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RE: Just a bit of fun - 5/18/2009 7:57:27 AM

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Are there any Dommes who sub?

Yes. They're called "switches".

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Would you sub for fun?

I have tried various experiments with bottoming over the years. Some were fun, like posing for bondage photography and what-not. The main purpose of the experiment was to see whether there was any joy for me on the other side of the fence, and mostly it confirmed me in my orientation.

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How would you react to a sub who wanted You to be his submissive?

It would be a crisis. We'd do the same thing we do whenever a crisis of mis-matching wants and needs comes up: try to negotiate a solution we can both live with. If there's no wiggle room, obviously I'd have to cut him loose.

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RE: Just a bit of fun - 5/18/2009 8:13:33 AM

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I'm a switch, but I can't feel dominant and submissive toward the same person. I can let them thwack me and tie me up when I am usually their dominant, but I don't experience the depth of surrender, the feeling of yielding to their will, that *I* consider to be submission. I can't just "submit for fun" casually, it involves a lot more of an emotional connection and vulnerability. For that matter, I'm not going to consider myself to be someone's Domme unless he reacts in the way that *I* feel is submission. Of course, if he's someone else's sub, he might be what I generally consider a bottom or a bedroom-only submissive, but he is her (or his) submissive, not mine. So, they get to establish what works in their relationship.

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RE: Just a bit of fun - 5/18/2009 9:19:02 AM

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I love bondage! I am certainly a bondage bottom, but I do have to feel VERY safe with the person who is tying me... which means that I have a short list of bondage tops (and when you figure that a third of the list is Midori and Bob Bender, well...)

I was a heavy bottom when I first started in the scene, because I have to experience things, and I am of that mindset where I wouldn't give an order that I was not capable of following myself. My former slave (another dom) needed some topspace, and I let him top me. You can find out so much about a person from their topping style... it was big fun, too. Neither of us thought for a moment that I was *submitting*, I just don't have that in me.

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RE: Just a bit of fun - 5/18/2009 12:31:09 PM

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*Googles the phrase "heavy bottom"*

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RE: Just a bit of fun - 5/18/2009 2:56:47 PM

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*Googles the phrase "heavy bottom"*

It does *not* refer to a part of the anatomy.

In response to the OP, I had a dominant male friend top me for an evening just to see what it was like. It was one of the most unpleasant experiences I've ever had. You just have to have the right mindset for submission and I'm not a masochist, so the vaunted subspace that I'd wanted to experience was not to be. Never trying that again, though I'm glad I did it once. The only redeeming feature was getting to feel certain sensations that I couldn't easily try out on myself.

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RE: Just a bit of fun - 5/18/2009 3:14:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: Venatrix

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*Googles the phrase "heavy bottom"*

It does *not* refer to a part of the anatomy.

In response to the OP, I had a dominant male friend top me for an evening just to see what it was like. It was one of the most unpleasant experiences I've ever had. You just have to have the right mindset for submission and I'm not a masochist, so the vaunted subspace that I'd wanted to experience was not to be. Never trying that again, though I'm glad I did it once. The only redeeming feature was getting to feel certain sensations that I couldn't easily try out on myself.

You got that right! I think those subs are making it up, honestly.

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RE: Just a bit of fun - 5/18/2009 3:17:37 PM

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They'll say anything to get kinky sex.

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RE: Just a bit of fun - 5/18/2009 3:19:40 PM

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Kinky sex? They were expecting SEX?

'Tease 'em and Deny 'em' Hib

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RE: Just a bit of fun - 5/18/2009 3:20:05 PM

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You got that right! I think those subs are making it up, honestly.

I can tell they aren't, but I will admit that I *am* envious. The only high I get which is even remotely similar is from heavy exercise and combat, and it isn't nearly as sexy.

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RE: Just a bit of fun - 5/18/2009 3:22:55 PM

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You got that right! I think those subs are making it up, honestly.

I can tell they aren't, but I will admit that I *am* envious. The only high I get which is even remotely similar is from heavy exercise and combat, and it isn't nearly as sexy.

Exactly. Plus then you are all sweaty, and I hate being sweaty. (except for a *very* few situations.

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RE: Just a bit of fun - 5/18/2009 3:23:43 PM

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Kinky sex? They were expecting SEX?

'Tease 'em and Deny 'em' Hib

*I* want sex. This is all about me, remember?

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RE: Just a bit of fun - 5/18/2009 3:24:32 PM

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I prefer to keep my domme side of my personality for my workplace...some of them know my lifestyle desire and couldn't quite believe it imagening me being sub *lol*

So nope...I am not good in receiving pain, and am not able to give it...so I prefer when I "have" to take it then at least from someone who does like it...as at least one person should enjoy it...if I would give pain...I think none of us would enjoy it...and bossying around someone I like? Nope...I tend to dare to do that at times with prospective doms...but only until I realise its better to stop to avoid doing so *sigh*

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RE: Just a bit of fun - 5/18/2009 3:24:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama

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You got that right! I think those subs are making it up, honestly.

I can tell they aren't, but I will admit that I *am* envious. The only high I get which is even remotely similar is from heavy exercise and combat, and it isn't nearly as sexy.

I dunno, a few good rounds in the ring and I definitely feel like going for a wild rumpus. ^__^

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