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athenasowl -> finding outside of internet (5/18/2009 7:44:13 AM)
I hope this is the correct forum to post this in: I was wanting to hear stories of people who found someone who was a Dom/me/Master/sub/slave etc outside of the internet, whether it was just random, or a relationship was formed. how/where? :) thanks in advance.

HalloweenWhite -> RE: finding outside of internet (5/18/2009 7:52:15 AM)
I had to use the internet to find O/other people in the lifestyle because I don't think Y/yu can tell who's in the lifestyle just by looking or even by speaking to 'em, so the ony way for Me to be sure I was actually talking to a Domme/Dom sub/slave was to go onine and see what was going on and then get involved in some way.

LaTigresse -> RE: finding outside of internet (5/18/2009 8:15:07 AM)
I just kinda go with the old fashioned, getting out and meeting people, kind of thing. Then again, you cannot hide behind your computer as much. At some point you've got to put yourself out there, take some risks. While I lead a really low key life and not many people know I am a kinky, perverted, batich that likes to do wickedly wonderful things to pretty girls....I don't try to hide it either. I just happen to live a life that includes a fairly small number of people and it tends to occupy most of my waking hours. I think if you are being your authentic self, those that will be compatible will tend to be drawn to you. We may not be trying to be obvious or running about telling people, but it does tend to shine through to anyone that is observant. I remember when I told my youngest sister about my love of women and my kinky ways.......she was not surprised. Turns out she isn't exactly boring in her personal life either. We became closer because of our shared differences. Then there are siblings that have pulled away from me, for reasons not communicated. It is obvious they have a clue and are moving away from it. Which tells me, while we give off vibes that can draw people closer to us so that we can explain, those same vibes can push people away also.

peppermint -> RE: finding outside of internet (5/18/2009 9:26:33 AM)
We met at a BDSM event called In The Woods which is a week of kinky camping in Washington. In July it will be 4 years since we met. We've been 24/7 for 3 years, 5 months. We both had profiles here on Collarme but lived in different states so never saw the other's profile. Quite frankly, if he'd written to me on Collarme I'm not sure if I would have had much interest as he's 10 years older than I. My preference has always been for people my own age. However, once we met we found that we had tons of things in common and it's been great. We are also snowbirds who head south for the winter and spend summers in Montana. Our motor home is our full time home. While we have traveled we have stopped at munches along the way when possible. We've attended munch in Las Vegas NV, Vancouver WA, and Spokane WA to name a few. It's great to meet new people and spend an evening chatting.

Missokyst -> RE: finding outside of internet (5/18/2009 9:32:49 AM)
:) I met all but two of my relationships before the net. It was regular people, day to day dating, meeting at work, or in clubs, ect. Beats me why they always ended up flipping me over their lap or what not.. lol but it always worked out that way. Kyst

NyDaddysGirl -> RE: finding outside of internet (5/18/2009 3:17:57 PM)
All but my current relationship started out in person by meeting and dating. As trust grew and as I learned more about my partner, and they learned more about me, thing just took their natural course. (One relationship was near perfect, the others had varying degrees of compatability and each didn't last a year.) Even my current relationship started out innocently and more on a friends level as opposed to either of us looking for a partner. It didn't take long for things to fall into place.

DomImus -> RE: finding outside of internet (5/18/2009 3:38:08 PM)
I dabbled in a little light bondage here and there over the years as willing partners crossed my path but all of the really kinky people I have been with were folks I met online. Had Algore never invented the internet I likely would have spent my lifetime dabbling. Can you meet someone at the market who will let you suspend them inverted while various forms of electrical play are perpetrated on them? Sure... but the odds are a little steep and it's hard to vet them out by what clothes they are wearing.

julietsierra -> RE: finding outside of internet (5/18/2009 7:52:11 PM)
I met him the old fashioned way - face to face at a munch we were both at. - The First Time I met him the old fashioned way - face to face at an event we were both at - two years later - The First Time the second time. The second time was key. This August it'll be 7 years. And no, we spend absolutely no time conversing with each other online... never have. Sometimes we send information e-mails to each other. I forward on to him the invitations we've received. He sends me information on how to tie the lures he wants. And then... we talk about what we're doing in that really weird and odd way we've come to appreciate - face to face. juliet

Joseff -> RE: finding outside of internet (5/18/2009 8:08:50 PM)
I met debbie in a bar. I was with a friend, and he was going to meet a lady. I was introduced to his lady's friend, and we hit it off. Later that night I gave her a ride, and she noticed the collar I had in the back seat. It was the first collar I made. Anyhow, that was going on 18 years ago, and we're still together.

OsideGirl -> RE: finding outside of internet (5/18/2009 8:31:57 PM)
A little over 10 years ago... The southern California community had a chat room on AOL. This room was made up of people that mostly knew each other in real life. There was a social every week, in a different area. (LA, Inland Empire, OC, and San Diego) My ex-Dom traveled a lot and didn't like the socials because he was afraid that someone would recognize him and it would jeopardize his book contract. I was invited out to the local social by a couple that I had become friends with. I had no fear of attending socials without my Dominant with me. It was at one of these socials that I was introduced to my current Master. We became platonic friends and stayed that way for years. We talked via IM and phone, saw movies together, went to concerts together. I knew about his relationships and he knew my ex. When the ex and I broke up, Master was the one telling me that I needed to get out of the house. One day something just clicked. We've been together for 9 years, married for 8 years.

MissJanice2 -> RE: finding outside of internet (5/18/2009 8:34:52 PM)
*I met my slave of five years on my own site.* *I met two dommes in my state who helped train me in SM techniques.* *I met them on CollarMe.* *Just be careful.* *Best Wishes,* *Mistress_Jan*

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