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LadyHibiscus -> RE: Pretty words = Red flag? (5/18/2009 12:23:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer Ah ma cherie, your eyes, they set my SOUL on fire . . . . This stuff worked great for Pepe lePew!

PeonForHer -> RE: Pretty words = Red flag? (5/18/2009 12:29:13 PM)
It NEVER worked for Pepe LePew. What I loved about that cartoon was that he was so much in love that he never noticed that she didn't love him. Or, indeed, that she wasn't even of the same species. Pepe both rocked and ruled, in equal measure.

Lockit -> RE: Pretty words = Red flag? (5/18/2009 12:30:09 PM)
To the day my mother died, she was complimented on her eyes. My grandmother was complimented on all sorts of things. I don't see real compliments ending at a certain time or age. The types of compliments may change a bit, but there is always someone who will see something in a person that will compliment them. It isn't just looks or sex appeal that bring on compliments! lol

CreativeDominant -> RE: Pretty words = Red flag? (5/18/2009 12:30:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit I think some are very sincere, but am careful when too many pretty words are used! lol Ahhhhhhhhhhh but how many are too many? Lady H makes a good point, lovely Lockit. Use of pretty words can indicate a con man or it can indicate a legitimate guy who's not afraid of paying a compliment and indeed, may have been raised in such a manner that he learned early on that most women enjoy being told that they are pretty, sexy, etc.. You happen to know from personal experience with me that I think you have a great body, a beautiful face and that as a package, you are sexy as hell. But you also know that part of what makes you sexy, to me anyway, is the mind that goes with those looks and the inner "you" that goes with those looks. I've told you that plenty of times. And that's just it...it isn't the number of times that things are said, it is the person behind those words. I am a big-time flirt and I admit it. But part of the reason that most people like my flirtations is that they soon learn that I mean what I say and that for me, if ALL you are is stacked or have a great voice or a beautiful face, my flirtatious comments will still be there but they will be brief and occasional. But, if you are smart and caring as well as lovely and built, then you are one hell of a sexy person to me. Which is why you are one of those few who fits in that position in my world. [;)]

PeonForHer -> RE: Pretty words = Red flag? (5/18/2009 12:34:10 PM)
You happen to know from personal experience with me that I think you have a great body, a beautiful face and that as a package, you are sexy as hell. But you also know that part of what makes you sexy, to me anyway, is the mind that goes with those looks and the inner "you" that goes with those looks. I've told you that plenty of times. Oh CD, I think that just earned you more red flags than you'd see in Red Square at the centenary of Marx's death!

Lockit -> RE: Pretty words = Red flag? (5/18/2009 12:36:18 PM)
Ahhh but CD... you have that perfect blend of compliments along with those balancing moments... of which I won't elaborate! lol Besides... you're just one of those special people... who know your art! You are simply you and that is a wonderful thing to watch and be a part of! Plus you have magic hands! lol

Steponme73 -> RE: Pretty words = Red flag? (5/18/2009 12:38:59 PM)
Pretty words...Let me tell you how I approach this. I don't do the "you are the prettiest woman in the world" thing, but I do, if I feel it, give a woman a compliment. I never, never say something ugly, that is just not me. If I am going to respond, I will say something positive and constructive in my eyes. I am not trying to get anyone into bed and I am not trying to be something that I am not. If something a Dominant woman says attracts my attention, then I may email her directly and tell her what I think..I have done that several times to several of the ladies on this board. If that is using pretty words...then I might be guilty. If you ask me what I think, I will tell you, but I will tell you in a nice way.

Lockit -> RE: Pretty words = Red flag? (5/18/2009 12:42:16 PM)
Steponme... those are very pretty words... ringing with truth and who you are!

LaTigresse -> RE: Pretty words = Red flag? (5/18/2009 12:44:05 PM)
Yanno, call me a cynical old cow but for me......I really don't care if all the pretty words stop cold. Action, deeds, follow through, that's what matters to me at this point in life. The stuff that takes real work and effort.

SomethingCatchy -> RE: Pretty words = Red flag? (5/18/2009 1:01:53 PM)
FR I've had so many morons contact me using 'pretty words' and sugaring things up, that I knew my boy was different than that from the first few sentences he'd sent me in that first email. I've learned, in my few short years, that a large majority of the men I've been exposed to seem to think women are stupid, easily laid, and pathetically cheap. I'm not sure where they got those ideas, but it's always glaringly obvious when I'm contacted by one of those walking penises. BLOCK is my favorite feature when dealing with them.

PeonForHer -> RE: Pretty words = Red flag? (5/18/2009 1:31:14 PM)
Sometimes, you know, Lockit, it seems like a man approaching a dominant woman here is like running through a minefield. You have to recognise and jump over so many traps along the way just to connect with the human at the other side. Trap No 1: your kink. Don't let it become more important than the woman you're trying to connect with. Trap No 2: Style and expression. Don't be a cretin by writing bad English and having no style. Trap No 3: Don't be ungentlemanly but, Trap No 4: don't be a sexist, either. Trap No 5: say something about her profile, but don't be critical. These are only the five traps that I can think of, right off the top of my head. I'll bet that there are many, many others.

Lockit -> RE: Pretty words = Red flag? (5/18/2009 1:35:54 PM)
That may be very true Peon... I agree to it. But having emailed me yourself... did you ever find me highly critical or unapproachable? (smile) Someone careless and trollish might get a different response than others... but for most who are just emailing... they see the same Lockit you have.

LaTigresse -> RE: Pretty words = Red flag? (5/18/2009 1:37:18 PM)
Peon, while I understand what you are saying, the examples you've given are not that terribly difficult. All could be overcome by simple, mannerly communication. Something I do when I write a "s" type person I would like to get to know.

MarcEsadrian -> RE: Pretty words = Red flag? (5/18/2009 1:46:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer You have to recognise and jump over so many traps along the way just to connect with the human at the other side. Trap No 1: your kink. Don't let it become more important than the woman you're trying to connect with. Trap No 2: Style and expression. Don't be a cretin by writing bad English and having no style. Trap No 3: Don't be ungentlemanly but, Trap No 4: don't be a sexist, either. Trap No 5: say something about her profile, but don't be critical. And these are difficult things? Hmm.

PeonForHer -> RE: Pretty words = Red flag? (5/18/2009 1:48:37 PM)
That's just it, La T. I don't think it is all that simple. I've often said that boys should go through 'finishing schools' at the end of their educations. So many of them go out into the world with no finesse whatsoever. They have the elegance and style of tanks in flower gardens. "Just be yourself", they're so often told. "Right", they think, "I'll just tell that girl I want to get her knickers off". It's a disaster. The two sexes of every other member of the animal kingdom make it work out, yet we humans eternally make a total balls up of it.

PeonForHer -> RE: Pretty words = Red flag? (5/18/2009 1:52:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit That may be very true Peon... I agree to it. But having emailed me yourself... did you ever find me highly critical or unapproachable? (smile) Someone careless and trollish might get a different response than others... but for most who are just emailing... they see the same Lockit you have. Of course I didn't. But I had to go through a good decade or so of learning how not to piss off women. I probably wouldn't have managed it in my twenties. Even now, as I've been made recently and abundantly aware, I still piss off a certain sort of woman.

ShaktiSama -> RE: Pretty words = Red flag? (5/18/2009 1:53:06 PM)
Fast Reply to the OP: My favorite tactic thus far is the guy who says "I read your profile and I think I am what you are looking for" in his email when he obviously HASN'T read my profile, and has no idea what I am looking for, and in fact is sending me the same generic sub-spam or slave-spam he sends to everything with two X chromosomes. chuckles Ooooooh, so endearing! The sad thing is that it shows that guys do come here to read the forums, or react to the replies they get from other women. Unfortunately, all they learn is that they need to fake it better. They don't catch the clue that they need to BE and to OFFER something real. You say "read the profile", and what they hear is "pretend you've read the profile". It's a pity. But I don't really concern myself overmuch. People like this of any sex and orientation are their own worst enemies and they will live out their own punishment. At least it's been a while since I got a really ugly and stupid one from a dominant...

LaTigresse -> RE: Pretty words = Red flag? (5/18/2009 2:33:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer That's just it, La T. I don't think it is all that simple. I've often said that boys should go through 'finishing schools' at the end of their educations. So many of them go out into the world with no finesse whatsoever. They have the elegance and style of tanks in flower gardens. "Just be yourself", they're so often told. "Right", they think, "I'll just tell that girl I want to get her knickers off". It's a disaster. The two sexes of every other member of the animal kingdom make it work out, yet we humans eternally make a total balls up of it. If all you want is to get a woman's knickers off, then they are emailing the wrong women. They should try Craigslist or Adultfriendfinder, or whatever the current "I just wanna get laid" site is. You cannot have it both ways. If you want a relationship with a dominant woman, then you had damned well better learn what she wants and do it. If you don't like that, tough shit.

Lockit -> RE: Pretty words = Red flag? (5/18/2009 2:46:19 PM)
Actually Peon... there are a few men in their twenties around here that have it goin on! They are polite and fun and don't piss off too many from what I see on the boards! lol Then there are men in their fifties that still haven't had that charm school. I don't have to have charm... although it is very nice... but blatant 'I'm here to piss you off with my wanking material... gee I did say you looked sexy, stuff... well... you know... lol

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Pretty words = Red flag? (5/18/2009 3:21:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit That may be very true Peon... I agree to it. But having emailed me yourself... did you ever find me highly critical or unapproachable? (smile) Someone careless and trollish might get a different response than others... but for most who are just emailing... they see the same Lockit you have. Of course I didn't. But I had to go through a good decade or so of learning how not to piss off women. I probably wouldn't have managed it in my twenties. Even now, as I've been made recently and abundantly aware, I still piss off a certain sort of woman. Shoot, you haven't pissed ME off, and I hate men! Hmmm...[8\|]

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