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Drifa -> RE: Exploring forced bi acts(not really forced) (5/31/2009 7:56:48 PM)
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Interesting. The OP's profile shows as "not found" now.
One thing to think about is that our society and our acculturation really puts a negative connotation on male same-sex experiences no matter where on the Kinsey scale you fall. I suspect that some (and perhaps most) guys that go to the "forced-bi" scene actually fall somewhere in the middle of the Kinsey scale, but because of societal pressures and internalized homophobia "fear their own feelings" in this regard. Being "forced" gives them psychological permission to explore this aspect of their own sexuality without having to fall over the inner baggage.
I grew up with two gay parents, and I myself am bi (and have been living with another woman 15 years now). But even with that background, and our society being much more accepting of girl-on-girl, I still had to have a freakout internally a few days after I first acted on my attractions to other women way back *mumblety* years ago. I finally snapped to the fact that I was guilt-tripping myself with a lot of ugly messages I'd soaked up via the larger culture around me (school, TV, etc.) After calm thought, I realized that this had been the hottest, most exciting sex I'd had to that point, I fully intended to do it again, and there wasn't a damn thing wrong with the desires or with me.
My advice would be to really examine your feelings. Are you hoping to do forced-bi because the idea of being dominated is hot? Or is what attracts you the sex acts themselves? If it's the latter, consider: would you be as entertained by finding a woman with a strap-on? Or is what you really want to just be able to enjoy a little guy-on-guy without all the panic?
BDSM and D/s have a lot of taboo areas and interesting mental twists, all on their own. I'd do some searching self-examination to decide if all you need is self-permission to try a guy. Don't go to forced-bi if so. Instead, think about it, explore all your feelings, even see a counselor to work though what you feel about this. If you do experiment, whether it's within a forced-bi or just bi experimentation, remember that condoms and lots of lube are your friend.
Today, I think forced scenes can be really, really hot, whether it's with a man, a woman, or multiples. I could live without same-sex activity if I had to, but not without the D/s dynamic in a relationship. But better yet is having my cake and eating her too, by being able to have both together in a committed LTR. Decide whether the kink is what you need, or the bi. Then do what you have to do to process that so you can enjoy yourself as you are, without letting those insidious stupid cultural messages tell you that you are wrong somehow for your own desires.
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