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male sub serving a Dom for the fist time - 5/19/2009 12:00:30 PM

wanabesissysub

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This male sub is wanted to serve a Dom for the first time. I am very bi curious, and was wondering if Doms can share their experience regarding first time subs serving them. First, the physical aspect. Was it hard for the subs to perfom sexual acts? Did they do it simply out of respects for the Dom, or did they actually enjoy the acts? Did this lead them down the bisexual road, or were they only comfortable in the bdsm setting? I am very curious as to what it will be like to give my body to male Dom. I am very openminded, but extremely nervous. In addition, what did it do memtally? Was it hard for them to accept? Thanks in advance for your time and insight.

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RE: male sub serving a Dom for the fist time - 5/19/2009 12:28:03 PM

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Regarding sexual orientations of your potential play partner, there are only three real options.

One is that he's exclusively heterosexual, and has no intention of using your body for sex. Sorry kiddo. You can still open jars and take beatings and whatever else men are good for.

Two is that he's similarly curious. He is willing to have sex, but is somewhat undecided about his place in all this. In addition to settling in with different play styles, there will be some confusion about sex. Do you have the necessary experience to ease this situation? Certainly do not expect a man who's never had anal sex to know what he's doing because he aligns as dominant. People end up walking funny that way.

Three is that he's quite comfortable with the idea of having sex with men. If sex on your first play session is something you expect to happen (not making a judgment call) then at least one of you will be experienced in this regard.

In general, regarding first time submissives: It depends on the person. Some people are very at ease with performing sexually, quickly. Some people need time for that trust to build up. Dominants also vary. You're bi-curious (Whatever that means) but have you ever had sex with a man, or just thought about it? That fantasy vs. reality thing will play a factor in how quickly you can be comfortable with sex.

Overall, you leave too much blank space in the question. I fear much of the responses possible are "It depends on the person." Some people will fuck you and think "Man... That was some good mansex. I'd like to repeat that experience." Some will thing "Meh, not for me." and others will be unchanged by your involvement.

Should you choose to clarify some things, you might receive better advice.

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RE: male sub serving a Dom for the fist time - 5/19/2009 7:12:28 PM

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We have several male subs who come to my Dom for play. He loves to Top another male as he is very sadistic and enjoys causing pain to another male. However, the play does not involve sex. Heck, our play together doesn't include sex. Of those who are regulars, they have all maintained the sexual preferences they had before a first playtime.

I would suggest that before you meet with a male Dom for play that you discuss what is expected and not expected during the play. There are bi sexual and homosexual Doms for whom sex might be part of what they expect.

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RE: male sub serving a Dom for the fist time - 5/19/2009 10:54:04 PM

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This male sub is wanted to serve a Dom for the first time. I am very bi curious, and was wondering if Doms can share their experience regarding first time subs serving them. First, the physical aspect. Was it hard for the subs to perfom sexual acts? Did they do it simply out of respects for the Dom, or did they actually enjoy the acts? Did this lead them down the bisexual road, or were they only comfortable in the bdsm setting? I am very curious as to what it will be like to give my body to male Dom. I am very openminded, but extremely nervous. In addition, what did it do memtally? Was it hard for them to accept? Thanks in advance for your time and insight.

You are "wanted" for this. Have you explained that this would be your first time? This isn't something you should jump into too quickly. Before you set up any kind of meeting, you need to have a long detailed discussion about what you are curious about, what he's expecting and what will be happening. Most of all, you need to express all of your concerns and find out how he intends on dealing with them. It would be horrible for your first experience to really suck because you did it with someone who had no concern about your feelings in this at all. My thought is that it can be a wonderful, enlightening experience or it can be a nightmare that causes you never want to try it again because your fears and concerns were disregarded.

You are going to do what you are going to do, but if you don't discuss with HIM all of these things and let him know how you are feeling, my guess is that you are in for a disappointment.

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RE: male sub serving a Dom for the fist time - 5/19/2009 10:59:59 PM

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~OT~

*giggles at the thread title* Freudian slip much? LOL

Sorry, OP.. that just caught my attention...

back to the topic which I cant really otherwise comment on.......

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