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Focus50 -> RE: A little sub inside? (2/9/2006 2:56:39 AM)
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ORIGINAL: theRose4U
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To be honest, I personally find switches a little confusing to figure out.... I've met approx only 3 - 4 self-proclaimed switches in my life (M & F) and all came across as submissive to my Dom persona so it's probably the lack of dominance in them (to *my* eyes) that makes me ponder the validity of switches. My experience of those few switches makes me conclude that, given a single choice, they'd prefer to be submissive in a relationship....
Just as an FYI because I think you've been able to read enough of my posts. In MY WORLD your logic doesn't track. I'm a Domme at heart the only reason that I label as switch is that I met the one alpha that I felt comfortable submitting too in THAT relationship. The idea that I'm really a sub that just hasn't met the right Dom to tame me for good frankly makes me ill to my very core.
My heart calls me Domme, honesty makes me Switch...frankly unless you're willing to submit then why do you CARE? I think the Dom idea that I'm lord domly dom and all others are just waiting to submit is a caveman idea, I'd actually thought you were open minded enough to have avoided.
Daring to have and express a *personal opinion* qualifies me as a close-minded caveman? I'm a Dom who doesn't switch - period! If that's too difficult a concept to understand or unpalatable to accept then that would be your problem, not mine....
Here's some "FYI" back at you since you obviously didn't grasp my meaning in my first post.... I never said or implied I go 'round being some "Much Mighty Dom" to any and all subs or switches etc. Frankly, beating my chest after I've been dragging my knuckles about all day is just too painful to contemplate.
Remember this?
"But maybe it isn't about what you consciously consider yourself but the dynamic you best respond to (subconsciously AND consciously) when there's either a Dom/me or sub about to interact with. Your body usually doesn't lie to you but that doesn't stop us living in denial...."
The switches I've interacted with has meant there was a certain level of dynamic where they were deferring to me. It's not that I was actively dominating (and/or they submitting) nor even just being some "kneel bitch" arsehole barking commands. It means that the general vibe of our conversation and interaction was of them showing their submissive side and not the other. The body language was telling me they're sub (AT THAT POINT IN TIME) even though I *know* they openly define themselves as switch. And this was the point I was making to the OP. He *says* he's a switch (or Dom within that particular scene) but his body language and thought processes were telling him something else. As one who always believes actions speak louder than words, it seemed an obvious point to make!
Honestly, the only "dominant" switches I've ever come across are those online where there is no r/l dynamic for the body language to tell what's really true. And the loud ones often tend to be "too dominant", such is the security of Net anonymity....
So do try to remember I've only met a handful of switches and try to avoid the obvious temptation of telling me something ignorant like I need to get out more. I don't! And I make no apologies for relating *my* personal experiences here even if some have a problem with that - your experiences are not mine and vice versa. That's all it is....
Focus.
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