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RE: How deep does your submission run? - 5/24/2009 4:34:55 PM

WestBaySlave

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How deep does your submission run?

Hard to say, because it's so dependent on the person. For some it doesn't run at all.

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Do you feel the need for tasks in every day life for your top/dom(me)/master/mistress?

No. I do feel the need for someone to tell me what to do, but I don't really care if that's making dinner or sitting around watching movies with them, what matters is that they're directing it.

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Are you interested in mental BDSM?

It's all mental for me. The physical aspects are just a reflection of an intangible D/s element.

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Are you a submissive or a slave? Do you think you could be a slave for the right person?

I'm a slave for the right person - that describes me just right. I am most definitely not a slave to anyone, especially anyone with the first five minutes of meeting them ( much to the disappointment of some doms... )

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RE: How deep does your submission run? - 5/24/2009 8:26:15 PM

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How deep does my submission run? - my submission doesn't run - it walks, or crawls, or just stands still. Sometimes it even jumps up and down. I don't see my submission as a seperate entity - bdsm is me - just like soylent green. I can't seperate it any more than i can seperate my femininity!!!!

Tasks? - today i did laundry, vaccumed and did dishes. Do i feel fufilled? - nope, but its nice to walk over the carpet without it crunching, and Sir won't be stinky for at least a week. Tasks have little to do with bdsm for me. I had to do them when i was married, i had to do them when i was a single mother, and now i do them for me and my Sir. If Sir bought in a maid, i'd be tickled pink - more time for me to read/compute/quilt. It wouldn't hurt my feelings at all!

Which i guess would make my bdsm mental.

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RE: How deep does your submission run? - 5/24/2009 8:36:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: SeekingOrder

How deep does your submission run?

It runs fairly deeply.....the only things i will never do are my hard limits, and they are either illegal or health hazards.....good reasons to be hard limits. He is pushing my soft limits every day.

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ORIGINAL: SeekingOrder
Do you feel the need for tasks in every day life for your top/dom(me)/master/mistress?

No, as i have enough to do in everyday life....but i do have tasks anyway, which i do lovingly and gladly, as i crave pleasing Him.

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ORIGINAL: SeekingOrder
Are you interested in mental BDSM?

Isn't all BDSM mental really on some level? my submission has to be mental before it manifests physically.

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ORIGINAL: SeekingOrderAre you a submissive or a slave?

i'm a submissive.

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ORIGINAL: SeekingOrder
Do you think you could be a slave for the right person?

Yes, absolutely. i have had a Dom before that i could never reach that level of submission with, but with my Sir now, i definitely could.

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RE: How deep does your submission run? - 5/25/2009 3:37:09 AM

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my depth of submission is entirely based on the depth of Mastery. i respond accordingly. i can go very deep emotionally and mentally. i dont need tasks to remind me of my submission, infact i dislike tasks for tasks sake. if there is something constructive asked of me then fine, otherwise they just tend to add to my already full schedule.

Ms or Ds is largely psychological, infact without that my submission to someone doesnt happen.

i call myself a slub, its somewhere in between

Excellent description!!! I find that a skilled Master/Mistress knows how to really dig deep and rock submissive desires to the core.

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RE: How deep does your submission run? - 5/25/2009 4:44:12 AM

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How deep does your submission run?

My submission does not run deep, it runs through, similar to the way blood or oxygen runs through.

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Do you feel the need for tasks in every day life for your top/dom(me)/master/mistress?

I do not need to be given specific tasks on a daily basis. Waiting is one of the most difficult tasks I can be given, and it is often ‘task of the day’.

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Are you interested in mental BDSM?

If my mind isn’t into it, then I probably haven’t consented; at least not intentionally.

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Are you a submissive or a slave? Do you think you could be a slave for the right person?

I am Sir’s submissive, but have an innate understanding of the concept of slave. As for being one for the right person; I’m not sure such a creature exists.
Kim

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RE: How deep does your submission run? - 5/25/2009 4:48:09 AM

Delphinus

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In my mind, it runs very deep but the reasons why I think so is because of what exactly I give over to him that I've never done before. I've stepped into the relationship knowing it would be a challenge to be completely "his", that I have been so used to not sharing myself and keeping up huge walls of defense. Now? It is still a big struggle for me, but I do it - I talk to him, I tell him things that are in my core, I tell him things I'm scared he will be angry about, I tell him things that I think may cause him to look at me differently for - because if I keep things from him, anything, then I'm not really giving myself to him.

Honestly, I'm not there fully. So my submission is still deepening - it's a process that I guess I've not completed yet - I don't know if there's an end point, because there are probably always deeper levels to be revealed. But it's so much more prevalent than when we first started out, and it's so much more important to my submission than any task or scene, and my exposing myself mentally and emotionally only enhances the physical connection between us.

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RE: How deep does your submission run? - 5/25/2009 8:25:37 AM

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1. I don't know how to measure a sexual orientation and personality trait (submissiveness is both to me) in terms of depth. When I'm not thinking of breathless mine shafts or rivers overflowing their banks, I think, "we all believe that the traits we identify with ourselves run deep." All I can say is that it's always been there, since my earliest memories, and there's never been a time when I haven't craved it.

I often find this craving inconvenient as hell: it strongly limits my choice of partners (there are so many darling vanilla people out there who have everything I'd ever want, except the sexual compatibility and so few people who share my sexuality who are compatible personality wise) and it messes badly with my sense of self-esteem and preservation (not when I'm partnered, of course, but definitely when I am single), and it occasioanlly drives me to the brink of despair, but I'm stuck with it, and so try to make the best of it, and pick myself up as quickly as I can after I fall.

2. I like to be well-used, in all ways, not just sexual. It increases my security, sense of belonging and being in the right place, and my erotic awareness. It assuages my need to be useful and helpful. All good things. You didn't mention micro-management, but someone else did (I guess the word "tasks" was a trigger?), so I'll respond to that, too. I love it, but can live without it.

3. I'm always interested in mental bdsm except in one context: when it's a substitute for physical bdsm. Hmm, that's kind of vague and prone to mutiple interpretations. What I mean is that I hate it when someone online makes words about a realtime face-to-face relationship, the kind I want and need, but never follows through nor has any intention of making it real, despite their promises. Usually such people are confused and don't know their own minds, but in their confusion about what they really want they end up hurting others badly.

4. I was a slave. I would like to be so again. I think it's a bit more accurate to say that I'm always submissive-adjective as opposed to "a submissive"--noun.

5. I am not sure what you mean by the last question. I think I could only be a slave for the right person. I could be nothing of the sort for the wrong person.

Why are you asking these questions?

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RE: How deep does your submission run? - 5/26/2009 9:22:28 AM

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My submissiveness dosent run through me it has always been there and it is deeply rooted.

Master does not give me tasks he does not feel it is necessary.

Mental BDSM i though most of it was mental. Master is always n my head, and when i am not with him i make choices that will please him without directions from him. So if that is what you mean then yes.

I am a submissive. I don't think i could be a slave i an not wired that way.

Matt's littleone

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RE: How deep does your submission run? - 5/27/2009 5:59:40 AM

agirl

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ORIGINAL: SeekingOrder

How deep does your submission run?

Not very deeply........I'm not submissive.

Do you feel the need for tasks in every day life for your top/dom(me)/master/mistress?

No, but I do need his *pressure* to do tasks of my own sometimes.

Are you interested in mental BDSM?

Not quite sure what you mean by *interested* .........but it's ALL been a mental process and still is.

Are you a submissive or a slave?
Do you think you could be a slave for the right person?

I'm an owned person and in a relationship where I gave total authority to him. I'd be defined as a slave by most people because of the relationship type we have. I just prefer *owned* as I don't identify with the way the majority of slaves decribe themselves and I'm not submissive.

agirl

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RE: How deep does your submission run? - 5/27/2009 8:02:13 PM

MMagic

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ORIGINAL: SeekingOrder

How deep does your submission run? Do you feel the need for tasks in every day life for your top/dom(me)/master/mistress? Are you interested in mental BDSM?

Well I don't live with my Dom so daily tasks are a little askew. I DO try to get a lot done so I have all the free time I can with him. So in a way all my daily tasks are geared toward Him.

Are you a submissive or a slave? Do you think you could be a slave for the right person?

I'm a sub and as for how deep it runs. I so may get into trouble for this, so I'll try to share without sharing too much because he hates too much sharing but...I can't put how deep it runs into words and had no idea that it ran as deeply as it did until our first hour physically in each others presence. I've not had another man touch me in about 19 years and I was very nervous and worried that I'd do something wrong...what if he doesn't like me and so on. And I distinctly remember him kissing me and thinking..oh boy..ok relax...you're his so he can touch you it's ok. After that, piece of cake...mostly anyway ;)

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RE: How deep does your submission run? - 5/27/2009 8:18:50 PM

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ORIGINAL: SeekingOrder

How deep does your submission run? Do you feel the need for tasks in every day life for your top/dom(me)/master/mistress? Are you interested in mental BDSM?

Are you a submissive or a slave? Do you think you could be a slave for the right person?

I suppose if that is your measure of submission, I run pretty shallow. I do not require busy work, and micro management to help me feel better about myself. I am an aggressive, driven person who happens to be happier when I am in a relationship where he takes the lead.

I would not be helpless if he suddenly left. I just cannot do the helpless idiot role.

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RE: How deep does your submission run? - 5/27/2009 8:30:19 PM

MMagic

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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

I would not be helpless if he suddenly left. I just cannot do the helpless idiot role.

Let the congregation say amen....

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RE: How deep does your submission run? - 5/27/2009 8:31:04 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

I would not be helpless if he suddenly left. I just cannot do the helpless idiot role.

Let the congregation say amen....

AMEN!!!

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RE: How deep does your submission run? - 5/28/2009 12:06:42 AM

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I could not define sub or slave until Master gave me the Slave's Prayer to read. It summed it up for me:

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RE: How deep does your submission run? - 5/28/2009 6:57:16 AM

Puc

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ORIGINAL: SeekingOrder

How deep does your submission run?

Ill do whatever Mistress asks, to the best of my ability. At the begining of our relationship we discussed our limits, soft and hard. I am lucky that Mistress would never ask anything of me She knows i would not be able to do.

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ORIGINAL: SeekingOrder

Do you feel the need for tasks in every day life for your top/dom(me)/master/mistress?

i have no daily set tasks, but am left to my own initiative. i like it that my submission is not enforced. It is something i give freely and as a result i think that i do give that extra little bit that isn't necessarily expected of me. Don't get me wrong - i do get told to do certain tasks and chores, but they regularly change and there is no daily schedule

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ORIGINAL: SeekingOrder

Are you interested in mental BDSM?

If you mean outside of play, i.e. outside of the physical?

Of course. Submission is more than accepting whatever pain/punishment that Mistress/Master deals you. If that is all it was for a person then they're just a pain slut.

If you mean the likes of mental bondage etc. the answer would also be yes. I will do my utmost to stay where i'm told until told otherwise. No matter what is going on around me, pain or otherwise.

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ORIGINAL: SeekingOrder

Are you a submissive or a slave? Do you think you could be a slave for the right person?

Im a switch in a relationship with a Domme. But with Mistress i'm definatly Her submissive. Everything i do for Mistress is a choice. i choose to be her sub, choose to submit to the tasks and role i am in - and She wouldn't have it any other way.

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RE: How deep does your submission run? - 5/28/2009 7:01:10 AM

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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz
I would not be helpless if he suddenly left. I just cannot do the helpless idiot role.

Here Here!!!

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RE: How deep does your submission run? - 5/29/2009 12:40:19 AM

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The need to be subservient infuses every atom of my being!!!!!!

my needs are irrelevant!!! Her Will Be Done!!!!!

my body , heart , soul and mind are Her chattel to be toyed with as She pleases!!!!!!!

i am most definitely a slave

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RE: How deep does your submission run? - 5/29/2009 1:49:56 PM

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i am a service submissive and i enjoy helping and being of service. as far as mental part i am not sure i fully understand the reference. i appreciate the slaves but i am not wired for that. i enjoy making my M'Lady happy and that is rewarding for me. i like doing things laundry and cooking and cleaning.

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RE: How deep does your submission run? - 6/1/2009 5:02:07 AM

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ORIGINAL: SeekingOrder

How deep does your submission run? Do you feel the need for tasks in every day life for your top/dom(me)/master/mistress? Are you interested in mental BDSM?

Are you a submissive or a slave? Do you think you could be a slave for the right person?

I am a natural slave. I thought I was a garden-variety sub for many years, however you can't get away from who you TRULY are. I had had an inkling over the years, like a niggle in the back of my mind, but if you really want me to be honest, I think t truth is that I didn't want to know. Because, at that time in my life, acknowledging it would have meant actually DOING SOMETHING about it.

In regard to he question regarding the need for tasks in everyday life to do for Him: the answer is YES. It feels right and I feel at home with the thought o doing anything He asks of me.

At the risk of sounding possibly picky and selfish......I want to be His slave because I give Him my complete trust, my love, devotion, everything I am. We have both done the groundwork,because neither of us wants a superficial thing devoid of emotion. I long for the day that He decides to formalize our D/s relationship in this way, as then I will truly feel at home.

For me, mental BDSM would be part of the package of a 24/7 situation. That would be only natural for me. If I hold any part of myself back, that would be a grave disservice to Master C.

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His love and my devotion and service to Him are stronger than leather or steel.

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RE: How deep does your submission run? - 6/1/2009 5:18:47 AM

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I thought I was a garden-variety sub for many years,

Do you get them at focus?

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