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RE: What do you do when your Master says he loves you t... - 2/9/2006 9:58:17 AM

MASTERHAIRYROCKY

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Hi, its really upsetting when the change is.abrupt.as it seems to be in this case....., try a beachouse loaction/ or anyplace.he is most likely to relax and.dont push him...but go with the flow just let him know in subtle ways.u want him to spank u......by offering.....if does not take the hint..just ignore it........and see for reasonable period...2 months.

You sure got to make effort to save something which u beleive was gr8.if its something outside which is effecting him, chnage of scenery, locale.people may.do it.good luck.

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RE: What do you do when your Master says he loves you t... - 2/9/2006 10:20:00 AM

Troubleinparadis

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ORIGINAL: Evanesce
"I'm afraid I'll hurt you and you'll leave," has been said to me by more than one dominant partner.

Guilty....recovering from that now.

amayos:...

Do you think it fair to question her love for her Master, beacuse she is seeking help to make the relationship good?

I dont think so, its as much her responsobility as it is his, (well ok not quite as much hers) to try and make the relationsihp good, and it is (I am sure) her job to keep him happy..

perhaps this just hits close for me since I am in a long term M/s relationship whos dynamics slowly changed for issues like these.

I almost lost my self, and my girl (and still might lose her). I allowed this to happen because of my love for her.

No I love you to much to make you do that...or I love you to much to hurt you.

It took me 3 years to start down that path, hit rock bottom, and just yesterday begin to bounce back...(mostly due to the discussion I started thanks yall!)

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My point is if she can do something now to help guide her relationship perhaps she should....With open communication with her Master about her needs and his needs, and how they are so alike and that is what they love about each other.

Just a thought!
Peace

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RE: What do you do when your Master says he loves you t... - 2/9/2006 2:38:52 PM

PenelopePitstop

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I'm probly going to get some flak for this but I can only talk from experience here: for some people, Dominance is a coping mechanism and maybe this is the case with your guy? I guess nothing makes one crave a bit of personal power as a horrible divorce. I realise this is a bit arrogant of me to say as I'm only a newbie, but I've just split up with a guy who initially was really turned on by all ideas of Dominance, but as time wore on, he just stopped having those urges and it really confused and upset me. We talked about it and he said that he only ever felt sadistic before he met me, because he was so unhappy and felt out of control, and when he met me, all that changed.

This is not to say that everyone who is Dominant is 'unhappy inside' god that would insulting to most of the people here and its a complex thing anyway with a myriad of ingredients (lol) but...it turned out to be the case for my ex...a backhanded compliment I suppose. personally I'd rather have the backhandER but c'est la vie.

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RE: What do you do when your Master says he loves you t... - 2/9/2006 3:07:25 PM

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for some people, Dominance is a coping mechanism

I guess that the difference between someone who has really come home to themselves and someone who is just being *dominate* as a reaction to experiences in life.

I'm guessing most potential abusers fall into that last category.

My entry here has nothing to do with the OPs initial post, just responding to the last message by Penelope. i.e. im not saying the OPS Master is an abuser in any way shape or form.

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RE: What do you do when your Master says he loves you t... - 2/9/2006 4:40:38 PM

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I too want to say that I'm not saying that the OP's Dom is in any shape or form fake, or abusive or anything like that, hopefully my last post made that clear.

Although there are plenty people here with issues (as anywhere).

Sudden changes in behaviour and/or inconsistencies over a period of time do hint at something being not quite right, though. Not necessarily that someone is inherently malevolent, but that something is affecting them so deeply it is affecting their subconscious/id/chi/chakras/primal drive.

On the other hand, You Are Loved :) Being Loved Is Great! I'm sorry if I'm putting a negative spin on things - I'm biased cos I've just broken up with someone.

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