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littlesarbonn -> RE: What gives? (5/30/2009 3:02:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus This sort of thing happens constantly! I know that doesn't make you feel better, but I want to assure you that it is NOT you, it's them. I was chatting to a local guy, who poofed. The next thing I knew, he had changed his profile to say "found Mistress". Okies! I wrote him a "congratulations" note---only to hear back that the mistress he had found was ME! [sm=banghead.gif] I told him that we would need to discuss that issue in person---because we had not physically MET yet! Haven't heard from him since. I wish that the ones who are not interested would have the good grace to just say "no thanks" in an email, or that the ones who NEVER intend to leave the computer room would say as much. I would also like to wish for a Pucci print corset, and a money tree. [;)][;)] Wait a minute! I thought that if a dominant woman contacted me by PM it was now my right to claim her as mine. No one ever sends me the update memos here.

windchymes -> RE: What gives? (5/30/2009 4:44:19 PM)
Sorry to hear, OP, but don't despair.....one of these days soon, his brother will be contacting you to inform you of his tragic untimely death, but he left instructions that the brother should step in and take his place. [8\|] Seriously, it's better to know they're jerks now than later.

xxblushesxx -> RE: What gives? (5/30/2009 9:00:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: windchymes Sorry to hear, OP, but don't despair.....one of these days soon, his brother will be contacting you to inform you of his tragic untimely death, but he left instructions that the brother should step in and take his place. [8\|] windchymes...[sm=biggrin.gif][sm=goodpost.gif]

LaTigresse -> RE: What gives? (5/31/2009 4:24:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx Well, since that someone gave us absolutely NO hints who she is, nor who he is, then he'd be a bit of a twit. (which he sounds like already) Agreed. And perhaps said twit, just outted himself?[:D]

IronBear -> RE: What gives? (5/31/2009 5:15:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: StayingAnonymou Okay, I'm a fairly regular poster here who doesn't want to give some jerk the satisfaction of knowing just how much he got to me. Someone I've so far only spoken to for some time on line and on phone and we seem (at least so I thought) to have a connection. He isn't really local but we've had ongoing regular conversations. Now he calls he's in the general area and we set up plans to meet. No expectations for play but maybe a beginning for one later on, right? We've been talking for quite a while and I'm really looking forward to our first meeting. Then..... Silence. Loud Silence. Nothing. He's gone. He doesn't answer the phone. He doesn't reply to emails. His profile is gone. I'm not really asking for advice, I just needed to vent. Thanks for listening. There are a few folks who are members of CM (other side) who I dearly wish would remove their membership and just disappear in a puff of pixi powder. Their a pain, They are blocked from my Cmails but regularly show up on the "Whose Viewing You" thingie... Thankfully there is the delete "X" which is handy..

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: What gives? (5/31/2009 6:40:13 AM)
I am sorry this happened. He sounded like a chicken shit that when it came time to a real meeting he chickened out. Better to know now that he is a chicken shit. [;)]

xxblushesxx -> RE: What gives? (5/31/2009 10:07:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse quote: ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx Well, since that someone gave us absolutely NO hints who she is, nor who he is, then he'd be a bit of a twit. (which he sounds like already) Agreed. And perhaps said twit, just outted himself?[:D] I considered saying that...[;)]

MeaganBlake -> RE: What gives? (5/31/2009 4:09:42 PM)
I met a boy on here a couple of months ago. I had a nice coffee date and I thought things went really well. Then he just kind of disappeared. I sent him a couple of e-mails telling him if he wasn't interested, just say so, and he insisted he was. Then nothing for weeks until... I got an e-mail from him this week saying he was interested again. We e-mailed a few times, and now he's vanished again. I really don't know what his problem is! But anyway, the point I'm trying to make, is not to take it personally. It happens to everyone.

ctsub2003 -> RE: What gives? (5/31/2009 4:24:20 PM)
This happens to everyone on both sides of the fence, D/s, F/m. The reality is, it is easier to just ignore someone online ( we are all just magnetic ink) than to get into a long drawn out discussion as to why you don't wish tto pursue a relationship w/ said person. There are no accusations or hurt feelings, tears or whatever. Only searching discussion board questions like this one. Cowardly? Sure, but some people just don't want to own up to it. Don't think it is just subs either, it has happened to me w/ 2 "dommes". Keep your head up and move on ;)

skinn -> RE: What gives? (5/31/2009 4:37:24 PM)
Four years Ive been here,searching for the right her. Have had countless ''tyre kickers,scammers,wannabe's and the wish I coulds'' but as others have mentioned there is a certain style to the mails they write,or the calls they make. One learns how to weed em out, after a while. What bugs me is the time invested till one comes to know the signs. Dont give up though as that would be letting the creeps get there way .There is real people out there and there will be one for you to.

kuriouswitch -> RE: What gives? (5/31/2009 9:41:13 PM)
i've had this happen to me, someone i got along with really well, things meshed awesomely, then one night after promising he'd be there when i woke up he just vanished, his profile was gone, he didn't answer the phone or texts or his IM. it happens, but you breathe deeply and cry or rage a bit then move on.

IronBear -> RE: What gives? (5/31/2009 10:47:09 PM)
Neets and I have had a few no shows, we just wrote them off and enjoyed the coffee then a spot of shopping. perhaps they couldn't handle me using a stick to walk or being a wheel chair when my knee was having a bad hair day. I just put it down to my being the most evil bastard in Australia, I scared them shitless.. LOL... WEG...VWEG...RWML...

marysdream -> RE: What gives? (6/1/2009 5:41:26 AM)
Well obviously you gave him all he wanted on line and on the phone....maybe a lesson learned, if you really want real time make it clear, you will not jump into the BDSM aspects until you meet, believe me this will have most running after a few chats! good luck ree

xxblushesxx -> RE: What gives? (6/1/2009 7:40:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: marysdream Well obviously you gave him all he wanted on line and on the phone....maybe a lesson learned, if you really want real time make it clear, you will not jump into the BDSM aspects until you meet, believe me this will have most running after a few chats! good luck ree I disagree. He was probably married and/or scared. Plus the OP made it clear there was not to be any play on the first meet, so maybe he decided it wouldn't be worth it if he didn't get any.

CreativeDominant -> RE: What gives? (6/1/2009 8:07:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: StayingAnonymou Okay, I'm a fairly regular poster here who doesn't want to give some jerk the satisfaction of knowing just how much he got to me. Someone I've so far only spoken to for some time on line and on phone and we seem (at least so I thought) to have a connection. He isn't really local but we've had ongoing regular conversations. Now he calls he's in the general area and we set up plans to meet. No expectations for play but maybe a beginning for one later on, right? We've been talking for quite a while and I'm really looking forward to our first meeting. Then..... Silence. Loud Silence. Nothing. He's gone. He doesn't answer the phone. He doesn't reply to emails. His profile is gone. I'm not really asking for advice, I just needed to vent. Thanks for listening. I am really sorry this happened to you...but it does happen, on both sides of the D/s fence. I was speaking to a submissive from here whose life got tough. I tried to continue to be there for her, be supportive, yada, yada, yada...and she just went "poof". Didn't answer the phone, didn't answer her cmail, didn't answer her regular mail. As far as I know, she did the same thing she had said she always does...when the going got tough, she got going. She's self-admittedly good at running. She proved it...

SailingBum -> RE: What gives? (6/1/2009 8:13:33 PM)
I fail to see what the OP had "invested" in this ummmm relationship naaa coffee friend naaa .. letsee you swapped a couple e's and phone calls and your so upset you can't use your real nick. Im so curious how anyone considers email and phone calls anything more than very casual online bud. Im assuming this guy didnt give you his online version of the "letter jacket" and going steady??? You say he just vanished. what to do ..what to do? Im thinking you need a reality check. BadOne

RedMagic1 -> RE: What gives? (6/1/2009 8:23:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MeaganBlake I met a boy on here a couple of months ago. I had a nice coffee date and I thought things went really well. Then he just kind of disappeared. I sent him a couple of e-mails telling him if he wasn't interested, just say so, and he insisted he was. Then nothing for weeks until... I got an e-mail from him this week saying he was interested again. We e-mailed a few times, and now he's vanished again. I really don't know what his problem is! But anyway, the point I'm trying to make, is not to take it personally. It happens to everyone. There have been threads about this phenomenon on the Ask A Mistress board. A lot of malesubs move in and out of desiring/needing a domme, almost like a menstrual cycle. It's apparently extremely common -- and very different from female subs, who tend (like nilla women) to look for a relationship and stick to it. Bottom line: he might not be a flake, just confused. You might consider searching the Ask A Mistress threads, or posting there about this.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: What gives? (6/1/2009 8:31:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 quote: ORIGINAL: MeaganBlake I met a boy on here a couple of months ago. I had a nice coffee date and I thought things went really well. Then he just kind of disappeared. I sent him a couple of e-mails telling him if he wasn't interested, just say so, and he insisted he was. Then nothing for weeks until... I got an e-mail from him this week saying he was interested again. We e-mailed a few times, and now he's vanished again. I really don't know what his problem is! But anyway, the point I'm trying to make, is not to take it personally. It happens to everyone. There have been threads about this phenomenon on the Ask A Mistress board. A lot of malesubs move in and out of desiring/needing a domme, almost like a menstrual cycle. It's apparently extremely common -- and very different from female subs, who tend (like nilla women) to look for a relationship and stick to it. Bottom line: he might not be a flake, just confused. You might consider searching the Ask A Mistress threads, or posting there about this. My friend, this analogy is so apt, I want to sig it somehow!

RedMagic1 -> RE: What gives? (6/1/2009 9:19:58 PM)
Subovulation: the three days each month a man feels an overwhelming urge to submit.

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