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YOUR LAST to present... SUBS - 5/28/2009 5:40:52 AM

GYPZYQUEEN

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I am interested in hearing some details about
YOU & your last 2-5/ to present subs/slaves...relationships..........

*How did you meet?
*How long was/is the relationship?
*How did you decide go forward?( based on?)
*A bump or two you have gotten over..
*The type of relationship...eg)live in..playtimes..entered a poly etc..

MY present sub and I still get together periodically..he is 24 and working on his career which takes a lot of time..
WE have a good friendship..of MOMMY DOM-Mentor.. style..it has been 5 months..we met on CM.
A bump we worked on was his fear of his bi sexuality.
A sub I met on CM in October who was transferred 3 provinces away is returning in June and we will continue with our 2+ evenings a week with eventual goal of live in.A major bump was his 7 previous years with a " Mistress" which was actually abusive.

Before that I lived in a POLY home as HEAD of the home for 20 years...with my husband(sub#1) and over the years 3 others with us..for 5.6 and 3 years..
When my husband died ..#3 and I stayed together for 3 more years but the dynamics were gone.
I met my husband at age 16..married at 18 and naturally adopted a BDSM life...we added another man...about 4 years after..who was already a part of our life..it was a natural loving addition and felt right.
We all worked through things like buying land together,,,societal judgement( hiding in the open due to a high profile job) and many family crisis..communication was the key.

thanks all...

GQ
PS.. I want to write a book HIDING IN THE OPEN

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RE: YOUR LAST to present... SUBS - 5/28/2009 6:10:11 AM

Calandra

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Present: My cubby - been with him 9 years, married to him 6 years.
We met on Bondage.com's IRC chat server and he moved to me within 2 1/2 weeks of that meeting.
We've overcome the usual challenges, but usually it's not between us, it's between us and the rest of the world.

1 year ago: cp/toad - with Me 2 years.
We met as friends at a munch 7 years ago. He moved in 3 years ago after splitting up with his sub, and I can only say that rebound relationships are NOT a good idea.
He discovered he had Asperger's after moving in and it tore My household and heart apart... (thank the Cosmos for cubby)

4 years ago: phoebe - with Me 6 months.
We met here in the chat server. she was 20 and very new and refreshing - until she got settled in and discovered that the "cute act" will not get you far in a serious D/s household. Once reality set in and she realized that a poly family requires work, dedication and sacrifice, she moved on.

Looking back, it's interesting that the last two subs (cubby too actually) were all about to move when our relationships began. Each time there was chemistry, and it seemed rediculous for them to get settled in somewhere else only to move in with Me later...

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RE: YOUR LAST to present... SUBS - 5/28/2009 12:21:16 PM

slavekal

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We met at the first fetish party she ever attended. The hostess practically handed my leash to her. We realized that we kind of knew each other when we were kids. That was over six years ago. We get along very well as Mistress/slave and as two people. One slight hurdle early on was her reluctance to really grab those reins. She wanted too much guidance from me. I gave her a book, "Mama Gena's Owner's and Operator's Guide to Men". That helped a lot. Once she admitted to, and embraced her deepest desire, to be a cuckoldress, things really took off.

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RE: YOUR LAST to present... SUBS - 5/28/2009 3:36:49 PM

Joseff

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My present is debbie (hotnspicysub on CM) About 17 years ago, I went to a bar with a buddy of mine. He was going to meet someone, that someone brought a friend, debbie. We both had an interest in BDSM, but our only real knowledge was what we had seen in porn, and we didn't get internet for another 7 years or so. So we kind of learned together, and after 5 years decided to get married. I discovered our local group in '02, but by the time we found out about D/s relationships, we were already established as a kinky married couple. Although I wouldn't mind a real time D/s relationship, she was never the slave type, way too bossy. Now she's starting to explore her dominant side. The only real bumps we've encountered have nothing to do with our lifestyle, they're more the mundane stuff everybody deals with: finances, kids, that kinda stuff.

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RE: YOUR LAST to present... SUBS - 5/28/2009 9:14:39 PM

AcademyForSlaves

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I have a main male sub who's been my slave for over 5 years.

I have a few other male subs that I own. Some long distance and some are local. Most I own by slave contract that they signed.

Many others I am training. A few of those I've been training for months, others for weeks. Couple of the subs want me to own them after they're trained. I only own the really good subs so I'm always accepting applications from new applicants.

Hundreds come to us for training but I only train a few of those because I like to focus only on a few subs at a time. The other Mistresses I know train the others.

Hope this helps.

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