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Have you become dependant on your slave? - 5/30/2009 9:14:53 PM

Ladylocks

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Has anyone become so used to being served and cared for by their sub or slave that when for some reason, you had to do without their service, you weren't ready for it? When Dainty's father died he had to go back home to look after the final arrangements for two weeks. We sent him on a plane and were worried about him but after he left things here almost got out of control. Master Monica and I just weren't prepared to be suddenly slaveless. Dainty has served us very well from keeping our house in order, to keeping our yard beautiful and just being a great companion for one of us when the other is working. Other than cooking, we don't usually lift a finger on any household chores when at home. At work we work. At home is our leisure time. A few days after Dainty left the place started to get messy, the dishes weren't being done enough, the lawn was getting tall and we were low on laundry. We were both working long hours at the time so neither of us felt like housework after work. Monica and I had our first real argument as the little things that couples annoy each other with were starting to come out. Clothes left where they were dropped, lid off the toothpaste, toilet paper roll left empty, that kind of stuff. We never lived together without Dainty silently making these little problems disappear. We kept our heads and divided the workload, but as I sit here I am thinking just how important he has become to us. How many hours he frees up for us to do what we want instead of doing mundane chores. How he is a good pet companion when alone but makes himself unobtrusive when we are both home knowing how important our time together is. He will be home in a couple of days and we will make sure he feels a warm welcome home. We both can't wait. We miss our pet!

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RE: Have you become dependant on your slave? - 5/30/2009 9:28:40 PM

AlexandraLynch

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I can do everything I ask my girl to do. But she willingly helps me so that we have more fun time together, and because she knows it is very hard for me to do some of it due to the fibromyalgia and the foot injury.

It's part of what we are and what we do, and I value the times where we sit together and fold laundry and talk, and just are.

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RE: Have you become dependant on your slave? - 5/30/2009 9:30:37 PM

AcademyForSlaves

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Hi.

Sorry to hear about your loss. Today I met someone who lost his girlfriend and he felt that no one is in life understands what he's going through. It really helps to join a support group for people who lost loved ones. Grieve as long as you need to. Don't let anyone pressure you to "get over it".

I don't recommend anyone relying on their sub too much and no sub relying on their owner. Everyone needs to be self sufficient and independant to a certain point. I think this applies to everyone not just in BDSM.

Hope this helps.

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RE: Have you become dependant on your slave? - 5/31/2009 6:20:17 AM

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It is only natural to rely on someone over time. While a slave might do little for their Master that he could not do for himself, or someone else couldn't do for him, that slave might get it done better, more quickly, or with a better humor. The hope is that over time they will become more and more indispensable. "Need" does not just go in the direction of the slave needing the Master, but many Masters also feel the "need" for that slave. It is healthy to miss them when they are gone, and to wish for them to be back.

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RE: Have you become dependant on your slave? - 5/31/2009 2:36:49 PM

Dilseachd

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I had a former Mistress in the past who called me for months after our power exchange ended to ask me where did I put this or that..or how did I manage this or that.   In time she just offered to start paying me to come clean up and take care of her stuff.   Since we were still friends I agreed and it worked for a while.

I guess a better example is how my brother has recently had to deal with things after his wife suddenly died of a heart attack.   He didnt have a clue as to where some things were..how the bills were being paid etc... I think its only natural that people will depend on others in their lives and when they are gone its a shock to the system.

Good communication is key to dealing with these things.   I made it a point with Dominants in my life after the afore mentioned one...to always let them know where I put things...and what methods I used for taking care of their buisiness so that if I was gone for whatever reason it wouldnt be so traumatic to them.

Regards to all,
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