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newlychaste -> RE: I'm Looking For... (profile question-ish) (5/31/2009 9:29:45 AM)
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My point is that the highly successful people I know almost never talk this way. They tend to talk about how much of life they don't understand, and act genuinely curious in the viewpoints of others. They got good at whatever they got good at, by paying attention to other people, not just themselves. By contrast, the people I have known who talk the way you are currently posting, tend to be people who were very good in school, but did not "live up to the hype." Meaning, they think they should be highly successful, and yet they are not.
There's a certain amount of luck to getting ahead, no matter how much talent you have and work you put in. But if you find yourself unable to maintain a relationship for more than a few months, or if you find that other people are starting to pass you by even though you are "innately smarter," you might consider changing the way you perceive the world. It might be that those other people have something that you lack, and it will take you a tremendous amount of work to instill it within yourself.
Sheesh.
First, let me say that I don't appreciate being spoken to that way. You've just projected a load of unfair, untrue, and inappropriate value judgments on me. By the standards of normal society, I'm relatively successful for my age: I'm well-enough paid to own a home and a new car; my coworkers defer to me with regard to important decisions; and I'm quite comfortable with where I am in life--all this through my own effort, and being good with people in general.
Second, don't accuse me--or anyone else, for that matter--of being "smart." That's a backhanded sting (at best), and is telling.
Third, if I weren't interested in the opinions of others, why would I have made a post here asking for input? (By the way, you've still not provided any.) If you had anything to add to my life, you could have done it by providing the input I asked for; instead, you chose to turn this forum into a debate about what you imagine my character to be. At any rate, attacking a person's character and values doesn't generally change their point of view.
As an aside, correlation is not causation--the "highly successful people you talk to" are not successful because they "almost never talk" [as I do]; nor are they successful because they talk about "how much of life they don't understand." While it is most probably true that they're successful (IN PART) because they listen to others, they didn't get to be successful on that merit alone--I can guarantee you that. Anyway, they're wholly irrelevant to this conversation (unless you mean that they're successful in relationships, in which case I would say that listening to and being interested in others is a well-known basis for creating a relationship--that's not news to me).
In short, you've wholly invalidated whatever constructive input you might have accidentally intended by speaking in theoretical terms, assumptions, and slander.
Good day.
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"The Dude abides."
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