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RE: What do you wear to a first public meeting? - 6/1/2009 8:35:14 AM

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I think that it's a fine line. When meeting people, I tend to wear something that I think is attractive and comfortable but not too casual. I do think it's possible too casual. Manners and personal grooming are important as well.
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RE: What do you wear to a first public meeting? - 6/1/2009 8:35:49 AM

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Diane and LaT:

Why avoid pink? Because it's so often associated with the softer sort of femininity (want of a better phrase). But it was only a passing thought. And in any case, what would I know? I'm only a male. Mouth: zipped, here on in.

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RE: What do you wear to a first public meeting? - 6/1/2009 8:38:17 AM

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Diane and LaT:

Why avoid pink? Because it's so often associated with the softer sort of femininity (want of a better phrase). But it was only a passing thought. And in any case, what would I know? I'm only a male. Mouth: zipped, here on in.

I'm sure you've heard of the iron fist in the velvet glove.....

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RE: What do you wear to a first public meeting? - 6/1/2009 8:52:48 AM

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G'morning all:

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Most submissives (especially males) forget that you're doing this for yourself, not them. The instance you described would probably instigate me to kick the retard in the shins under the table. My reply to his observation would be: "There, don't you feel dominated now??". Honestly, if the fool expects fetish gear in a vanilla setting, he's not the one you need to consider to serve you.

Fantasy and fetish fulfillment seekers are quickly disabused of their preconceptions with me. I don't stand for it, ever. Wear whatever floats your boat and they can go suck the wind of your passage as you leave them gaping after you if they've disappointed in your casual attire. I think you should do an entire pink ensemble to screw with the next one's mind.

Stay safe, play nice, & share your toys w/ others...

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RE: What do you wear to a first public meeting? - 6/1/2009 8:59:16 AM

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Diane and LaT:

Why avoid pink? Because it's so often associated with the softer sort of femininity (want of a better phrase). But it was only a passing thought. And in any case, what would I know? I'm only a male. Mouth: zipped, here on in.

I'm sure you've heard of the iron fist in the velvet glove.....

I have, but maybe the men you've been meeting haven't, if they keep saying things like 'you don't look dommely'.

The major part of me is inclined to think that you should dress the way you want and that any man who makes a comment like that is living at least a touch too much in the fantasy world. However, if - if - you do feel making any concessions to what 'sub men want to see', then maybe the best way to go is to wear normal, comfortable attire but with maybe one, tokenistic item (or pair of items) that announces "dominant". The footwear's the thing that springs most to mind.

The foregoing is an adaptation of the advice I was given years ago about going out dressed casually. The way to look like a suave man dressing down rather than just a plain slob, I was told, was to wear that T shirt and jeans, say, but also to wear the Rolex my granddad had given me. 90% ordinary, 10% sending a small but clear, different message.

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RE: What do you wear to a first public meeting? - 6/1/2009 9:17:33 AM

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Just a passing thought: it might be best to avoid pink.

If they can't deal with a mistress in pink, they are not for me, and it clearly means they have NOT read my profile.

We MUST hook up!

I wear whatever I feel like wearing, which is generally a dress or skirt and top. I put on some makeup, too... at least the mascara and lipstick. After that, the weather and my mood are my guides. Once I get to know a person, I will dress in ways that tease them, it's not a hardship to wear strappy sandals or a certain shade of lipstick or whatever.

I wish I knew what a dominant looked like.. I could get one of those cardboard cutouts and just leave it places for those douches who can't decide to show up or not!

Just an FYI---my toybag is a pink Hello Kitty backpack.

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RE: What do you wear to a first public meeting? - 6/1/2009 9:25:36 AM

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Just a passing thought: it might be best to avoid pink.

If they can't deal with a mistress in pink, they are not for me, and it clearly means they have NOT read my profile.

We MUST hook up!

I wear whatever I feel like wearing, which is generally a dress or skirt and top. I put on some makeup, too... at least the mascara and lipstick. After that, the weather and my mood are my guides. Once I get to know a person, I will dress in ways that tease them, it's not a hardship to wear strappy sandals or a certain shade of lipstick or whatever.

I wish I knew what a dominant looked like.. I could get one of those cardboard cutouts and just leave it places for those douches who can't decide to show up or not!

Just an FYI---my toybag is a pink Hello Kitty backpack.

Hello Kitty.....YOU are my HERO, LadyHibiscus....and yes, we MUST meet!

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RE: What do you wear to a first public meeting? - 6/1/2009 9:37:26 AM

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i think Your dead right. i dont dress submissively and i dont expect Dommes to dress Dommely. what is dominant dress anyway? its very very open to interpretation and taste.furthermore ive certainly learned my lesson on the inappropriate talk front, ive learned to at times say nothing at all and only converse now when someone opens up to me first. ive become quite guarded that way
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RE: What do you wear to a first public meeting? - 6/1/2009 9:43:22 AM

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I remember the last time I went to court to deal with an unemployement dispute because of a former employee.

Gray skirt, pink sweater twin set, black pumps and some gorgeous black tahitian pearls. They told me that there was NO WAY our company was going to win against that judge. He always ruled in favour of the employee, regardless of case and the information given.

We won, and the former employee got a lecture from the judge. Trust me, it's not the colour.

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RE: What do you wear to a first public meeting? - 6/1/2009 9:55:17 AM

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Really? I had the impression that in big cases the defence teams usually did advise on clothing in all kinds of ways, including colours. I've so often heard of an accused woman wearing white to court (white being the colour most associated with innocence, natch) . . . .

Anyway, the OP seems to have gone with the advice to dress in the way she wants - so, problem solved.

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RE: What do you wear to a first public meeting? - 6/1/2009 9:58:48 AM

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My dear PforH, there are pinks and then there are pinks. I have a fuchsia leather dress, and trust me, there's nothing girly about it.

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RE: What do you wear to a first public meeting? - 6/1/2009 10:03:14 AM

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pics!! I want pics!!

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RE: What do you wear to a first public meeting? - 6/1/2009 10:09:36 AM

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I had dinner the other night with a potential submissive and I just wore a black dress with some reddish boots. The boy commented on how beautiful I looked, but mostly when talking about my dominance, it was more the way I was acting than what I was wearing. He said I was very confident in myself. So I think that for a first meeting, you should wear something nice, just like what you were wearing. You guys are trying to get to know each other, not fulfill some Dom/sub fantasy. I think it is best you're NOT wearing leather and such, so that the sub is not DISTRACTED by it.

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RE: What do you wear to a first public meeting? - 6/1/2009 10:14:50 AM

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As I recall, I work a pair of blue jeans and one of my awesomely hideous(My Owner would say adorably hideous) button down shirts. My Owner wore a pair of black jeans and a blue man group shirt, if I'm not mistaken.

If she would have been dressed in stereotypical female dom attire, I would have probably ran away screaming. :-p

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RE: What do you wear to a first public meeting? - 6/1/2009 10:27:56 AM

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My dear PforH, there are pinks and then there are pinks. I have a fuchsia leather dress, and trust me, there's nothing girly about it.

Gah! This is where the languages of womanese and manese begin to differ. There are only 9 colours in the dictionary of Manese, whereas there are 3,147 in the dictionary of Womanese.

Me, I love the dainty, pretty light-summer-dress look on a dominant partly because it's such a contrast with the character of the woman wearing it.

Anyway, it's a piece of cake getting a woman to wear what you like to see her in. As has been amply demonstrated on this thread: you just tell her that she mustn't wear the item of clothing you like - and you can be sure she'll wear it. Dominant women are even more a pushover for that trick than vanillas, I bet.

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RE: What do you wear to a first public meeting? - 6/1/2009 10:35:29 AM

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Greetings,

My Master always feels that a first meeting is important and should convey respect both ways and for the lifestyle. His choice in expressing this is to wear a suit whenever He is meeting someone for the first time. When He first met me He also requested that I dress simply and elegantly in a dress (which is always His expectation of me in any case). I see it as similar to a job interview when meeting a prospective Master and dress as I would for such. This is just sharing our way of handling it and in no way is meant to reflect on others views. Being who you are is important... and this is simply who we are :)

Regards,

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RE: What do you wear to a first public meeting? - 6/1/2009 10:36:18 AM

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LOL... Oh my...

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RE: What do you wear to a first public meeting? - 6/1/2009 10:39:59 AM

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My dear PforH, there are pinks and then there are pinks. I have a fuchsia leather dress, and trust me, there's nothing girly about it.

Gah! This is where the languages of womanese and manese begin to differ. There are only 9 colours in the dictionary of Manese, whereas there are 3,147 in the dictionary of Womanese.

Me, I love the dainty, pretty light-summer-dress look on a dominant partly because it's such a contrast with the character of the woman wearing it.
Anyway, it's a piece of cake getting a woman to wear what you like to see her in. As has been amply demonstrated on this thread: you just tell her that she mustn't wear the item of clothing you like - and you can be sure she'll wear it. Dominant women are even more a pushover for that trick than vanillas, I bet.

Sorry I can't stick around to see the fireworks THIS comment is going to unleash, but I have to leave for work.....

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RE: What do you wear to a first public meeting? - 6/1/2009 10:41:35 AM

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<fast reply>

Now I have Think Pink stuck in my head!

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RE: What do you wear to a first public meeting? - 6/1/2009 10:51:09 AM

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Peon, you are a prime example of why I despair of ever having a fulfilling relationship with a man. <Sigh>

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