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Slave assignments - 6/1/2009 7:42:08 AM   
SunMistress


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Status: offline 		Anyone have suggestions on what to have a slave do for me?  I have become concerned with having a 'new' sub that i met online at my home for tasks intially.  I would (do) have a ton of tasks at home, but i will not do that yet. That leaves me with occasional 'play' meetings.  He is anxious to serve me and be put to use.  Any suggestions?  What have you all done in the past?
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RE: Slave assignments - 6/1/2009 7:46:55 AM   
MsDDom


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Status: offline 		Interesting...  Do you want to take time getting to know him before he comes in you home? If you are playing w/ him, perhaps give him something to complete before you play. Is he just for play or for both play and work?

Just asking...


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RE: Slave assignments - 6/1/2009 8:05:39 AM   
SunMistress


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Status: offline 		He's for work and play.  As far as wanting to get to know him - to the point of avoiding a problem I want to get to know him.  I don't know what tasks to give him prior - the tasks that would please me would require his precense in my home.

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RE: Slave assignments - 6/1/2009 8:07:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		Im confused, do you not give tasks that you want done because you want them done?

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RE: Slave assignments - 6/1/2009 8:15:06 AM   
SunMistress


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Status: offline 		Ok.  Thanks for pointing that out.  I guess my real question is at what point should i be getting over my concern?  At one time, i was very much unconcerned of safety and avoiding nutjobs etc.  However, a bad incident changed my mind.

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RE: Slave assignments - 6/1/2009 8:18:06 AM   
colouredin


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Status: offline 		You can not rush feeling comfortable with someone it takes whatever time it takes.

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RE: Slave assignments - 6/1/2009 8:57:35 AM   
MsDDom


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Status: offline 		...then give things that can be done and then shown to you when you meet in a public place... I know you are concerned for safety, but it is up to you to create a comfy zone and something fitting...perhaps to prove his worth to you. Maybe you will need to share your concerns with him and see what solution the two of you can come up with.

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RE: Slave assignments - 6/1/2009 9:12:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		Have you met yet? Sounds like maybe not so then it is about
asking him to do tasks as you meet the first few times BEFORE going to the home..

and SAFETY is a concern...indeed..I had a shit incident too..

One thing I have done is meet in a park and he was to bring a picnic..or another time a
poetry book to read ..
I have had them FIND things I need like coffee beans..or
I say "Bring a mango"..
then once we meet( park..cafe) I get them to peel it and feed me..

**Something as simple as get a mango..
will reveal several things..
Will they balk and say "why?" or not "get it" in which case I know right away..they have no idea what service is..#1 I demanded a mango  for me..I like them..do it

THe poetry is soemthing I LIKE; to be read to and if they balk again are they teachable..mouldable..how willing are they..> do they say "I'll try" or "yes MIstress"

A foot massage can take place in a park..or outside or ..or going to the mall ( meeting)or grocery store and having them SHOP or carry items is good..( to your car but not driving with you)
You could also give him your underwear to hand wash and dry and return
or gather information..you need...such as recipes for ??

The idea is to SHOW him things in YOUR life you need( service) and how he is genuinely ENHANCING it..not made up tasks..things you really need..
 
as well UP FRONT..."safety is a concern"...so part of pleasing will have to be patience  before entering  MY house...proving worth and abilities before you even get to set foot in MY sacred domain..



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RE: Slave assignments - 6/1/2009 9:43:50 AM   
MsFlutter


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Status: offline 		Send them off to the fabric store on an errand. They must find 18" of red 5/8" wide FABRIC ribbon - not gift box ribbon.

Once they've reported back that they have completed their task, they receive instructions to wind the ribbon around their cock and balls in a nice crisscross pattern and finish it with a nice bow on top. The conversation ends with something along the lines of "I'll expect you to be wearing that ribbon in that fashion (next) we meet."
 
Their brains often go trotting right off into the sunset LOL
 
just one of many options....

p.s. he has no way of knowing if you'll actually check to verify his compliance but the party in his head keeps him busy !


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RE: Slave assignments - 6/1/2009 10:22:19 AM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		I hate to be a stick in the mud, but you are talking about being afraid to bring someone to your home, but are willing to meet someone for play dates.  So you are playing and that doesn't happen in a park.  You have your bag of goodies and are in a motel and isolated, sure he doesn't know where you live, but he has every tool you have brought with you to do whatever he wants after over powering you.  To me, this kind of defeats the purpose of remaining safe and actually puts you in harms way if he is of a mind to harm you.

Am I missing something?

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RE: Slave assignments - 6/1/2009 12:59:26 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

Am I missing something?


Coffee ?....... Errr good point about safety.

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RE: Slave assignments - 6/1/2009 1:21:49 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		If you're in a position where you are just getting to know someone and not quite ready to bring them to your home, why not give tasks that can be done prior to meeting in public places?  Have him bring you poetry that he's written or give him errands that he can accomplish for you, such as bringing you a book that you've been interested in or an item that you've been trying to find.  Ask him to pick you up a certain treat for after play, which can be shared after playing in public.

You're not alone in not wanting to bring someone you haven't even met yet to your home.  I would say the same thing if it was just getting to know someone vanilla.


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RE: Slave assignments - 6/1/2009 1:44:44 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		I think a public play area would be the best, but even then you still aren't getting the knowledge of whether the person is safe for you or not.

I am one of those... maybe few, who feel safest in my own stomping grounds.  I don't rush to meet anyone because it is difficult to do and I must plan a lot, so the little coffee, lunch meets are pretty much too much hassle for me.  I will get to know them a lot by online.  (speaking of only online here)  When I do meet someone, there has never been a problem.  I will go so far in a questionable situation, to do some background searches and am thankful I did in one case that almost became very public here on the boards with someone following my trail becasue we were fated!  Yeah... I've got your fated... logged right in a legal file! lol

I have met some in my home or around my adult um's.  Someone always knows what is going on anyway.  But, I feel safe in my home and if someone wants to stalk me later... or come uninvited... good luck with that! lol  I am the queen of my castle and am prepared at all times, for anything.  Someone could work out for months and then do that freak change.

My family had to deal with a famous mass murderer.  That man didn't use the same methods with all of his victims.  Some he knew for over a year... as the nice guy that lives right over there.  Yeah... nice guy until he planned to kill them!

My safety is me, myself and I.  Where ever I am.  Could something happen?  Sure... but unlikely.

I forgot something I wanted to mention.  Motel's/hotels are getting a lot of bad press lately and I have had my own experience in the past in a motel.  I do not feel they are safe, period.  They do not have security even when they have security and there are many ways to make you vulnerable in a motel setting.  Many are letting security persons go because they don't have the profit that warrants keeping them on staff.  I simply will not... go there.

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RE: Slave assignments - 6/2/2009 3:26:04 PM   
PrincessDonna


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Status: offline 		The public meeting is always best as I'm sure you know how to get a "feel" for some one,and yes I do have them put on nipple clamps at the first meeting,gives you another view of realness and not hard to do,lift shirt and clamp, I use automotive electrical clips with alligator teeth,the rush is at the end of the meeting they think they are being released from the pain only to discover that the blood flow back into the nipple area aaahhh.

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RE: Slave assignments - 6/3/2009 12:11:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		.. I like to have subs clean out my car... but don't ask unless I know them and they adore me.

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