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i am asking questions.
how in hell am i supposed to know which road is which if i dont know which way you are pointing?

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ORIGINAL: meandog

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But I'll agree with you on one thing - you are best on ignore. Ciao.

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but it's SO much more fun when ya have 20 i.d.'s to use..............................ha ha ha ha ha

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ORIGINAL: JohnWarren
Going from the posts I've read, I get the impression of someone who is so emotional crippled that he hates everyone different and everyone who has managed to work their way beyond a narcissistic child-like stage because they can appreciate the kind of human contact and interaction that seems to be beyond his ability.
This sort of "I'll tell you I hate you before you get close enough to hate me" isn't all that uncommon. The inability to use the board's quoting mechanism is interesting since the system is quite intuitive and user-friendly, but my feeling is that, while it may be a competence-based predicament, it is more likely a juvenile attempt at acting out.

However, he doesn't seem dangerous or harmful to anyone, with the exception of himself and his own reputation. Because of this I've had his posts on block for quite a while. Recently, I made an exception in order to confirm that one had the degree if bigotry and racism that seemed to have triggered the replies that I could see. Sadly, the replies seemed to be an accurate reflection of the original post so I returned to my previous protocol.

In short, block is your friend in this case, MsSonnetMarwood. I recommend its use as your considerable insight can be used more profitably to help others on this board

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ORIGINAL: ShivaTS

I read a post and a Mistress mentioned she was working with a damaged sub. That got me thinking about my own "damage" and would like to try to work through it, myself. I didnt really realise this till a Mistress messeged me saying I was under consideration and in the end rejected me for my limits. I am very shaken one because she rejected me and two, because I would be terrified to be under the grip of a domme again. The compulsion to serve is so deep that I have begun a regiment to better myself so I am more pleasing to a Master/Mistress and to abolish my limits that I have created. In truth, a Mistress is a hard limit for me at this point. Im not looking for "go see a shrink". I would like real suggestions.

What are your experiences in working with subs/slaves that have been scared emotionally and what has worked for you in fixing that?

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ORIGINAL: SimplyV

I guess you could say I work with damaged subs. Though if they read this I will deny saying that. :)

I don't like to think of people as damaged. For me.. its destructive thinking. Everyone has baggage and things that set them off or limits.. or things they don't like.. things they do like.. For me.. calling yourself "damaged" is much like someone with one leg saying they're a worthless cripple.

Wounds of any kind take time to heal. Much like learning to "walk" or adjusting to losing a limb, emotional wounds take time to heal and adjust. In time, the pain will fade, but there may always be remaining scars. But unlike losing a limb, you can grow your heart back. You can grow your pride back. You can be whole again. But it may take a lot of time.. and a lot of work.. and a lot of patience.

Find someone you can talk to.. who has been through something similar.. who you also respect who they've become (if they haven't healed from it themselves they won't be able to help you). They should be able to help guide you and help you understand your emotions, desires, angers, fears.

Seeking help is the first step to finding it.

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ORIGINAL: mons

hi

i am working with a submissve who is so damage i do not think i can bring him back out of his terror. that is a strong word but that is what it is. when i at my end and ready to say that is all if can do he senses this and ask me what i thought of what we spoke of last night and he is back and i do care for him but i told him he needs to go and get thehelp i can not help him, you see he was new and he went to a domme and he trust her and she tie him up so tie himeven as a big guy could not get aways i wrote this in another post, but she raped him with all thing that she could she had him for sometime. he was injure and shocked he did not tell anyone until he told me. so now this man who could had and may still be a good submissve but he is to darn scare we been talking for 2 years now and it has taken him this long to began to think of us in the domme submissive way, yes i understand he should had be careful but he did not know, so now i am working with him again we talk he can not even talk about himself about sex he closes down he was abuse as a child too, i wrote on another thread MISSTER WHEN TO FAR i know to many i was over reacting to this post but it hit home and i do say sorry. but since i know someone who was abuse by aa make believe domme it was hard. he now not the same as before he scare and that is hard for men to deal with, i am at the end of what i can do for him by i do not want to stop speaking with him or trying to help him i want him to open up but two years is long i have other slaves but we have so much on common we can talk about all things if anyone has any ideal i do not want him as my submissve anymore but i do want him to be help some how

with greeting

mons

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ORIGINAL: LeatherBentOne