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michaelGA -> RE: replies and profiles (2/17/2006 10:12:25 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Real0ne
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ORIGINAL: MysticalPhoenix
I fail to see why the fact that someone sends me an email obligates me to respond. I've been using online personal ad sites for a number of years, and I've developed a tough email policy. And, yes, I've had enough responses over the years to calculate statistics.
Phoenix
Um courtesy?
If they followed whatever you put in your profile as far as i am concerned you owe them a response.
If they did not then its whatever you feel like doing with it.
On rare occasions i will write to someone who i am out of their criteria range, but i never expect a response in those cases much less would hold them to one.
However if i wrote to some one and i fall within every thing they ask for you bet i expect a response, regardless if she forgot to list something on her profile or not.
regardless of their spelling or capping etc, if you do not state it on your profile as a no no then you cant legitimately hold it against them.
You at a minimum owe them a "THANKS BUT NO THANKS".
Owe? I OWE someone anything for unsolicited email? If that's true, then you need to sit your ass down and start sending a reply, at a minimum "thanks but no thanks" for each piece of junk mail that you get in your mailbox, email too.
Silence IS a response. A response that may be deafening if it's heard all too often, as I suspect the case may be here.
i highlited what i said. Now if i made a profile that specified i wanted every tom dick and harry and that i wanted spam yes that is exactly correct, i would not only feel obligated to respond but i would follow thru and respond.
Are you sure you read my post correctly? because i do not understand how spam entered into this as i hughlighted above the statement that i made to me clearly shows i was not talking about a spam. i was talking about legitimate email.
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ORIGINAL: Real0ne
Finally what qualifies "you" to be the final judge and jury on this?
Thems that pays the bills, makes the rules.
No one here is under ANY obligation to answer ANY email, no matter how you may feel about the matter. Nothing is owed to a person just because they sent you email.
Is it polite to send a response? Yes. Is it required? No.
XI
Legal obligation? Of course not.
TOS obligation? Of course not.
Ethical obligation? Yes.
Does obligation = required? NO there are more variations to obligation.
However required does = obligation
Apparently people do not know or understand the difference.
There is another thread somewhere about literacy and education in the us i found quite interesting.
Remember before the flames start flying, i always restrict my responses to "legitimate email". """ONLY""" Anyone who has read any of my posts can see this over and over again.
What is defined as legitimate email?
Legitimate email: that email which conforms to any and all requests made by the recipient. Period.
Not spam.
Not Wankers.
Not 1 liners
Not "ANYTHING" that is outside of the recipients requests
i think it is interesting in these kinds of discussions how those who are talking about things from an ethical position are never correctly understood are always responded to by those who approach it from a legal stand point.
Then like some right to liberty is being trampled all the Judge Dredd(ess)'s scream ""ITS THE LEAW!!!!" i have that right, you do not have that right. yeh yeh yeh...
This isnt about rules!
When i speak of these things i am always talking about it from an ethical stand point. i try to keep legal out of my life as much as possible as it is such a great romance destroyer.
i was in one relationship where i literally needed a new york lawyer sitting on my shoulder just to go thru daily life with that woman, it lasted 6 months attorneys ready to do battle at a moments notice and i will never go thru that crap again.
So i agree and have said it many times "it is a courtesy to respond", and it is also an obligation from an "ethical" standpoint to at least practice reciprocity.
Someone had the "courtesy" to respond to "YOUR" profile the very least a recipient can do with those "legitimate" emails is to give them a thanks but no thanks and show them the "RESPECT" they "DESERVE" for following your directions!!!!!
How can anyone have respect for a recipient who thinks so little of anothers efforts that they do not even bother to extend to them reciprocity and what used to be called "common" courtesy? Which like many things that were common in times past are no longer common!!! Interested or not.
At least give those who make the effort to provide you with everything you requested a reason to continue making the effort by sending them away half happy with a cancellation note rather than ignoring them and continuing to fuel the constant animosity that always ensues from this kind of "UNDESERVED", "DISRESPECTFUL", "INCONSIDERATE" "RUDENESS"!
Then to put the cherry on top when male subs come on here to complain about how crappy they are being treated by these people are they are accused of whining, only to see thread after thread on this forum about people "LEGITIMATELY" complaining about those of you who act in this manner.
Did it ever occur to anyone that they are the problem rather than part of the solution.
you are creating your own problems and frankly why the cm moderators do not openly represent this site in a more positive manner by championing and putting in plugs and reminders for its members to at least practice email courtesy just blows me away!!!! (mail controls are on another thread!)
Look at the response above! It gives the impression they sanction this kind of behavior.
So there is a heads up, on those who run to whats "legal" versus those who run to whats ethically correct.
When all else fails and ethics break down, like water, it seeks the lowest levels, and there is where we find the law. Its all in where people "choose" to place there standards.
Frankly everyone i think it behooves you all to pay attention to who on these threads jump into the "legal" aspects or the "rule" book versus those who view things in an ethical or let the flames begin, a moral standpoint which is yet a higher standard than ethics. (i am an atheist btw)
The difference should be obvious: if you want a fair shake from those jumping on the legal bandwagon you will only get it thru a judge, however those jumping on the ethical bandwagon there is no need for a hearing or a judge.
Food for thought
(generic you)
btw: any dommes that are perusing my posts that i have written to and you responded back with a thanks but no thanks, i have the utmost respect for you, and you know who you are because i wrote back and told you so! i stand by what i said that you are a "credit" to this lifestyle and humanity! congrats!
and here, i was worried that "i" pissed people off...LOL
if everyone here responded to every single email, no matter how long or short the response is, then nobody would be able to actually find, much less, get to know those they are actually seeking.
here's a clue...if they don't respond...odds are...they're NOT INTERESTED
**picks up soapbox and scurries away from the dead horse before getting hit himself**
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