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finding a mistress - 6/3/2009 11:51:20 AM   
saint44425


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how does one go about finding a mistress?  There is not an active BDSM community around where I live (Youngstown) but I am sure there must be a mistress around somewhere.  Please contact me with some suggestions
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RE: finding a mistress - 6/3/2009 11:56:43 AM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		If you are looking for daytime play only... it may be a bit harder to find.  Guys who can only play during the day, tend to have a wife in the night.  It doesn't matter where you live.

Other than that, you are on a web site filled with dominant's and kinky people.  You might make your profile a bit better by filling it out more than a short paragraph.  Go to a bigger town for a munch...



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RE: finding a mistress - 6/3/2009 11:58:34 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		How about not looking for a "MISTRESS" and looking for a dominant woman?  If you want to play, say so.  If you want to hook up, go ahead and be HONEST about it.

Ohio is rife with perversity.  Trust me on this.  Google BDSM in Ohio and see how many hits you get.

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RE: finding a mistress - 6/3/2009 12:22:32 PM   
DominaAmy925


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quote:

ORIGINAL: saint44425


how does one go about finding a mistress?  There is not an active BDSM community around where I live (Youngstown) but I am sure there must be a mistress around somewhere.  Please contact me with some suggestions



"looking for a domme or female switch for occasional spanking fun.  Live in the greater Youngstown Oh area.  Free to play during the day.  "
This is what your porfile states. Do you want a Domme or a play mate???? You need to tell a little bit more about what you want. Not Sure about Youngstown, but Columbus has a lot to offer.If your willing to travel.

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RE: finding a mistress - 6/3/2009 12:34:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DominaAmy925
Columbus has a lot to offer.

OMG yes.


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RE: finding a mistress - 6/3/2009 1:15:26 PM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		look for real people dont bother with websites. there are too many fakes around
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RE: finding a mistress - 6/3/2009 4:57:02 PM   
Politesub53


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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

look for real people dont bother with websites. there are too many fakes around
kevin



Kevin, have you ever considered the link between being unable to find anyone, and your constant negative posts ?  I really mean this in a constructive way. If what you write here doesnt appeal to Dominat Ladies, you wont either.

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RE: finding a mistress - 6/3/2009 4:59:04 PM   
Politesub53


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quote:

ORIGINAL: saint44425


how does one go about finding a mistress?  There is not an active BDSM community around where I live (Youngstown) but I am sure there must be a mistress around somewhere.  Please contact me with some suggestions



You could try and use the forums a bit more. Maybe someone in your area will spot you, and find you interesting.

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RE: finding a mistress - 6/3/2009 6:56:42 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		1. Craigslist.

2. Find a vanilla woman and try to convert her.


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RE: finding a mistress - 6/3/2009 7:13:17 PM   
DianeB269


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RE: finding a mistress - 6/3/2009 7:38:10 PM   
MistressDolly


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quote:

ORIGINAL: saint44425


how does one go about finding a mistress?  There is not an active BDSM community around where I live (Youngstown) but I am sure there must be a mistress around somewhere.  Please contact me with some suggestions



Consider joining a vanilla site and write subtle hints in your profile which would indicate you're submissive, e.g., old-fashioned chivalric, attentive, love to pamper, etc.

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RE: finding a mistress - 6/3/2009 10:30:21 PM   
GreedyTop


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Politesub53

quote:

ORIGINAL: saint44425


how does one go about finding a mistress?  There is not an active BDSM community around where I live (Youngstown) but I am sure there must be a mistress around somewhere.  Please contact me with some suggestions



You could try and use the forums a bit more. Maybe someone in your area will spot you, and find you interesting.


Thank you, Polite... you said it so much more mod-friendly that I could have (the name Polite suits :)  )


OP:  Youngstown is NOT a wasteland, from what I know of it (and it's been probably 10 yrs since I was last there). 
As other have said... be more to the point in what you are searching for, and it certainly helps if you are willing to travel, even if to meet halfway.


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RE: finding a mistress - 6/3/2009 10:36:14 PM   
GYPZYQUEEN


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Status: offline 		I think you are looking for a kink play partner..?or BDSM lite?

or if it is a switch then you must want to EXPLORE..great..
You need to put more in your profile( we all started somewhere)
BE specific..such as  if I may..

eg)Looking for a casual but on-going partner for BDSM lite...explorations..
or
Looking for casual get togethers in which to explore some BDSM fantasy( no strings)

THEN add WHY you like spanking..the sensations? the feeling of submitting? or what else you may like to explore or how you wish to serve a MISTRESS if you indeed do..
how will you enhance her life???

There is alt.com//lavalife....fetlife...etc as well..dating sites liek PLenty of FISH
by stating what you seeking  and you are  partly there...
you will find someone

attending events helps...
also the forums offer a lot of info to help in your journey

BEST of luck
oh and tell if you are married too

GQ

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RE: finding a mistress - 6/4/2009 6:55:00 AM   
frankieboy52


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Status: offline 		Youngstown?????..cross the river my friend into Pittsburgh but i would suggest writing a thoughtful e-mail to a Domina and state that you are new to this.Don't tell her what you want..tell her how you can improve her life or if it is just only a play thing,say so but with respect.

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RE: finding a mistress - 6/4/2009 2:18:00 PM   
CatdeMedici


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Status: offline 		Don't hide anything and be sure to be open about your real life situation.

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RE: finding a mistress - 6/4/2009 3:55:11 PM   
MsFlutter


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

1. Craigslist.

2. Find a vanilla woman and try to convert her.



3. Send her to Steven so he can convert her for you and pray you get her back LOL

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RE: finding a mistress - 6/4/2009 3:56:34 PM   
sirsholly


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsFlutter

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

1. Craigslist.

2. Find a vanilla woman and try to convert her.



3. Send her to Steven so he can convert her for you and pray you get her back LOL
Steven is too HAWT.......she'll never return


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RE: finding a mistress - 6/5/2009 11:35:55 PM   
PopcornAC


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Status: offline 		Hello, Ma'am's. I am a 26/ sub male from kansas with the same problem. I came to this site to find a Mistress in the area. Unfortunately there arent that many people around here that are open to the idea. And being in KANSAS there arent very many people around that would ADMIT to being open to that idea.

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RE: finding a mistress - 6/6/2009 1:10:57 AM   
LadyPact


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Hello, Ma'am's. I am a 26/ sub male from kansas with the same problem. I came to this site to find a Mistress in the area. Unfortunately there arent that many people around here that are open to the idea. And being in KANSAS there arent very many people around that would ADMIT to being open to that idea.


After clip being there for the last couple of months, I can assure you that this is not true.  There are definitely tops in KS.  I can't say I was impressed with some folks, but there are tops, just the same.


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RE: finding a mistress - 6/6/2009 7:58:43 AM   
slavekal


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Status: offline 		Place good personal ads/profiles on a variety of sites.  use phone and print and internet.  Answer ads/profiles.  Investigate fetish parties/events that are near you.  Try subtle means to gauge the Mistress potential of women you meet in vanilla circumstances.

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