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What is online Domination? - 2/9/2006 4:12:05 PM

bear372217355

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How do you do it?

Is there such a thing as a Pro online Domme?

Can a Domme make money online?

And if they do, is it good money?

I'm sure these aren't new questions, but I just had to ask.

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RE: What is online Domination? - 2/9/2006 4:31:37 PM

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How do you do it?

Set up a profile as a novice female slave and accept thje first offer you get online to be their slave- see what happens then.

Mostly it's a lot of ** and :: and typing out scenes and telling someone to go do things offline and having them do them.

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Is there such a thing as a Pro online Domme?

Yes.

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Can a Domme make money online?

Anyone can make money online if they know how.

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And if they do, is it good money?

Good enough for what?

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RE: What is online Domination? - 2/9/2006 4:34:00 PM

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I've talked to people online who have a purely online D/s relationship and they seem very sincere about it.

I talked to my Master online for about 11 months before we actually met (we are living together in Master/slave relationship now and are married)...when we were just chatting, He said it was pointless to do or ask of me things that he would do and ask of me when we came together. We did however do some things together via video cam etc, it was mostly to proove i was what i said i was and he was what he said he was. Being together physically however.....well there is no substitute for being in the same room as someone else.

How to Dominate someone online....ummm...i think it would be difficult..you hear so many bad stories that far outway the good ones.

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RE: What is online Domination? - 2/9/2006 8:33:41 PM

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i don't understand it . . . i don't know how a Dominant can truly dominate with only an online forum. ask me to punish myself? i will fall down laughing . . . it simply does not appeal to me. perhaps others have success stories.

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RE: What is online Domination? - 2/9/2006 9:04:59 PM

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i don't understand it . . . i don't know how a Dominant can truly dominate with only an online forum. ask me to punish myself? i will fall down laughing . . . it simply does not appeal to me. perhaps others have success stories.

Well punishment isn't supposed to be appealing.

There's a large difference between "Go paddle yourself 15 times" and "You must kneel and reflect for an extra half hour a day on yourself." If you can give a sub an order to do something, it doesn't really matter if they are inches away or in another state. There tends to be a qualitative understanding that is different, but the obedience should be the same.

While cyber relationships are of a completely different type than offline relationship, they certainly have merit and connection.

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RE: What is online Domination? - 2/9/2006 10:37:24 PM

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[/quote]
Well punishment isn't supposed to be appealing.

There's a large difference between "Go paddle yourself 15 times" and "You must kneel and reflect for an extra half hour a day on yourself." If you can give a sub an order to do something, it doesn't really matter if they are inches away or in another state. There tends to be a qualitative understanding that is different, but the obedience should be the same.

While cyber relationships are of a completely different type than offline relationship, they certainly have merit and connection.
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i agree. i was in an "online" D/s relationship for several years. i defended it to the hilt. we did not "cyber", but he did love to hear an orgasm over the phone. i felt submissive to him. i did as he instructed me to do - required reading and writing (no 'rithmetic, however). Punishing myself? i had to kneel on rice for 1/2 an hour and that was no fun. But i did do it - my heart was in the right place. i do not discredit those who are in sincere online relationships (i have online friends whom i've never met and do still consider them friends).

HOWEVER,

Now i am in a long term in-person relationship and there is no comparison. There are things a girl simply can not do when online. As most, if not all, will agree, nothing can compare to see the look on Master's face when pleased, disappointed, proud, whichever. A girl can not feel the sting of a whip, nor can she be pushed to do other unmentionables.

And yet...when he is traveling....He can move me like no other even while in a different country. A simple command on the phone, "Cum, slut" has me reeling into orbit.

So.....people do what they do. Is online real? It can be...sort of. All too often however it is an effort at role playing. That is a pity for those who are actually seeking sincerity. And to LuckyAlbatross - - thanks for the laugh, re: setting up a novice profile. Ugh. i did that when "owned" by my "online Master". He contacted me.....the disguised me...told me he owned nobody and was looking for a new girl to mold. Oh yeah, and he was in an IM with the actual me at the same time.... But...that's another story and a lifetime ago.

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RE: What is online Domination? - 2/10/2006 2:38:32 PM

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I only ask this out of curiousity. A co-worker mentioned running into a web site that had pro online Dommes. I had never heard of pro online Dommes, pro Dommes, yes, but I was not aware there was a market for online Domination.

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Good enough for what?

To live on?

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RE: What is online Domination? - 2/11/2006 1:12:55 AM

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I don't indulge in it with strangers. Call me suspicious, untrusting or whatever, but domination is something that begins with *eye contact*.... I don't get off on the possibility she may be doing as I command, I want her doing whatever because she truly has no choice; that I'm right there ensuring all is done to my satisfaction and that she really does know there's consequences, good and bad (for her), depending how she performs or obeys etc. It has to be *real* for me to enjoy....

That said, I have done *some* online domination with subs I've dommed r/l but was temporarily separated from at that time. But there was still nothing as deep or tacky as orgasm control or punishment etc....

The thing about a "pro online dom/me" is that there's no guarantee they're who or what they say. A few hours research around a BDSM site will give anyone enough "buzz words" or terms to become "Much Mighty Mistress" to any gullible fool who has more dollars than sense. I know of one sub who worked as a pro domme - r/l, not online. She literally was wearing a hat to make a buck but I think any sub who might've pushed her in a dynamic sense would've seen her true self. But paying male subs are there to "get done" physically, they're not gonna spoil that for themselves.... Yet when I looked her in the eyes r/l, there was no Domme there!

I can't help thinking you're looking for a new career from the safety of your own home. There's a mighty lot of desperate male subs out there.... As long as the person in the mirror doesn't bug you - I suppose....

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RE: What is online Domination? - 2/11/2006 2:50:40 AM

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I can't help thinking you're looking for a new career from the safety of your own home. There's a mighty lot of desperate male subs out there.... As long as the person in the mirror doesn't bug you - I suppose....

Focus.

Hey if I didn't already love what I do for a living, I would give it some thought, but for me, as always curiousity has me saying hmmmm.

Here's the deal. I'm arrogant bordering on an ego-maniacal asshole, in fact Asshole is my first name. I rarely tell someone I can do something usless I can, I have a fear of failure, so I don't fail. If someone asks me a question that I can not answer, I look for the answer. Even if I never meet this person again, they have planted a seed of thought. That is why I ask so many "silly" questions.

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RE: What is online Domination? - 2/11/2006 4:21:24 AM

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Hey if I didn't already love what I do for a living, I would give it some thought, but for me, as always curiousity has me saying hmmmm.

Here's the deal. I'm arrogant bordering on an ego-maniacal asshole, in fact Asshole is my first name. I rarely tell someone I can do something usless I can, I have a fear of failure, so I don't fail. If someone asks me a question that I can not answer, I look for the answer. Even if I never meet this person again, they have planted a seed of thought. That is why I ask so many "silly" questions.

"Silly" is not asking when you want or need to know....

Failing is a different matter. When I come across a sub with a fear of failure (most of them, actually), you just know I'm gonna set her a task or two she can't possibly achieve - for a reason! While a commendable attitude, it can also be unrealistic; like the pursuit of perfection.

My reasoning is simple.... Success of failure of any given task is often not the point of the exercise. What I'm really tasking her to do is the best she can; it's about *trying* - for *ME* initially, and ultimately for herself, too!

I'm not buying your "silly questions" comment, you're very capable of self-education - not many are....

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RE: What is online Domination? - 2/11/2006 7:05:36 AM

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I hope I am allowed to post links here, because one is necessary.

I belong to this virtual world:- http://www.secondlife.com

It is impossible to describe, but the website will show you something. There is a very large and thriving BDSM community there, including large areas devoted to Gorean themes.

The site uses avatars, and the content is created by the inhabitants with the tools provided. So you can buy BDSM equiment, and the objects can be scripted so as to make your avatar perform actions.

I have found that while scenes remain text based, by starting them with animations, or continuing the animations throughout, you can heighten the experience. My online submissive had never experienced subspace through real life activities, but did so once in an 'inworld' situation.

The trappings of the 3d world provide a sense of place and heighten the interactivity.

By spending time in this world, and by using phone and Yahoo as well, it is possible to be able to exert a pretty good control, and to become closer than one might expect. Although I did not collar her until the end of March, my submissive and I are just coming up to the first anniversary of the day she came under my control.

Hurried PS: For those who read this posting on the day it was posted, be aware that the site is going to be down for maintenance for three hours this afternoon.

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RE: What is online Domination? - 2/11/2006 12:57:56 PM

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Being in an on-line D/s relationship requires an amazing degree of trust, truth and honesty. Durning that time in my life, if my Master told me to do something it simply did not cross my mind not to do as instructed..and he knew it. He had to trust me to do whatever it was he wanted, and in return i learned enough about him (and myself) to fill a book (and yes, i trusted that he was honest, and honorable and as good was his word.

Would i do it again? probably not, but it was an extra special time in my life, and for a time the only way we could "be" together.

No, it's not as good as being touch to touch, breath to breath, but if you haven't tried it, please don't condemn those of us who went down that particular path.

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