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labtec19 -> Is ok to ask just who you are ? (2/9/2006 8:27:02 PM)
If one is dominate! Then you are always just that! Not sure where I am going. Just colour me confused.

MHOO314 -> RE: Is ok to ask just who you are ? (2/9/2006 8:28:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: labtec19 If one is dominate! Then you are always just that! Not sure where I am going. Just colour me confused. Share the colours you see and let us see if we can help--

michaelGA -> RE: Is ok to ask just who you are ? (2/9/2006 8:32:52 PM)
color me grey, as i am not sure about who i am these days...LOL

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Is ok to ask just who you are ? (2/9/2006 9:02:19 PM)
I have no clue. Except the only way to know what a person consider their orientation to be is to ask them.

RiotGirl -> RE: Is ok to ask just who you are ? (2/9/2006 9:21:37 PM)
sure i ask "who are you?" Especially when wierd ppl IM me. Like just now some wierd person said "hey honey" and i'm like "who are you?" he ignores the question and asks if i want to chat. So i replied with "sure as soon as i can figure out who you are and why you called me honey" (told me it was cos i was on his buddy list) So i tried to get my point across with "so should i call you asshole as you're on my buddy list? It'd be abit rude and presumptious wouldnt it?" The dweeb is still IMing me. point being, ya can say anything. Especially "who are you" i say it alot when odd ppl IM me

slavejali -> RE: Is ok to ask just who you are ? (2/9/2006 9:36:25 PM)
Color me crimson

labtec19 -> RE: Is ok to ask just who you are ? (2/9/2006 9:38:23 PM)
Sorry, I should have defined the question. How can one submissive affect one's being. To question everything about who I am, she has changed everything!. Tonight, is just a Maudlin evening.

SimplyV -> RE: Is ok to ask just who you are ? (2/9/2006 9:43:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: labtec19 If one is dominate! Then you are always just that! Not sure where I am going. Just colour me confused. If one is what? then dominate? I'm confused. Generally I'm pretty dominant, and yet submissive at times. It all just depends on who I'm with and what we're doing. But I suppose that only confuses you more.

SimplyV -> RE: Is ok to ask just who you are ? (2/9/2006 9:45:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: labtec19 Sorry, I should have defined the question. How can one submissive affect one's being. To question everything about who I am, she has changed everything!. Tonight, is just a Maudlin evening. People affect us all the time. Exactly what are we talking about? Cuz this sounds like a juicy mind-blowing life change.

labtec19 -> RE: Is ok to ask just who you are ? (2/9/2006 10:06:54 PM)
One final response, The relationship never started, she always craved a long distant lover. Yes, they have met. So whatever I did was not enough. I tried , weekends in log cabins, to walks on mountain tops, from the begining I simply loved her. I think that was my mistake. I just should have looked at her as a play partner. God, it hurts!!! But, time will heal things. I don't want replies, just need to unburden myself. I ache for her even now. She know's who she is and I will ache for her the rest of my life! Frank

MHOO314 -> RE: Is ok to ask just who you are ? (2/10/2006 6:32:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: labtec19 One final response, The relationship never started, she always craved a long distant lover. Yes, they have met. So whatever I did was not enough. I tried , weekends in log cabins, to walks on mountain tops, from the begining I simply loved her. I think that was my mistake. I just should have looked at her as a play partner. God, it hurts!!! But, time will heal things. I don't want replies, just need to unburden myself. I ache for her even now. She know's who she is and I will ache for her the rest of my life! Frank ahhh the colour of lost love---now the picture becomes clearer---just because One is Dominant does not preclude them from feelings and emotions--you will find a thread here that debates love and collaring, love and the dynamic---it happens--and yes it hurts like hell--but do not forsake who You are---life is too short--colour it beautiful but a memory--and be open to something new--

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Is ok to ask just who you are ? (2/10/2006 6:35:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: labtec19 Sorry, I should have defined the question. How can one submissive affect one's being. To question everything about who I am, she has changed everything!. Tonight, is just a Maudlin evening. People are weird like that. We affect eachother. Orientation notwithstanding.

LadiesBladewing -> RE: Is ok to ask just who you are ? (2/10/2006 2:04:28 PM)
Everything that we experience colors our life, and everything that we come in contact with has the possibility of changing our perspective on ourselves and our existence --the way that we interact with the Universe and with ourselves. It is perfectly appropriate to ask yourself, regularly and often, who you are and why you are making the choices that you are and living the way that you are. I ask myself those questions time and time again throughout the day, as new interactions and new information are integrated in my world-view. No reason to be maudelin about it... it's a healthy way of staying real with oneself. Look at what you've learned (not about what's left you disillusioned -- but about what has caused you to see the world through new eyes). Take what was good, cherish it, and let go of what didn't work as a learning experience. Lady Zephyr quote: ORIGINAL: labtec19 Sorry, I should have defined the question. How can one submissive affect one's being. To question everything about who I am, she has changed everything!. Tonight, is just a Maudlin evening.

veronicaofML -> RE: Is ok to ask just who you are ? (2/10/2006 2:12:08 PM)
People are weird like that. We affect eachother. Orientation notwithstanding. LA ========= ohhhh kaaaayyyyyyy lemme TRY to grasp that. we affect each other? pray tell...how? seriously. "I" try to be my own man...w/o anyone influencing who i am or what i am about...i do as i was taught and raised TO BE. i have TRIED to be the same person i was at 18... self sufficient...not needing anyone...able to make my own decisions and stand by it...right OR wrong. its WHAT i was taught by my elders AND boot camp. SO please? is something going on between other people "I" am still yet unaware? thank you LA

Littlepita -> RE: Is ok to ask just who you are ? (2/10/2006 2:22:23 PM)
I'm sorry for your pain labtec19. Don't become cynical about love though. It is worth it even if it doesn't last.

seaturtle50 -> RE: Is ok to ask just who you are ? (2/10/2006 4:34:39 PM)
Nothing worse than walkin around in love - with no girl! <except maybe a biker with no bike> ;-) Just remember - that a love unrequited - is still a love in the end. st50

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Is ok to ask just who you are ? (2/10/2006 6:26:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: veronicaofML please? is something going on between other people "I" am still yet unaware? thank you LA Veronic in the thread about subspace you said you envied others and that you wished you could experience what others could. That's an example of how other people and their experiences affect you.

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