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Jeptha -> RE: Eternal Honeymoon (6/6/2009 8:35:30 PM)
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ORIGINAL: GYPZYQUEEN
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ORIGINAL: WiseCracknSadist
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The reason I prefer poly and Dom/sub relationships is because I love the way a woman treats you during the honeymoon stage. They're always so sweet and accomodating, willing to do anything for you.
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ok soooooooo
IN order for you to have an eternal honey moon you NEED A NEW woman?? every so often for that accomodating feeling..when it is NEW..FRESH??
I do disagree with WiseCracknSadist on the particulars there. I think relationships stay just as sweet as they grow.
But, take my first serious relationship. It was lovely for two years, then I ended it. I ended it because we were like a doddering old, sweet couple, and we were only 22.
I wasn't ready to settle down, and I felt like we needed new challenges and new growth. And I thought we'd accomplish that more apart then together. I think I've been right.
Not that everybody has to do it that way, though. Lots of people stay together and take on new things and grow together, etc.quote:
sooo then this is NOT POLY
as in poly amourous( love)
it is POLYFUCKERY
kind of like trading the shoes in...when they are scuffed I guess
I'm sure WiseCracknSadist can answer for himself, but mine has been more a pattern of what they call 'serial monogamy'... relationships that are monogamous and happy and productive, but last for only 1 or 2 or 3 years.
After that first relationship, one of the considerations that I made was that what would determine the success of a relationship for me was the quality of it, not the duration of it.
I don't know if I could do poly (speaking here of having two partners myself), but I'm curious about the possibility. I think that if my partner were completely on board with the idea that we could make it work. But I have no practical experience there.
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IN order to have an eternal honeymoon for your life then
you'll need what?? 57 women yet...60??
Wait...let me absorb that idea for a moment. 57...or 60.
Ok.
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so will you tell them??
Now, yes, definitely. But there was a time when I was grappling with not marching in step with what seemed like the universal ideal, the holy grail of the "long term relationship". Back then, for a while, I'm afraid I was not as direct about it.
I mean - I wouldn't be completely obtuse about it, either; even back then I had a lotta ideas about relationships, and I would discuss them.
But I don't think I spelled it out as clearly as I do now.
And, in a way I still do want "long term relationships"; if you can grant that 1 or 2 or 3 years (plus being friends after, probably for life) is long... (...and maybe I do want longer, even, if it feels right. I'm not ruling out that possibility. But I have to recognize that there's a definite pattern established, along with a certain frame of mind, etc.)
Now I do bring up what I've observed my pattern to be to any prospective mates at the outset.
But it did take a little maturing process to get there.
Now I think it must be a little easier because of all the discussion out there. Everybody and their cat is poly this-or-that, so the discussion probably has to come up for anyone and everyone about what their relationship goals and ideals are.
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