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AgreeableOne -> Am I in the right place ? (6/5/2009 12:21:54 AM)
Greetings all. I am new to the lifestyle. I've known all my life I am submissive to strong female personalities and had the pleasure recently of having a vanilla relationship evolve into a degree of female domination in the final year of a 5 yr relationship. In that last year she incorporated things like : having me avoid eye contact in certain situations, correction of my grammer and manners, staying silent in the first hour of the AM, waiting on her, and making my number one goal to please her in every capacity of my being, daily routine life as well as sexually. Unfortunately for me, she was / is a troubled woman : depressed, mixing medications, irrational, unpredictable, and generally very very unstable. We recently parted and now, having had a taste of that experience, I don't know how I could ever have anything but that type relationship. I have a serious, deep rooted need and respect for female authority. I am not seeking abuse from a female. I wouldn't want to be anally raped, electrocuted, ball tortured or cuckholded among other things. I'm not a sissy and if an intruder came into my Domina's home, I assure you he would be running the other direction if I got my hands on him. I am a spirit in need of a kindred who is demanding, controlling, strict, and strong willed. The two ideas that are most life and sexually energizing for me are A.) pleasing a loving, yet highly demanding partner who has extremely high standards. B.) being disciplined when SHE thinks it is required (not when I desire it). Discipline to me would be spanking and a degree of humiliation. I might be open to more extreme discipline with proper trust and knowing it pleased a partner... but things like being peed on or abused...well that just isn't in my fiber at all. Am I describing submissivness? What the hell am I ? Did I make a wrong turn at Albuquerque ?

LovingMistress45 -> RE: Am I in the right place ? (6/5/2009 4:46:11 AM)
Yes, you are in the right place. And yes you are descibing submissiveness. Good luck on your search.

StoneFox -> RE: Am I in the right place ? (6/5/2009 4:51:56 AM)
You sound like a sub to me :) Good luck in your search !

dreamerdreaming -> RE: Am I in the right place ? (6/5/2009 6:19:08 AM)
Yes, you are submissive. It is a yummy, sweet, good thing! Embrace it! Enjoy! There is a great deal of strength, nobility and beauty in submission. Be proud of your willing submission and obedience- not ashamed.

onlyfreelycaged -> RE: Am I in the right place ? (6/5/2009 11:12:44 AM)
quote: Users viewing this topic: onlyfreelycaged yes, you're in the right place.. I think that you could mix what you said here into your profile or into a journal entry (imho)

subtlebutterfly -> RE: Am I in the right place ? (6/5/2009 11:34:25 AM)
are you in the right place? probably not..if you need to ask[8\|]

sirsholly -> RE: Am I in the right place ? (6/5/2009 11:40:55 AM)
welcome to CollarMe! It sounds like you are in the right place. Relax and have fun!!

MistressDolly -> RE: Am I in the right place ? (6/5/2009 11:56:11 AM)
And keep posting on the boards; you'll get noticed more. (But, I didn't have to tell you that, did I?) *wink

FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: Am I in the right place ? (6/5/2009 2:10:56 PM)
Welcome to the forums, and hope you stay a while. M

ShaktiSama -> RE: Am I in the right place ? (6/5/2009 3:18:10 PM)
Sounds like you're a service-oriented, heterosexual masculine submissive. Not a masochist per se, although you may have fantasies of that sort that you're shy about judging by your OP. The relationship you've experienced in the past seemed to involve light protocol: "speech restrictions" and "eye contact restrictions", possibly. You should not have too much trouble finding a dominant woman. This place is as good as any to look. Welcome to the forums! :)

aidan -> RE: Am I in the right place ? (6/5/2009 3:25:05 PM)
Yeah duder, this is the happenin' place to be. Seems you have a lot of qualities that many women here would like, since you're slightly different than the normal crowd. There's a lot of Dommes on this board and the site in general who don't like Sadomasochism and/or feminization play, and it seems they're a little hard-pressed to find partners at times. So good on ya for making the plunge. Have fun!

MaamJay -> RE: Am I in the right place ? (6/5/2009 6:07:44 PM)
Yes OP you are in the right place here as a male sub, just wish you lived in My home country LOL! As aiden said, there are plenty of loving Dommes who would love to find a service-oriented submissive with a strong drive to be obedient and who isn't hung up on his own fetishes and desires. Respecting your minimal experience so far, there are things you said you wouldn't want to do which you MAY find, within the right relationship, you might change your mind on. For eg, I wouldn't "anally rape" anyone, but I do love to do tender, loving and erotic assplay with a boy, and once he's ready physically and mentally, My strapon and I (and he!) have a great time! Similarly, as I don't see a golden shower as humiliating or torturous but as an incredible act of intimacy, I'd want a boy who would be open to that prospect after that intimacy has developed between us and with due discussion about how it might be performed. I'm basically saying, yes, there will be some activities that are a complete "never" (scat is one for Me for eg), but try to be open-minded about as many as possible, which will increase your chances of finding a compatible partner. Hang around the boards, there's a lot to learn, and post regularly ... also increases your chances of being noticed! Good luck! (and have you ever thought about emigrating to Australia? [;)]) Maam Jay aka violet[A]

AgreeableOne -> RE: Am I in the right place ? (6/5/2009 6:32:53 PM)
Well thanks to each an every Domina for your replies as well as my fellow submissives. Thank you ! In having browsed the forums prior to posting and now having gotten actual feedback, I must say, you are all very hospitable and kind to each other and newcomers. Much respect to all of you. I feel comfortable is posting here and I'm glad to see there is regular participation. Now that I know I am in the right place, I look forward to contributing on the forums. I have some philospohical type questions / thoughts that I'd like to present when the timing is right. I honestly wasn't sure what kind of feedback I'd get simply because my kinks don't appear to be as extreme as what I have been reading. I thought I might get a laugh or two at being too vanilla. I'm glad you were all able to sense that I have really powerful need to please and obey a rightful female authority. It's amazing to me to know I've found an organized group of people with whom to share these powerfully intimate thoughts! Awesome !!

Seekerfind -> RE: Am I in the right place ? (6/7/2009 8:47:19 PM)
Agreeable, I just joined yesterday and I never tried femdom. But I'm willing to try some of it, like you I'm also not into many aspects involved with Femdom such as some of the things you mentioned. And I'm glad you're also considering posting about the more philosophical implications of our attraction to domme women. I think about it a lot and look forward to exchange ideas. You're certainly not alone.

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